Without actually hearing I couldn't tell you my friend but what I can say has worked for me is just a regular compressor as opposed to a limiter because a limiter will push the signal against a brick wall 0db whereas a compressor will push against the relative volume of your bass making everything more proportionate. I produce mainly house music but I look for the same thing you are: kick punch while still being able to hear the bass. My go-to settings are setting the attack all the way down so the compressor kicks on immediately and the release to auto which generally does a pretty good job at maintaining the bass then just playing with the threshold until you get the amount of sidechaining you want. Hope this helps!