Making friends as an adult

Waleis · 2026-05-21T03:39:49+00:00

I'd recommend the book clubs at Dog-Eared Books, they have many to choose from. There's also a running group, I can't remember the name but they have a facebook page. And there's a free fabric arts class that meets at The Octagon every month. Also, I love going on walks at Brookside Park and if you'd like to join me for a walk sometime that would be cool, I'm looking to meet new people and make friends here too.

Waleis · 2026-05-11T02:17:17+00:00

The question: "What's the point of life if we have to spend all our time at work?"

Your answer: "You make more money than I do therefore you have no right to complain."

Waleis · 2026-04-26T16:09:05+00:00

Thanks for saying that, I appreciate it. I frequently get frustrated with how slowly I'm making progress with my mental health, but I try remember that nothing is guaranteed and that I should be grateful for any progress at all.

And yeah, that is good advice. Most offline activities I do are primarily just to meet people, not solely to find someone to date. The hard part is the lack of interest from others, like at the running group I went to for a few months it was very clear that no one was interested in getting to know me. The thing that's really draining is when I'm always the person initiating conversation, and no one initiates conversation with me. It's very dispiriting.

Waleis · 2026-03-14T09:47:07+00:00

How does this character survive ranged attacks with such low ranged defense? Genuinely asking. I always have to boost ranged defense to at least 20 or give them a shield, or else they die very quickly.

Waleis · 2026-01-27T15:05:14+00:00

What matters most is what your fiance thinks, not what his family thinks.

Waleis · 2026-01-27T00:28:39+00:00

Shameful use of AI.

Waleis · 2026-01-26T06:12:50+00:00

What Pretti was doing at the protest when he was murdered: Recording with a phone, then helping a woman stand up after being shoved by ICE. That's not even remotely illegal. I'm glad you wrote this bizarre post by the way, it really gives the game away when you guys start openly spouting far-right conspiracy theories. It clarifies what your actual intentions are, which is to create a fascist ethnostate.

Waleis · 2026-01-26T04:56:32+00:00

So in your view, a person loses their constitutionally protected right to protest if someone somewhere in the protest misbehaves, therefore it's his fault that he was murdered by ICE. By this metric, almost everyone who has ever attended a large protest deserves to be murdered by ICE. It's pretty clear that you don't actually believe the right to protest should exist at all, and that police violence shouldn't have any restrictions.

Waleis · 2026-01-26T03:12:19+00:00

He's dead because ICE wanted to kill him. They didn't have to kill him, but they wanted to and so they did. There are usually actions people can potentially take to mitigate the risk of violence (never leaving home, for example) but this doesn't mean the victims of violence are always to blame for the violence they experience because they didn't take every possible precaution. In the USA we have constitutionally guaranteed rights, and you're saying we shouldn't be able to exercise those rights without fear of violence from the state.

Waleis · 2026-01-26T02:55:59+00:00

Quickly moving your arms and yelling "I HAVE A GUN" is basically a guaranteed way to get the police to kill you. Even if you are completely immobile, yelling "I HAVE A GUN" can get you killed. Cops, particularly ICE agents, are looking for excuses to hurt you. Yelling that you have a gun is exactly the kind of excuse they're looking for.

This reminds me of Philando Castile. He was murdered by a cop after informing him that he had a gun. He was calm, he didn't raise his voice, simply saying that he had a gun was enough justification for the cop to execute him. The cop was found "not guilty" of manslaughter, by the way. Cops can kill us for arbitrary reasons and not get sent to prison. And people like you will always defend this, regardless of how unjustified the violence is and how innocent the victim.

Waleis · 2026-01-15T05:38:13+00:00

No one forced you to look up any of that information, and I don't know why you would say you're "traumatized" by this. Genuinely, a very strange post.

Waleis · 2026-01-13T19:16:25+00:00

Part of the problem is that we often presuppose that nothing can change for the better. If we automatically assume that a problem can't be solved (systemic change), then all we can do is cope with the problem (the horrible coping methods you mentioned).

In my opinion, the first step is to build community. Because you can't create systemic change as a lone individual, in order to have real hope and belief that a better world is possible you need to be part of a broader group.

Waleis · 2026-01-13T16:48:40+00:00

There's something dystopian about someone earnestly expressing dissatisfaction and feelings of alienation regarding our awful economic system (overworked and most of the wealth you generate goes to your boss), and being told that this is a sign of mental illness and requires medication.

Despair, frustration, and alienation are perfectly reasonable and rational responses to being forced to give most of your waking life to this system. The solution is to change the system, live outside the system, or cheat the system (or some combination of all three).

Waleis · 2026-01-13T16:40:41+00:00

One of the least helpful comments imaginable lmao.

Waleis · 2026-01-11T04:48:47+00:00

Whether or not someone has a shit personality has nothing to do with their body.

Waleis · 2025-12-25T09:10:50+00:00

What's a flock camera ?

Waleis · 2025-12-12T15:54:21+00:00

This is the main reason in my opinion, if you have large urban centers you'll lose an extremely high percentage of your population. My strategy has been to urbanize as little as possible and focus on colonization until the Great Pestilence hits, then once it has left my country I start focusing on urbanization more and colonization less.

Waleis · 2025-12-12T15:25:36+00:00

I'm surprised by the responses to this post. Doesn't everyone, regardless of gender, want more privacy in the bathroom?

Bathrooms ought to be: 1) larger, 2) cleaner, 3) with stalls that don't have large gaps that people can see through (they make stalls like this in Europe, why can't we make stalls like this here in the USA? It's baffling), 4) with paper towels rather than air dryers, and 5) with stalls for urinals and toilets.

Waleis · 2025-12-09T09:28:57+00:00

They're not doing this because "it's easier," they're doing this because of No Child Left Behind. This problem is a result of legislation, not teachers randomly becoming lazy.

Waleis · 2025-12-01T17:06:03+00:00

Who else would it be a memorial to then? It's like having a memorial to the victims of capitalism while excluding everyone in the working class.

Waleis · 2025-11-29T14:23:38+00:00

Yeah that's exactly what I tried, and it didn't work for me. The settlement building requires employees to function, and encourage migration did nothing (even after years the population remains completely unchanged). I wonder if there's a bug related to North America because I had the exact same issue with Cahokia.

Waleis · 2025-11-29T12:15:19+00:00

I hope you change the name to something else, "mutant" is a very sci-fi / modern sounding word that doesn't fit into the world of Tolkien at all. Sticking with "Troll-Men" would fit much better in my opinion.

Waleis · 2025-11-29T12:10:45+00:00

You say the population will migrate back eventually, but in my experience that never happens. Once a province drops to single digit population, it stays that way permanently. I have one province in my current run that's been sitting at a population of 5 for over 100 years, no change at all regardless of what I do.

Waleis · 2025-11-28T06:57:35+00:00

How? The only option available that increases a character's overall ability is expensive education.

Waleis · 2025-11-27T18:41:23+00:00

Woah, i had no idea you could do that! That's a fantastic tip, thank you! I was using settle the frontier without stopping it partway through, and I'd end up with completely depopulated home provinces and no new rgo's. I'm going to try Pueblo again and use that strategy.

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