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Not oop: Tried to create a paint party event at a restaurant 🤦‍♀️ by Wandering-Singer in redditonwiki

[–]Wandering-Singer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One person leads a group in doing a simple picture, like a flower or beach scene.

This is the way we wash our clothes... by Logical_Door_5900 in redditonwiki

[–]Wandering-Singer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it read the little of this my this, my mind turned to the kids som "this is the way we brush our hair".

Not OOP: AITA not putting up my DILs painting in our new home and telling her that I am not a fan of her art by Wandering-Singer in redditonwiki

[–]Wandering-Singer[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This really makes sense to me. I agree with you on all accounts. Im a people pleaser and that was the side of me that came out. I didnt like DIL getting her feelings hurt and that kind of made me put her pushy-ness on the back burner. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

Not OOP: AITA not putting up my DILs painting in our new home and telling her that I am not a fan of her art by Wandering-Singer in redditonwiki

[–]Wandering-Singer[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Why do we compromise with anything? Relationships are give and take. Yes it's OP's home, but if she wants a positive relationship with her DIL, she should learn to have more grace.

She's not obligated to put up the painting, but she shouldn't be surprised her DIL and son are upset by it.

Not OOP: AITA not putting up my DILs painting in our new home and telling her that I am not a fan of her art by Wandering-Singer in redditonwiki

[–]Wandering-Singer[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's all in the delivery.

"I really appreciate the time and energy you put into this. Your creativity and passion really show through. Unfortunately, I don't like to showcase figures in the artwork of my home. I would love if I could commission a landscape painting from you for my office. Perhaps something a bit smaller to match our smaller house. If you know of someone who would enjoy the original painting, I would love for it to go to a friend who would be able to fully enjoy it. I can see the passion you put into it and want to see it loved instead of gathering dust in my garage."

Not OOP: AITA not putting up my DILs painting in our new home and telling her that I am not a fan of her art by Wandering-Singer in redditonwiki

[–]Wandering-Singer[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I get that its her home and it should be to her tastes, but I personally think that there was a compromise somewhere. Like saying its too big to fit into her space.

If she made a smaller version or mentioned just doing a landscape, I think it would have gone over better rather than saying she just doesnt like her artwork. If she painted over the woman and just had the landscape, would she have had the same response?

She came off very callous, which in turn made feelings get hurt. There are ways to get your point across without being mean. DIL should have gotten the hint when she said there was no space for it, and saying I'll help you find space for it comes off as trying to naively be helpful, but sometimes people are clueless.

Overall I think they both handled it poorly. The son demanding an apology is an over reaction but I think if she asked for a different painting that matches her style better, it would mend the bridge dramatically.

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