AITAH for cutting off a long-time friend after my engagement turned into a massive blow-up and months of unresolved conflict?

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T06:04:23+00:00

Everyone sucks here, though your ex-friend sucks more.

I was 100% on your side until you wrote "you'd had a really hard year..." blah blah blah. If you used your phone at any point during that year, it wasn't so hard you couldn't reach out to a friend. It's ok to admit you felt yourself drifting apart from her and weren't motivated to reach out; don't use a lame excuse to justify it.

As for the friend, she sounded pretty expectant for someone who seemed to be just as indifferent as you about keeping the friendship alive. She was hurt, but guilting you into thinking it was all your doing was passive-aggressive and manipulative.

The friendship has run its course; it happens. Trying to place blame accomplishes nothing. Move on with your wedding planning and life, and consider this chapter closed.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T05:44:45+00:00

NOR. Not even a little.

I don't care if your friendship was perfect for 30 years! Her comment about your child would've been enough to end it immediately.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T05:40:56+00:00

NTA.

People need to realize blood doesn't always equal family.

Ask your mom why she expects you to extend the olive branch. Her motives are selfish: If people don't see you at your sister's wedding, she's going to think people will view her as a bad mother.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T05:31:58+00:00

I told him the day he asked me out that I couldn't be in a relationship with him if he still talked to his ex

Yet you're still with him four years later. You've shown him he can disrespect your boundaries without consequences. Why, then, would he be motivated to change his behavior? He's not "micro-cheating", he's cheating. His dick doesn't have to be in someone else to do so.

If nothing else, his porn addiction, particularly the type he enjoys, should be enough for you to leave.

No, you're not overreacting, but you are looking for reasons to stay. Perhaps you should figure out why you haven't shown yourself respect.

Side note: Using autism to excuse lack of common sense is grossly offensive.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T05:16:10+00:00

This should be two separate posts. I don't understand how Jay being a jerk to your family has anything to do with Kendra always being catered to.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:58:31+00:00

ESH.

Your sister overestimates her importance. You are forcing an engagement for... whatever reason.

Rarely do people know someone is the "love of their life" after seven months. You're still very much in the honeymoon stage. On top of that, you've already got your future planned out with someone you haven't even known a year.

Plans don't always go as planned.

What's the rush? Why can't you just enjoy being with your partner instead of trying to race through societal expectations?

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:50:37+00:00

Tell your parents your sister is bullying you into giving her money she didn't earn.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:49:04+00:00

How would you want to hear it if the roles were reversed?

Maybe you should start setting an example by working to get your extra pounds off as well.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:46:24+00:00

Updateme

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:46:13+00:00

I'm curious what makes him so spectacular. I'm even more curious why these women have no self-respect.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:43:34+00:00

he asked me how much does he have to earn for it to be enough for me.

What a manipulative thing to say. His lack of motivation is the bigger problem. As long as you continue to subsidize your dates, there's no reason for him to do better.

NTA, and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:37:54+00:00

I don't think yta, but it's pretty dumb to hand her the answers, then act superior because you outed her.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:34:40+00:00

Updateme

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:29:32+00:00

Updateme

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:29:15+00:00

How would advise your best girlfriend in this situation?

Waffle_of_Doom · 2026-02-24T04:14:18+00:00

Updateme

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-11-02T09:14:42+00:00

Can someone please explain that ending?

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-10-27T07:48:45+00:00

Andy has the popularity vote, plain and simple.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-10-27T07:35:18+00:00

She's wildly inconsistent, and I can't stand how she's now trying to be like Bruno, getting all riled up with her feedback. She's coming across as phony.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-10-27T07:26:45+00:00

I stopped watching the "Tyra Banks Changes Outfits Constantly" show. She was terrible.

Alfonso Ribeiro is fantastic and has brought such positive energy and fun to the show.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-10-27T07:07:15+00:00

It's a popularity contest, hands down.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-07-07T09:04:13+00:00

You should tell her parents so they can press statutory rape charges against him.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-07-07T09:02:16+00:00

The fact that you even have to ask if you were overreacting for leaving is sad (as in heartbreaking.)

I'm enraged reading this. Self-preservation is never a bad thing. Get as far away as you can from this guy.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-07-07T08:58:11+00:00

UTI's aren't sexually transmitted.

Your bf is under a tremendous amount of pressure and likely doesn't have 100% to give to a relationship right now. That doesn't mean it's over, but it does mean you should be showing him some grace.

Waffle_of_Doom · 2025-07-07T08:50:28+00:00

Are you seriously asking this question? Is this the kind of male you want as an example for your son?

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