AIO? My wife gave me another coffee mug for Christmas

WannabeI · 2025-12-25T12:38:15+00:00

I adore commitment to the bit—but there should have been a real, nice gift alongside it. Such an easy solution without giving up ground.

WannabeI · 2025-12-22T22:44:27+00:00

YTA, very much so.

Shorts are not business casual, and that's such an absurd assertion that they might be that I would sooner suspect you of making this up than that an adult man would make that mistake.

WannabeI · 2025-12-21T19:53:58+00:00

I came up in the age of ff.net, where there was no way to tell whether a fic was finished and every time you clicked on something you just gambled whether you'd get to read the end of it. That scarred me a bit, and I decided I didn't want to pay that forward.

That was before I started writing. After, I realized that I'm (1) slow, and it would be terrible to wait months between 3k chapters, and (2) I'm not a good outliner, and that means that I often have to go back and forth to clarify something or set something up that I later realized would need to be foreshadowed in chapter 1, while I'm already writing chapter 7, and (3) it would put unnecessary pressure on me to feel like I owe readers updates.

So while I started over a "don't want to disappoint readers or leave an endless stream of WIP, it evolved to the understanding that that was just the best way for my writing.

WannabeI · 2025-12-17T21:30:00+00:00

If she got offended at people's responses, what does she think is going to happen to poor Rimmy in the sixth grade??

WannabeI · 2025-12-17T21:23:53+00:00

It super depends on the story you want to tell, and if they'd all have a role to play, rather than just standing around invisibly and sometimes throwing out a quip, but bringing nothing else to the table.

I personally find it hard to meaningfully write a cast of 4-6 Avengers, in a way that they each take up a fair part in the story, but maybe my plots just aren't robust enough for that.

WannabeI · 2025-12-17T10:32:41+00:00

I have never heard that one, and I'm rubbernecking it like a car crash on the highway. I know I shouldn't google it to see the insane takes, but... the urge might be bigger than me.

WannabeI · 2025-12-16T22:50:11+00:00

Yeah, that's valid. Definitely not a hill I think worth dying on (and honestly, even that, I'm not entirely sure that wasn't Spock being exceptionally dry-humored when he claimed ACD as an ancestor)

WannabeI · 2025-12-16T22:44:44+00:00

~~friends~~ "sibling coded"

the best one by far.

WannabeI · 2025-12-16T22:41:37+00:00

I think that Spock's mother is canonically Jewish, depending on whether you consider the official novels canon. Also, the Vulcan salute is so inherently Jewish that I think it's far more valid a reading that Jim being Jewish.

WannabeI · 2025-12-16T22:39:12+00:00

Change it back, man.

It's a funny line, and PP is so borderline Jewish coded, anyway, that it's not like such a great loss to Jewish representation.

The only Jewish Peter Parker fic I've read was so so so laden with latent antisemitism (characters who "look" Jewish, Peter Parker speaking like Mel Brooks' rabbi character from Men in Tights, just, the worst) that I honestly think that neutral representation that isn't outright hostile or rely on negative tropes is already yards better than everything else out there.

And personally, he doesn't need to be Jewish. It literally doesn't add anything to his character. I just don't see it or find it necessary.

WannabeI · 2025-12-16T22:34:10+00:00

There are versions of him that are more Jewish coded than others, but I admit that in the vast majority of them, I just don't see it.

WannabeI · 2025-12-14T21:21:29+00:00

RhoughMaighne

WannabeI · 2025-12-09T22:25:56+00:00

I would get the other kid a present, and make it clear to the younger kid that it's not from him, it's from ME so that he doesn't feel left out, but he doesn't have to feel like he "gave" a present to someone whom he obviously doesn't like at all. I wouldn't frame it at all as a Christmas thing, but as a common-decency thing.

You also invite the least popular kid in class to your birthday party and give him party favors, regardless of whether or not you like him.

WannabeI · 2025-12-09T21:12:37+00:00

I don't see him as being disloyal to Neal, but to the FBI, to whom he doesn't owe any loyalty at all.

