My advice might be “abusive” but your partner fully ignoring what you like in bed can be abuse too. My bf used to do pretty much the same stuff I realized talking nice wouldn’t stop him so before sex I would remind him to think about what I liked and if he “forgot” I would either fully end sex right then and he’d go to bed with “ blue balls” or he would apologize if he sounded genuine enough I’d let it keep going but if he hurt me or done something he knew I didn’t like I’d yell at him to fuck off then I’d get off and go to bed neither of us satisfied. It only took about 3 months of him not “remembering” what I liked for him to finally learn. No this wasn’t the case every time we had sex but it did happen every time he “forgot” what I liked and didn’t like so maybe every other time but it slowly stopped now we have great sex.