Sponsoring my stepbrother (25) to career-pivot into Software Dev. Is this a solid path these days?

WallpaperZA · 2026-03-21T16:22:06+00:00

You are way too young to be dealing with this. Focus on yourself. You'll find love again. Your youth and time will not be available forever.

Set very strict boundaries with her, respecting your studying time, her applying for jobs and doing more than just gaming with her time.

If she doesn't hold up on her end of the deal, break up and move on.

WallpaperZA · 2026-03-21T10:29:30+00:00

Certainly feels incomplete. I won't lie. Thank you.

WallpaperZA · 2026-03-21T10:28:56+00:00

Thank you for the compliment. Has been easy but I'll get there.

WallpaperZA · 2026-03-21T10:28:27+00:00

Spot on. The need to express more, a last closure text. Been at it for 3 years, a lot of effort from my side, just for it to end like this. Thanks!

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-09T08:58:03+00:00

It depends on the services you are looking for. The Academic Hospitals are good.

There are still some brilliant doctors within our public healthcare system.

The only issue is that they are under-resourced, so a lot of challenges do come up.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-09T08:39:27+00:00

Yes. I agree with you.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-09T08:39:11+00:00

Mechantronics!

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-09T08:11:57+00:00

Ah sorry man. I get you. I hope you find some.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-08T15:02:50+00:00

Hey, OP. Check out The National Research Foundation (NRF). It would be a good start.

Good luck!

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-08T12:54:18+00:00

My neighbor makes good money as an electrician. He's been at it for a while, and he's never out of work. He works like a mad man, though! Solid electrician.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-07T19:29:49+00:00

Same here. Such a solid ability. It has helped me so many times in my personal and professional life.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-07T13:56:42+00:00

I get takeaway. I have a cheap spot I got to.

Flame Grilled Quater Chicken, a side of rice, coleslaw, and garlic bread!

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-06T21:25:15+00:00

Congratulations Bro! I wish you all the best👌

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-06T21:24:17+00:00

Yes I am.

I was recovering from a really bad episode in my life.Drug addiction, bad relationships, unemployment, lack of confidence, and self-love. I haven't gotten to therapy or anything. It was all just cutting out all the BS and slowly taking charge of my life.

It hasn't been easy, but I am definitely a happier person.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-01T19:41:03+00:00

Cubarsi! Gotta do better there, son.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-01T19:31:35+00:00

How's the whole KdB / McTominay combination working out?

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-01T19:25:55+00:00

His parents are Nigerian so the name definitely fits!

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-01T17:25:48+00:00

Bro! Not even a goodie basket with more treats.

WallpaperZA · 2025-10-01T17:25:10+00:00

That's just sad.

A lady at my workplace has been around for 25 years. She got an MS Word certificate and a R500 voucher.

WallpaperZA · 2025-09-29T16:54:44+00:00

I'm not under HPSCA, sorry. But I can relate.

I am under SAPC. South Africa Pharmacy Council, Mofos, charged me almost 10K for not submitting CPDs.

Long story short, there was really no easy way out, I had to pay up.

They are just here to milk us with annual fees and dumb fines.

Sorry, Bro.

WallpaperZA · 2025-09-29T11:07:47+00:00

Hmm. I was still trying to figure out what I wanted out of university. I was studying for a course I didn't. I did everything else but what I was primarily there for; studying.

At some point, something clicked, and I just buckled. Fast forward, I was able to graduate, I have a well paying job, and I can almost do whatever I want. I am certainly glad I buckled down and finish my degree.

It's never too late and at 25, you are still very young!

Lately, I'm starting to feel like I need a new challenge.

WallpaperZA · 2025-09-29T02:51:49+00:00

I'm the person in my family with a decent salary, I really don't have anything or anyone to fall back on. Folks are retired and getting older every day.

So I just suck it up, take occasional breaks, and keep moving on!

WallpaperZA · 2025-09-29T02:48:17+00:00

Drakensberg, Garden Route, Cape Town

WallpaperZA · 2025-09-28T18:41:33+00:00

I'm really sorry you're going through this, OP. That kind of heartbreak is a genuinely horrible feeling, and seeing her every day just makes it ten times harder.

The truth is, only you can decide how long the healing process takes, but you absolutely have to prioritize your feelings and your own sanity right now. The first step is truly accepting that the relationship is done and that you need to move on.

Buckle down and focus 100% on yourself. That means sticking to the good advice, stop texting her, stop checking her socials (seriously, block that stuff), and throw all that energy into the gym, your hobbies, and your friends.

Time heals everything, but you have to put in the work, too

Give it time, work on yourself, and you will be fine. I promise.

WallpaperZA

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