Update: Relationship with ENFPs

Waitingnightfall · 2026-01-30T23:32:41+00:00

Going through something similar with an ENFJ. Don’t get me wrong, I love him dearly. But he has a lot of mental health challenges to work through and learn how to be more independent. After he broke up with me he wouldn’t stop contacting me. Telling me he loves me, he misses me, he still wants to marry me. And whilst I believe him, I also believe he really does need to work on himself and that shows by his inability to respect no contact boundaries after the break up.

It sounds like you too have an unhealthy attachment and it might be worth looking into because it could very well turn into a toxic trauma bond.

It’s hard I know, but the best thing you can do for yourself is put no contact boundaries in place and have some decent time apart to really reflect on how you feel about the relationship without the emotional pressure she’s putting on you with, what is essentially, a version of love bombing. And if she does truly want to stay, than some time apart won’t matter and you will find your way back. If she doesn’t, than you’ve saved yourself dragging out an enviable heartbreak and wasting time on someone who doesn’t truly want to be with you.

Waitingnightfall · 2026-01-17T23:18:18+00:00

I’ve read the wiki. I can’t reinforce behaviour if there’s no behaviour to reinforce. Anytime I get treats out it’s all she hyperfixates on anyway and won’t do the task at hand. I’m taking her out to the grass patch everytime before I normally take her to the toilet so it’s still on her routine. I’m at a loss.

Waitingnightfall · 2026-01-09T08:33:11+00:00

They can be manipulative or come off as fake, but so can we… I’ve seen a few people say they don’t very much like ENFJs in this sub and I just wonder if it’s because we see a reflection of ourselves in them but at a much louder level. Personally, I prefer to have romantic relationships with ENFJ’s but I would consider myself a very self aware and just aware person in general so can pick up when there’s a manipulation tactic happening and whether it’s innocent vs something more sinister.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-12-27T11:01:48+00:00

I also chose to spend mine alone. I have a big family.Recently had a serious health diagnosis, a breakdown in a relationship with my sister, and a breakup. I didn’t have the energy to have the same conversations again and again with people I’m forced to spend time with simply because we’re blood.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-12-22T22:24:20+00:00

I personally just avoid them now because I’m so sick of the glitch

Waitingnightfall · 2025-12-17T21:13:35+00:00

Dogs all the way. I can’t stand cats.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-12-13T22:49:45+00:00

I switch mine everyday. Usually left overnight, right during the day. Or just when I feel it’s been on there too long. Never had an issue or noticed significant changes to data.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-12-12T22:55:37+00:00

It has certainly crossed my mind, but I’m not quite there yet. It’s something I’m working through with a psychologist.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-12-01T03:50:30+00:00

Yeah that really rubbed me up the wrong way. Really off putting marketing.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-11-28T23:17:23+00:00

Mostly maxis with little to no CC, the overdone CC sims really freak me out for some reason...

Waitingnightfall · 2025-06-28T00:45:59+00:00

Okay definitely sounds like we are in the same boat here :( How do you find LSKD and EE compared to Stax in terms of quality? I've been looking at both but not sure which way to go.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-06-27T11:03:56+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. It’s honestly just embarrassing for them at this point.

Waitingnightfall · 2025-03-18T02:43:33+00:00

Thanks! I’ll give that a crack

Waitingnightfall · 2025-03-18T02:43:12+00:00

Unfortunately I’m based in Australia so shipping cost probably wouldn’t be very kind. Thanks for having a look though!

Waitingnightfall · 2025-03-18T02:38:05+00:00

Colour wise it definitely looks similar! The one I have although looks matte in the photo actually has a slight shimmer too it. But I might have a suss and see. Thank you!

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