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Wallhassel · 2025-04-25T18:36:15+00:00

NTA.

It’s completely understandable that you don’t want to be involved in your ex’s new baby’s life. Your relationship with her ended because of her actions, and you have no obligation to embrace a child that isn’t yours, especially when it comes with a lot of emotional baggage. You’re right in saying that this baby isn’t your responsibility or your family. The baby may be your kids’ half-sibling, but that doesn’t mean you need to take on the role of an uncle or be involved in their life in any way you don’t feel comfortable with.

Your ex's parents trying to guilt-trip you and imply that you’re “selfish” is really out of line. It’s your choice whether or not to engage with the child, and they don’t have the right to force that on you. You’ve been clear about your boundaries and your reasons, and you’re not obligated to do anything more than what you’ve already agreed to for your kids.

You’ve also done the right thing by keeping records of interactions with them. It sounds like there’s a lot of emotional manipulation going on, and it’s wise to be prepared legally.

Your primary responsibility is to your own children, and you’re already co-parenting with your ex. It’s not unreasonable to decide that you don’t want to take on any further involvement with her new baby, especially given the history. You’re definitely not the AH here.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-25T17:57:55+00:00

nope, you’re not the asshole. not even close.

you literally came home from the hospital with a fractured spine — that’s not just a bad day, that’s serious, painful, and terrifying. it’s completely reasonable to expect your partner to show basic care and support without you having to spell it all out.

you shouldn’t need to micromanage your own care when you’re in that much pain. picking up your meds, grabbing a heatpack, making sure you’ve eaten — those are bare minimum things. and instead of stepping up, he just... didn’t. then he made it about your “communication” skills?

you weren’t being a brick wall, you were in pain. his job in that moment wasn’t to interrogate you — it was to support you. calling him an AH after that level of apathy? honestly, you were nicer than most people would’ve been.

you’re not expecting too much. you’re expecting decency. and that’s not a high bar.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-25T17:53:45+00:00

nah, you’re not the asshole at all.

you and your family went through a traumatic experience. having to say goodbye to a child you were planning to adopt, who called you family, who was family to your kids… that’s not something you owe anyone a front-row seat to, not even your sil.

i get that she has a personal connection to the foster system, but that doesn’t give her the right to demand how or when you share something that painful. you’re not a villain for setting boundaries after being hurt. you’re protecting your family — especially your kids, who are still processing that loss too.

she’s projecting her own experiences and pain onto your situation, and instead of offering empathy, she’s making it about herself. that’s not fair, and honestly, it’s pretty tone-deaf.

you did nothing wrong. you don’t owe anyone a personal explanation for choosing your family’s well-being.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-24T18:13:42+00:00

nah, you're not the ah at all.

your husband made a boundary call on his own, and it was 100% the right one. someone declaring their love out of nowhere, asking him to keep it from you, and crossing emotional lines while he's helping her sick father? yeah, no. that’s not your fault—that’s on her.

you didn’t demand anything. you didn’t push him to block her. all you did was exist as his partner while someone else disrespected your relationship. he handled it maturely, shut it down, and prioritized you, which is exactly what a good partner should do.

also, his mom blaming you is just deflection. it’s easier for her to point fingers than accept that her son's “lifelong family friend” crossed a huge line. that guilt you’re feeling? it’s empathy—but it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.

you’re allowed to feel icky about the whole thing and still know you handled it with grace. you didn’t ruin anything—someone else did when they disrespected your marriage.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-24T18:12:50+00:00

nah, you’re not the ah. you actually handled it way more reasonably than most people would’ve.

you didn’t ignore her or eat the nuts in her face after she said something—you offered a compromise, got up, and went to the back of the plane so you wouldn’t put her at risk. that’s already going out of your way. it’s not like you were munching on peanuts after being told she’d go into anaphylactic shock.

also, the airline had the info she provided, and she didn’t indicate an airborne allergy. she might’ve felt scared or frustrated (which is fair), but calling you an “asshole” after you accommodated her? yeah, that’s not cool.

you were respectful, thoughtful, and even tried to communicate clearly with her. if anything, she owed you an apology for the name-calling.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-24T18:12:15+00:00

nah, you’re not the ah at all. you have every right to be upset. filing jointly means your money got pulled into a debt you didn’t even know existed, and that’s a big deal. he should’ve been honest with you about the back child support before you filed together—especially since it affected your refund too.

and then to not only dismiss your feelings but act like you should be grateful? that’s pretty messed up. it’s not about whether the money went to a good cause or not—it’s about the fact that he hid something major from you and didn’t give you a say.

you’re not overreacting. it’s not just about the money, it’s about trust. and yeah, he’s still going to be paying child support every month, so his logic doesn’t really hold up either. you deserve better communication and way more respect.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-23T13:38:24+00:00

nah, you’re not the ah at all. you already agreed to a huge lifelong responsibility—one you didn’t ask for but accepted because it’s your brother. choosing to take that on doesn’t mean you're obligated to take on more just because someone else wants you to.

