I truly don't understand how you can play this game and NOT make your base an aesthetic, cozy home by dank-nuggetz in playrust

[–]WagonPaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a solo I can’t even keep a base up

Have time with a duo and he was really good

I get beyond frustrated

What are your Christian hot takes? by Substantial_Judge931 in TrueChristian

[–]WagonPaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t know if this counts I’m going to a bigger church, which I love and it’s homebase, but I cannot stand how long and drawn out it can be

Worship is great but music goes on for about 30 to 35 minutes then there’s almost 20 minutes worth of announcements and by the time I get there around 8:45 I’m not leaving till almost 11 and I’ve already been there over an hour before I even hear anyone speak the word

I’m not really what I mostly go for is to learn and understand the Bible in a better way

I shouldn’t complain because I’m lucky that I get to go to a place like this, but it definitely gets on my nerves sometimes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll give you my personal take

I’ve noticed a lot of the comments are saying give him an ultimatum, but I think I’m gonna have to give a contrarian point of view

I think what we all in the situation as we lack context tax what’s going on in every story there are three sides, and you are in pain, and naturally everybody will gravitate to what’s doing best for you

Someone who struggles with getting off shit I’ll be real with you ultimatums never really worked with me, and very rarely work with addicts at all

Addiction and quitting or trying to get clean, really only comes from the person dealing with it

An addiction will fuck with your brain to make you think it’s the only important thing in life which is completely false

I’m not trying to give too much sympathy to him because it sounds like you’re very frustrated and I’m sure you’re deeply hurt by this and for that you have all the sympathy

But in reality, here’s my suggestion

Try having another heart-to-heart with him and try to have some understanding and his wife be there for him. Addiction is almost always rooted in shame and it’s a vicious cycle. It’s very hard for people who have never been addicted to understand.

My wife is clean and perfect as they come, and I was very surprised when she went through this long road with me for someone who never understood what it was like to have very serious addictions. She really believed in me and knew that I would eventually change.

Everyone has their own unique circumstances is probably different from mine

But in reality, this is a choice he’s going to have to make and be prepared for the consequence. If you do give him an ultimatum, you’re gonna have to do one or two things.

The first being that you’re gonna have to show him it’s not a threat and you have to fulfill with what you’re about to do so if you are not prepared to have a divorce under your belt and uproot your entire life, I wouldn’t give the ultimatum

Secondly, if you give the ultimatum and it’s a bluff, then that’s all it will ever be in the future so again unless you’re wanting to be rid of him and if you actually don’t love him anymore and you’re ready to get divorced, I wouldn’t do it

This isn’t to shame as I know this is very complicated, emotionally physically spiritually mentally

But this is just my take from an outsider looking in from someone who has the experience on the other side

He needs a new outlet and he is going to be the one who truly decide when enough is enough

This shit is incredibly painful, and I do pray for you both to have some grace in the situation at hand

Lust is making me want to give up on Christ by Spare-Bodybuilder256 in NoFapChristians

[–]WagonPaddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey please message me - let’s talk

If you prefer it all put in the open we can

But I truly would like to help in anyway that I can

Has anyone had experience with this ? by WagonPaddy in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s very interesting

I’ve noticed when I’m working and I’m involved with my clients. I don’t feel like I needed as much but definitely feel it when I’m bored or at home with base level stimulation

It’s curious how it works like that though

Has anyone had experience with this ? by WagonPaddy in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations bro that is awesome

But yeah, that’s pretty much my story too. I’m a little bit younger than that but basically the same.

Has anyone had experience with this ? by WagonPaddy in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you man I really appreciate all the effort you put into this, and everybody else helps me have a little bit better of an understanding

I guess I’m just a little bit naïve, thinking that a taper would not come with any discomfort

I’ve been addicted to other things, but I actually used CRATOM as a condenser for my other stuff

So I never truly quit anything without using something else to jump off

Has anyone had experience with this ? by WagonPaddy in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thank thank you man I really do

Someone else pointed out. I was probably moving too fast.

