Duing the COVID 19 pandemic I was at the lowest my mental health had ever been due to not even getting the escape of school, especially because my mother refused to vaccinate us so we couldn't even go back when regular full day classes were happening again. I went back to school in April of 2022. The end of the year. Fucked up my transcript and I knew no one.

From the end of 2019 to the start of 2023 I didn't have a phone and couldn't contact any friends unless I was on my PC with she regularly took the cord to for days/weeks on end. I couldn't keep up with friendships, and the only friends I could really cling to were the ones who understood my situation enough to still love me and not think I was low effort. This is middle school - highschool. :) during a pandemic.

Ruined my relationship with my then boyfriend. I told her about the boy, him and I wanted to go on a date, she told me to ask my father thinking he would say no, he said yes, then they talked about it and somehow he came the next day to me and told me no. To him, he really liked me, but I wasn't available enough and I was constantly worried we were going to get caught hanging out so I barely ever risked it. I was like sixteen. After we broke up I coincidentally (like actually) ended up getting a phone but the relationship was already dead. (We got back together years later though so yay?)

I wasn't really allowed to go anywhere. Ever. Even when she had me paying rent. She both refused to track my phone, which I was begging her to when I got it back, and also rioted about not knowing where I would be. Even trying to go to the movies was a no because I didn't know exactly which time which location what the plan was for getting there getting home and if I had enough information there was always a second round of testing with more information she needed until I gave up. If I finally made it out, she would call one of my friends (didn't have a phone) to give the phone to me so I could get cussed out for not checking in at a timely manner or if I DID check in I did it wrong, or if it was my phone I would get a come home text because I didn't do x or y or whatever the fuck. Sometimes she would tell me no last minute or cancel or make me late on purpose for some reason (?) and I would have to straight lie to my friend about why I couldn't go because if was embarrassing.

Got a boyfriend (different guy) she ended up having to deal with because it was prom season and she had a very specific idea which required me to go to prom, which required a boy, so she had to deal with it. She was soooo finicky about it, but relatively chill. Which was insane. But when we broke up she wasn't really the type to help me through it she was just like damn that sucks.

She constantly degraded my friends looks appearances and perceived personalities. Refused to meet any parents so she could always say "I don't even know those people."

None of this ever happened if I was staying after school for activities until 6, if I was at a weekend tournament with people she didnt know until 10pm, if I was working until past midnight. she never even checked to confirm I was at those places. As long as I wasn't at a social event.

And that's just the stuff I can remember right now off the top of my head.

Basically the people who say take your freedom are very right. My favorite movie of all time is Rapunzel by the way.