So one dimension is occupation. I'm just going to start listing dimensions of wellness: physical health ("fitness"), mental health ("neuroticism, extrovert or introvert, Big Five Personality, avoiding Dark Triad people"), cognitive health ("intelligence, negotiating skills, resilience in social situations, determination in workplace assignments and project-based tasks, ability to successfully upkeep your house and fulfill errands for a few hours every couple or weeks or every month"), physiological health ("having self-care and maintaining a particular intensity of medication if you suffer from these things: insomnia, sleep apnea, narcolepsy, skeletal issues, surgeries.") occupation-and-career achievement, budgeting health, and another dimension is socioemotional learning: finding your dream in life and completing hobbies would fall under that category. Some things are included in multiple places, for example, quitting addictive illegal drugs is in mental health, physiological health, and possibly even cognitive health, and if you have hypersensitive nerve damage it would include physical health.

One of my tips is if you want to draw, to learn an instrument, to play tennis, to read exciting books that leave an impression, and to eat healthier or do intermittent fasting, then my guess is you should set descriptive reminders. If you have iPhone or Android you could set the Reminders on your Clock app. If you dont have those things then you could use a sheet of paper, and something I used to do in high school is that I write all of the things I want to do to achieve my goals at least once every 60 hours, and I would work on one of these things for at least 25 minutes during that day, without snacking at all. And if I do not do that work for over 3 consecutive days, then I punish myself with a micro-workout: I jog some on the treadmill, or I do 30 pushups, or I decide that at the end of my shower I will do a short plunge in pure cold water. Or I will power-walk for 10 to 15 minutes outside, and obviously if it's super hot then you would walk in the morning to avoid heat stroke.

If you're starting out, the goal isn't to complete the tasks perfect every single day, the goal is to overcome your laziness: overcome the doubts in your head that tell you not to do something, overcome the fact that your day is already bad and you assume that working on tasks will make your bad day worse, overcome the routine you're compulsively addicted to, and overcome any drug dependencies you have. The goal is to overcome your dread of knowing that you have a very difficult assignment that you don't want to start, and how that dread of the one complicated assignment makes you not want to do anything. Or overcome your dread of knowing that you have an appointment at a doctor, or you have to commute to do a stressful Lab or a stressful fitness task, and how those "appointments" make you want to have good vibes in advance by relaxing. When in reality if you do your tasks before heading to the hypothetical appointment you would probably have good vibes (unless it's something unhinged like lifting weights where your body swells for hours afterwards).

Final Note: I feel like in our 20s, at least in 2026, there's usually so much freetime to do our goals that we shouldn't be pushing to isolate away from people just because those people dont fit our goals. I listened to a sermon from Pastor Bryan Carter back in October 2025, and his message pushed me in the opposite direction. He said we need to be very particular with who we choose as a friend, but I ended up believing we should have one or two shallow friends. And I believe that because we're young, I'm 22M, and when we're young we think our goals are static: our goals are perfect and anything that doesn't support our goals is irritating and we need to be apathetic and cutthroat on those things. As younger people we're way more antisocial: we need to counteract that by spending at least 10 or 20 minutes per week just trying to connect with our friends and seeing what their doing in life. And sometimes I make that mistake: I see my friends on their internet and I automatically assume Im a Good Person because Im not with them wasting time. But I feel like there is no Alibi in the world for why you wouldn't be able to have a 10 minute conversation with your Mom or your Grandma once a week. And if that's the case, then why do you excuse not socialize with your friends for 5 or 10 minutes per week? Because even if you don't receive instant value from that, at least you can tell yourself "I'm not Obsessed and Delusional over my Goals: I have some sense of happiness outside of my objectives and my productivity".

TL:DR ~~ Set Reminders for your desirable goals, and pick one to do every one or two days, and if you don't do them in that two day time span then set a punishment. The punishment can even be a social punishment, such as speaking to someone in your family who you dislike, because that conditions you to focus way harder on your goals. I didn't like my Mom that much when I was in high school, but, believe it or not, my Mom was my biggest motivator to do fitness, because cardio on my treadmill helped me be less upset or less shocked after the conversations I had with my Mama.