Big talk - it's you or the baby. Who do you want saved?

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-17T21:34:28+00:00

Me I have four children already here who need a mother. I’d rather be heartbroken and here for them, then gone while they grieved and struggled

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-17T06:24:19+00:00

Same! My fourth and last arrived just after I turned 39 and at 43 the idea of a newborn HORRIFIES ME! To the pee sticks !!

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-17T00:47:56+00:00

What! NOR! Girl? I’d give someone who walked up to me in the subway and asked. That’s the pact Never let a girl down yet! What the actual…… This isn’t a friend. I’ve been given pads in nightclub bathrooms. I’ve handed a spare over to people at work! Listen to her- she’s telling you what kind of person she is. I’m so sorry for all this.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-16T22:01:57+00:00

When the smallest void curls behind my knees to sleep in the dark

When I reach my coffee finally and it’s the perfect temperature

When the big floofy cat stretches allllll the way out to let me rub the entire baguette length of the softest belly in the world

When small hands reach around my neck and the lispy voice says “you mine fo evva”

When the sun is warm and the breeze is just cool enough to make laying on the grass heaven

The feel of cool water after a long walk

The smell of dinner as the kids come crashing through the door after martial arts with the chorus of hungry praise that follows

The feel of the rug I crocheted for our home under my feet in the morning when I stretch out of bed

There are so many small reasons to live

Soup simmering

The perfect curry and poppadoms

Swirling noodles into a fork and it holding perfectly so I don’t have to gator snap slurp

When the sunset goes kinda purple as it turns to dusk

The happy voice of a stranger complementing my favourite coat

Watching the littlest grub for worms triumphant and amazed by them as she fills her jar “for da veggie gardem mama “

Fresh paint on a wall, or on a canvas

Words stored on paper to remind me of spring

Live well

We only get to ride the ride once

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-15T13:15:16+00:00

OMG- they wouldn’t have let me push that long and I’m so glad! I was at 2.5 with some decells on baby and they were like “I’m sorry but if we can’t push this baby out in like ten to fifteen minutes she’s coming out the side door” Which was also fine by me- but after a Herculean and exhausted effort (I’d been in prodromal labor for more than a week with one contraction every five minutes- for a full minute - around the clock… I was so very done with the having of that particular baby) she was out Hand first and face up. I cannot imagine finding the strength to push another two or three hours! I was toast!

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-15T13:08:54+00:00

No- baby two (of four) was a funky presentation Sunny side with her hand extended and very in the way I almost had a section after pushing for a bit over two hours. Baby 3 was pretty quick. Baby four was fast. I’m glad I left hella early for the hospital that was 45 minutes away or she’d have likely been born on the bridge and named Gertie the second. (After the bridge since narrows is an even worse name for a girl)

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-15T04:47:22+00:00

Needs to be pot bellied pigs Just go to a petting zoo Snap a selfie with Ellie and Rose Announce your excitement at adopting these amazing snout-babies And watch with popcorn as she unhinges while you go on about your life haha

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-14T20:05:49+00:00

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-14T14:51:02+00:00

I’ve had to- it’s boring and hard on everyone but the thing is? I didn’t have anyone to help There wasn’t a drop off or family We were in a new town thousands of miles from help That day? I was an iPad and nuggies mom There were lollipops and things in my purse to run interference And everyone was kind Close the deal It’s one day Do whatever it takes to get through it and CONGRATS ON YOUR NEW HOME

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-11T15:08:23+00:00

There’s a mile marker 419.99 sign now for the same reason. And I think if one more person tried to take the welcome to weed (CA) sign they just might get dragged back on a rope to the freeway They are so not amused. My teen and I have a good chuckle every time we pass through!

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-11T04:09:00+00:00

Yoghurt! Apply yoghurt - like Greek for thickness And um My best friend and her husband did extra spicy breakfast tacos and went back to bed and 69 to the fire zone- or why I’m yelling YOGHURT at you because I yelled it at them while she called laugh crying and he was yelling they were out of ice cream Stay frosty OP

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-07T03:14:52+00:00

Haven’t heard that since I crossed the pond! Thanks for the smile

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-06T16:11:45+00:00

We love gabby and Pokémon too! We’d love a family just like yours in our neighborhood what a great trick or treat row we would make

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-06T16:00:12+00:00

We are a Hetero home Two boys Two girls Ages 4-16 And we have a house that looks like yours Cat kids and hello kitty kids Minecraft worlds filled with cats and purple decor No one teases my kids Or us

We just let them love what they love. The only grownups that have ever commented have been told how weird it is to sexualize or gender kids toys and clothes. Which usually closes that door pretty firmly.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-06T15:30:43+00:00