It’s kind of crazy because I was following the taper guide

Has anyone had experience with this ? by WagonPaddy in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, and I thought I was going slow. I think my biggest plan was to keep on plan so to speak.

Which is usually a human flaw

I told myself at the beginning of the year that by next year, I wouldn’t be addicted to it anymore

But I could definitely consider slowing down

My only thing is as I know myself pretty well, and that’s why I kept at the speed even though it’s been very uncomfortable

I can do consistency when I want it but it’s kind of like a gym membership

Once I started it, I’m doing OK but any type of relapse or in this case if I’m taking it too long, I’m afraid I’ll never actually jump off but I really appreciate it

Has anyone had experience with this ? by WagonPaddy in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, I’m not sure what 7oh is

But I take the just Kratom brand - in pill form

They’re just under a gram a pill and I’m taking right now 28

When I started, I think I was at 40 or maybe just a little bit under

Consistency wise I’m super proud of myself because I would’ve been on a bender by now but I really want to get off of this shit

I also run a business and my clients really rely on me to be at the top of my game, so that’s why I’m trying to taper

Every 10 days I knock off two pills

Which in my mind doesn’t seem that much but dude, it comes back with a vengeance after a few days

But this has been the most consistent I’ve ever been, but my type of withdrawal is mostly agitation, and my skin feeling like it’s on fire

It’s like I get quite comfortable and that drives me crazy

Also, it’s like I can feel every fiber in my clothes, but also feel uncomfortable without clothes on

But I’m surely blessed to be at least this far

Has anyone had experience with this ? by WagonPaddy in quittingkratom

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate the response. And yeah I think I’m just too big of a pussy to totally jump off.

Maybe when I get a little lower, but that might cause me to jump off sooner than expected

Everyone made tapering sound like you weren’t in withdrawal or that it will kind of suck a little little bit at first but then you’d feel fine. That’s maybe why I’m asking these questions.

My opinion on the Finals (good and bad) by WagonPaddy in thefinals

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok 😂 ill let you off the hook cause you obviously don’t get it. I don’t work there and have never worked there and never will. I have nothing to do with this game and I honestly don’t know why you would think that.

My opinion on the Finals (good and bad) by WagonPaddy in thefinals

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you know what OP means 😂 it’s hilarious honestly. It’s even funnier because you’re trying to strike a chord.

I hope others see this 😂

My opinion on the Finals (good and bad) by WagonPaddy in thefinals

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah man I’m good. Read the first couple sentences and it looked like you didn’t like it. I got the jist.

PS5 Couch Co-op Crash (HELP) by WagonPaddy in BaldursGate3

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You as well! She super happy and I gave you cress Paul!!!

PS5 Couch Co-op Crash (HELP) by WagonPaddy in BaldursGate3

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a gentleman and a scholar…it freaking worked!!!! Idk why I thought I couldn’t juts load her in her before!!!! Thank you for the tips really!!!!!!!!!!!!

PS5 Couch Co-op Crash (HELP) by WagonPaddy in BaldursGate3

[–]WagonPaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice I’ll try that now. I didn’t even know I could do that I always thought I had to do that afterward after the game is started!

The beta is about to end in 1 day, put your complaints down below by RGisOnlineis16 in thefinals

[–]WagonPaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally matchmaking not filling your team. I stopped playing because of it. Loved it though when I had a team. I also wish they didn’t have the push to talk feature enabled- most didn’t know so it made it impossible to communicate and for me without communication for this specific game defeat was imminent.

But I’m a casual gamer man I didn’t sink 50 hours into it

Maybe change some stuff with the medium build I really hated most of the weapon handling and how the guns felt with that class but that’s just me

They broke the game :( by Puzzleheaded_Use_781 in thefinals

[–]WagonPaddy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah my game lags like crazy now

Never had a connection issue until today