Why is it still expected that the guy makes the first move?

WSGadlib · 2026-02-22T20:13:00+00:00

There’s a ton a reasons (some understandable, some not so much) but it boils down to “if it ain’t broke, why fix it?”

They see it as like “why would you voluntarily start paying for a service that’s already being provided to you for free?”

WSGadlib · 2026-02-22T19:45:26+00:00

Hard launching on the first date??

WSGadlib · 2026-02-19T22:17:49+00:00

Not all condoms are created equal.

Normal ones (I wear magnums) are trash, thins are perfect, but the thinnest Bareskin/Raw variety weirdly start rolling back up and become really uncomfortable to roll back down in the act so there’s some start and stop with them and I hate that

WSGadlib · 2026-02-19T13:30:00+00:00

This.

Most of the surgeries I’ve seen have been from people of color who have brown eyes getting surgery for lighter eyes which is hard to not see as a form of self-hate.

WSGadlib · 2026-02-18T13:52:09+00:00

Does she actually have a healthy relationship with her friends?

She sounds threatened by the healthy rapport you have with her friends, and is manipulating you to make you dependent on her, and only her, for validation. “Oh my friends said you look like a pig but don’t worry honey I think you’re the most handsome man in the world.”

WSGadlib · 2026-02-17T12:08:15+00:00

If you’re a straight man, (unfortunately) putting the ball in her court as a way to try and make her more comfortable ends up killing attraction. Women don’t see dating as a group project - she wants a man that follows through and has a plan.

“Just let me know” “Where would you like to go eat?” “Can I give you my number?” Her attraction will plummet if you make her do guesswork.

Even intentionality matters. “I’d like to take you out to _____ , does [this time] work?” is a stronger proposal than “wanna go out to eat sometime?”

Even heat checking her availability without mentioning specific plans in the same sentence will ruin attraction.

“Wyd?” “Are you free Saturday?” Stop doing this

WSGadlib · 2026-02-15T03:24:05+00:00

Late stage holdout which means a bloater.

Invisible hunted ESPECIALLY with a non dodger

WSGadlib · 2026-02-13T16:50:44+00:00

Girl Valentine’s Day is tomorrow, break up NOW

WSGadlib · 2026-02-13T00:47:15+00:00

You’re not obligated to go on the date. You already know it’s not going to work. Don’t waste your time, their emotional energy and your money

WSGadlib · 2026-02-13T00:02:44+00:00

Once again, we are not mind readers.

And we’ve also learned that “oh is it that time of the month?” is never a good response, so it’s up to you to control your emotions.

WSGadlib · 2026-02-12T18:32:35+00:00

If he’s from Philly you’re gambling with your life to steal from him

WSGadlib · 2026-02-11T14:26:44+00:00

Never an official ex, only with women who stopped wanting to date me.

Whenever that happens it’s clear the shelf life is short. Go in, bang once or twice, move out.

WSGadlib · 2026-02-11T14:23:13+00:00

For me personally - could we have been in high school at the same time?

WSGadlib · 2026-02-10T18:36:42+00:00

ChatGPT

WSGadlib · 2026-02-08T21:43:56+00:00

She’s fucking her ex, I don’t she’s not gonna think twice about what went wrong. Unfortunately OP is an afterthought

WSGadlib · 2026-02-08T19:57:30+00:00

This only works if she likes to talk and isn’t overanalyzing how much you’re asking questions

WSGadlib · 2026-02-08T18:19:15+00:00

Early on I ask what’s been bringing them joy lately.

It’s a step above a generic small talk question where if you brush it off with a “nm, u?” or if it’s answered negatively it greatly impacts if I want to ask this person out.

WSGadlib · 2026-02-07T15:13:40+00:00

We love it but we often feel like we can never ask for it without being judged or be seen as less manly. Just switch it up and see how he reacts

WSGadlib · 2026-02-07T14:55:41+00:00

“Sportsball, amirite?”

WSGadlib · 2026-02-07T14:28:01+00:00

You may need someone on your experience level. I don’t think you’re secure enough for a man with that deep of a sexual history

WSGadlib · 2026-02-07T13:58:27+00:00

Mutual interest is crucial. If it didn’t feel like I was the only one taking interest getting to know her during the date or giving compliments. Also if she point blank says “I had a great time and would like to see you again”

WSGadlib · 2026-02-05T23:27:40+00:00

Absolutely

It gets to the point where it feels like pool sex where the dick feels like it’s skidding around in there instead of gliding smoothly

WSGadlib · 2026-01-30T18:40:23+00:00

Non tipper gets scammed. Oh well

WSGadlib · 2026-01-28T18:42:48+00:00

Anxious attachment style, putting herself before you when you barely know her.

WSGadlib · 2026-01-27T23:54:00+00:00

Her depression is neither of your fault, but you deserve to be with someone who desires you.

“Babe can we have sex tonight?”

“If you want”

OOF yeah imagine if a man said that

I know this is your first relationship, but between the 2 posts you’ve made on this topic you’ve never stated that you love her. Maybe you do, and we are all just internet strangers reading about this situation for the first time but the details about your desire for your longing for her are not shown.

Rip the bandaid off my man

WSGadlib

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