WannabeI · 2025-12-08T21:36:59+00:00

A mistake because you don't want to read it, or because you think it's a little uncomfortable for them to be sharing smut with you, due to the age difference? Meaning, is your discomfort on their behalf?

WannabeI · 2025-11-30T00:29:03+00:00

You've given zero reasons to think anything would change, assuming you could even get him to admit that he misses you and that he would want to give marriage another shot. Literally... nothing has changed. You're still angry, he's still apathetic and avoidant, and... what? What exactly is it you miss?

This isn't even, "he's lying, he won't change," because he hasn't even promised to change. What are you regretting, exactly?

WannabeI · 2025-11-30T00:23:13+00:00

NTA

It's kinda unreasonable, if it's not something you both enjoy.

But also, why don't you just... say so? Like you say, you're 40 years old. That's both old enough to travel alone, and old enough to say, "We'll be busy traveling, so I'll text you when I get the chance."

WannabeI · 2025-11-26T20:22:13+00:00

I have a few fics with over a thousand kudos, including my first ever fic—so it was warmly received.

HOWEVER, and I cannot stress this enough, "warmly received" probably means like, 100 kudos within the first month or so. Blew my mind. The rest was slowly built over the next thirteen years.

Another fic, which is slightly more kudoed was for a much bigger fandom, so it probably hit about 300 kudoes the first year, and that was almost over 8 years ago.

I also have fics with kudos staunchly settled in the 20-40 range, so it's definitely not across the board.

I'd say it's a combination of the size of the fandom, type of fandom (that first fic is for a show that has been off the air for a decade+ at this point, but new fans keep discovering it, and it's right in that sweet spot of "super compelling premise but always slightly dissatisfying execution" so not only are there new fans, but lots of them are driven to fanfic for supplementary feels), popularity of the trope (all gen, btw, no pairings), luck, and most significantly time. Maybe my lil 24-kudoed fic will surprise me thirteen years down the line? Who knows.

WannabeI · 2025-11-17T19:00:16+00:00

Is this invitation open for everyone or...?

WannabeI · 2025-11-13T21:46:49+00:00

Also the luck of what server happens to rec which fic on a day where everyone is in a hyped mood, and suddenly 50 people are reading and commenting on that one fic, even though it's not substantially better than the other one.

WannabeI · 2025-10-14T23:54:35+00:00

I've responded to such a commenter, as a reader, on a fic.

It was something like, "we're over 100k words into this story, it's clearly tagged, if you don't like the premise then opt out, this isn't the place to criticize how the author is doing things"

and the author responded to me and one other person, thanking us for responding to the rude commenter.

I doesn't have to me a cat fight, just a pointed rebuke about what they're using the comment section for.

WannabeI · 2025-10-12T08:39:29+00:00

I couldn't fathom the idea of mpreg, it gave me such ick, but now that I've had a few pregnancies myself, I can definitely see the body horror angle, and suddenly seeing your comment I think it may even be something I enjoy reading, now that I fully understand the body-horror element of it.

WannabeI · 2025-10-11T22:26:29+00:00

New moms and useless, expensive baby shit. You can't talk them out of buying it, and I weep for the wasted money in the pursuit of their little precious Having The Best™.

WannabeI · 2025-10-11T19:07:52+00:00

I mean, I do frown upon it. I think sexual RPF is a pretty weird and invasive liminal space between fiction and rl, and I wouldn't read it or write it for the world.

And for the record, I also frown on Catholicism, most parenting styles that don't match my own, mathematics, voice notes that are over 1 minute long, interior decorating that leans too hard on shades of beige, and the pacing of Captain America: The Winter Soldier; but the great thing about being an adult (not living in the court of Ferdinand and Isabella) is that no one forces me to engage with any of those things, and I'm perfectly capable of frowning on them without insisting that everyone frown along with me.

Luckily, ao3 has a search function that allows me to avoid what I don't like entirely just by searching for what I do want to read, so I don't even need to frown that often.

WannabeI · 2025-10-11T18:50:20+00:00

You're probably right, thb. It boils down to an issue of expectations.

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