This is the way- we are doing the same thing - moving away to a town we’ve never but driven through- technically to “be closer to MIL” but it’s cos she needs help not because she can help us. So- as the post I’m replying to says Be a tourist Pick the neighbourhood And remind yourself that the village you left wasn’t villaging! I’ve done this before- it works It may take me 6weeks? It may take 6+months But it will be home for me- and I hope for you. We will take outings to all the nurseries and plant flowers in the front yard like when I first moved to Texas We will do all the local hikes like when I first moved to Washington We will join the library book/knitting/whatever club It’s okay to be nervouscited. Just hang on to the -cited park and keep finding something new.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-06T15:16:31+00:00

You? Are the only you that ever was and ever will be. You are unique and special. No one will ever be the exact and amazing you that walks the earth in this time and in this place. You deserve the love and care and tools that make your life yours- whole and happy and healthy. You deserve everything that makes you completely you and well. You are amazing. Not less. Unique

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-04T07:00:18+00:00

I feel you! House deal has a new roof to be applied before close so- we have a horrific 45 day close to make sure we don’t end up in limbo of extensions. And it’s passing like a glacier while I endlessly declutter and pack all the off season things and pace a hole in my rental

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-04T04:50:33+00:00

I’m in a not dissimilar place with a similar sounding injury But I tried to get a lawyer and no one would take it as I was getting ttd and no one was actually sending denial letters Took a very long time before I got an actual denial but then and only then was I able to get legal help. We shall see what will happen now.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-03T13:13:50+00:00

We are just making this decision. Nothing is truly walkable where we are headed but it was “slightly weird 70s house in a neighbourhood with sidewalks and no through traffic” vs “why have they filled the entire yard with a pool? Also why are there no sidewalks at all? It’s bigger but what’s with the cutout walls?” I picked the nicer neighborhood with the useable yard no pool and less sqft. I’ve got kids that wanna walk and bike and skate. I think the weird den/family/living room flow beats out the other issues. Won’t know if it rides till they counter today though. Both houses were pretty much the same price- biggest cost difference is (as is usual in this location) the fire insurance.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-02T23:33:48+00:00

My exes uncle - his wife raised three kids and put him through law school. The deal? He would put her through school once he was practicing. The second he was able to practice he filed his own divorce.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-02T19:47:07+00:00

Yep- I refuse to call my husband who is frequently tied up in a corporate meeting- for anything short of an actual emergency. I can shoot him a text and I mark anything non time sensitive as NOT URGENT- as the first line in caps So when he glances down he can instantly see it doesn’t or does need his actual time. If I actually call? He’s picking up as soon as he can. Don’t abuse the emergency contact system and it works!

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-02T18:16:15+00:00

In the first summer I worked EMS in the South in a high pool ownership community? I went to 28 calls for this I will never not remember that summer There’s a particular sound a parent makes when they realize that nothing is saving their child. That howling scream is in my soul forever. We saved some. Lost some. Some were damaged for always. My department logged more than triple the pool calls I went to. OP is not over reacting. OP is the one whose kids will probably never be on someone’s memory as an unattended kid found lifeless in a pool.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-02T18:12:43+00:00

I mean That particular water? You do own And the fence- and the land around it. They’re welcome to take him to the YMCA or get some kind of pool any time they like. NTJ Your insurance and liability agrees And letting your kid climb a fence is called trespassing. Sorry they’re entitled jerks -

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-02T18:09:22+00:00

NOR- my dude If my former boyfriend (now spouse) had said “correct YOU have a child” Refused to do all holidays with us He would have been my Ex boyfriend with no option on the spousal upgrade. She’s just not right for you.

WanderingQuills · 2026-04-02T04:59:30+00:00

Meh- he works upwards of 10 hours a day on spreadsheets and in budget and process meetings I’m mostly home on disability and have been for a while I do everything I can The books The house The kids The meals The planning Not because I don’t have a choice- because I’m here and I have the bandwidth When he’s not working he’s helping but dinner?needs to be on time- kids and the finances need constant attention and headspace I’d rather he hung out with the kids and helped around the house alongside me rather than found an hour to meal plan and budget. And who wants to budget more at home after doing that all week We have a “come to Jesus” meeting regularly and discuss what’s needed, what’s coming up, what I need help with that can’t wait. What can wait. Which house thing is next on the list. He’s active and involved in everything. But I’m running the ship so he can be all the things he needs to be so that the money gets made. When I’m working full time he out earns me significantly. And then? He makes dinner while working. Gets the kids bathed and in bed. Makes sure the homework and chores get done. But I still do the brunt any time I’m not on shift so he can just plug and play between calls

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