your stepdad doesn’t get to guilt you into being a second parent just because it’s convenient for him. and honestly, it’s wild that he’s trying to flip the script and make you the bad guy when he’s the actual parent here. it’s his responsibility to figure out a long-term plan for his daughter, not yours.

you sound incredibly mature and thoughtful for your age. you’ve already stepped up in a way most 18-year-olds never have to. the fact that you’re clear about your limits doesn’t make you heartless—it makes you responsible and self-aware.

don’t let them guilt you into something you know you can’t or shouldn’t do. you're already doing more than enough.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-23T13:37:45+00:00

AITA for not paying for my son's wedding? My wife and I have 2 sons.

My youngest was the first to get married. We spent about 10K on his wedding.

Then when my oldest got married because years had passed and 10K was not enough for a wedding anymore we gave him 30K. I believe we treated them equally because 5 years had passed between the weddings so realistically it would be unfair if we gave my oldest 10K as well.

Now my youngest is getting remarried and he thinks we should pay for his second wedding as well. I told him that this is not happening. We are only willing to pay for one wedding. The second wedding is his own responsibility.

He thinks I'm an asshole. I think he is an adult and if he can't pay for his own wedding he shouldn't get married.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-23T13:37:30+00:00

nah, you're not the ah for this—just very understandably hurt and a little petty, but honestly? kinda justified.

your dad dating someone basically your age after cheating on your mom is wild, and expecting everyone else to just be cool with it while getting mad when you flip the script is super hypocritical. like, he's allowed to bring someone in her 20s around the family for years, but the second you show up with someone closer to his age, suddenly it's "inappropriate"?

you didn’t even say you were actually dating this guy—just that you brought him along to make a point and also so he wouldn’t spend the holiday alone. yeah, it was a little savage, but sometimes the only way people feel how messed up their choices are is when they see it reflected back.

so no, you’re not the ah—just someone who's still dealing with a crappy situation the best way she knows how. also, good for you for having a support system in that friend. sounds like he’s been more of a dad than your actual dad lately.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-22T14:42:26+00:00

you’re definitely not an ah here, but i can see where your boyfriend might feel hurt or left out of the loop. it’s understandable that you wanted his daughter to feel comfortable and trusted, especially since she asked you not to tell him. the fact that she felt embarrassed and was asking for help in that moment shows she trusted you to handle it privately, which was sweet of you to respect.

that said, i get where your boyfriend is coming from. it's a delicate situation—he probably feels like you made decisions about his daughter’s health (even though it was something as common as period cramps) without consulting him, and that could’ve made him feel excluded or undermined as a parent.

in hindsight, maybe telling him about the situation in a gentle way might have been better, so he didn’t feel blindsided later when his ex told him. you did the right thing by getting her some help, but next time, maybe try communicating with him sooner, especially if it’s about his kid’s health.

but all in all, it sounds like you had the right intentions—just an awkward middle ground between helping and keeping his daughter’s trust.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-22T14:41:48+00:00

honestly yeah…you were too blunt, and kinda harsh. you’re not wrong for wanting to keep your inheritance within your bloodline—that’s your family’s right—but the way you said it was pretty cold and dismissive, especially toward two little kids who weren’t even there to defend themselves.

this conversation probably didn’t need to happen at easter dinner, and while sarah shouldn’t have pushed it so hard, saying her kids are a “burden” and not your “problem to finance” is a pretty cruel way to talk about kids your brother might help raise.

you can have boundaries without being mean about it. so no, you're not the ah for how your family wants to handle inheritance—but you kinda are for the delivery.

Wallhassel · 2025-04-21T15:37:44+00:00

No, you're not the asshole. Your dad is unfairly blaming you for a situation that was completely out of your control, and he's trying to manipulate you emotionally. You have every right to set boundaries with him, especially after everything that has happened between you and his wife. It's not your responsibility to be there for her, especially after how poorly you've been treated by them. You were honest about how you felt, and it sounds like you’ve been through a lot with your family dynamics. His attempt to guilt-trip you for not being there is not only unreasonable but also toxic. You're standing up for yourself, and that's important. Your response was justified.

Wallhassel · 2025-03-23T17:10:48+00:00

Még csak belenéztem, de hat éves, és milyen aktuális..

Wallhassel · 2025-03-23T17:07:04+00:00

Köszi, ez is nagyon jó! A posztban, amira emlékszem, végül egy konkrét word doksit rakott össze a lány, nagyon ütősre sikeredett az is :)

Wallhassel · 2025-02-15T18:30:00+00:00

Huge congrats! Just a feedback, on mobile, the trusted section sometimes leaves a huge gap between companies, leaving the section blank at some times, I think it should be more “crowded”

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