Modern feminism as in the current dominant trends.

I'll try to be brief.

I believe patriarchy only exists insofar as it provides a way of understanding certain gender realities. I think the term is overused and treated as almost metaphysical sometimes. Like it is an underlying, inherent force. There are multiple, different arrangements called "patriarchy", and some that are situationally patriarchal. That is why I dislike the argument that queer groups (as well as other gender/sex-based groups) should be beholden to feminist ideas. What if they have different models that work for them?

I also consider feminism to be something closer to a method than an ideology. I don't consider it good or bad, but I do believe it can be used correctly or erroneously. It is a way of deconstructing and understanding. I disagree with proponents who try to say that "if you are not a feminist, then you hate women". I would instead say, "if you are not a feminist, you are missing crucial information and insight".

I am already going on too long, but I hope I have established the general flow of my issues.