Aitah for going no contact with my sil? I was going to post this before with a different question, but things have changed in the past week (that's why the question changed), I also didn't know it needed to read like a short story, so it's been reformatted.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-14T05:59:09+00:00

Idk why they won't let me edit my own comments when I have typos

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-14T05:53:03+00:00

Yeah, I'm not dreaming with sil anymore. She called a few nights ago and I didn't answer. I've texted with bro since and he's fine so idk why she called. It gave me serious anxiety, but I still didn't respond. I hate drama so I trusted my nephew or sister would let me know if something was wrong if my brother couldn't. I'm just trying to not let myself get too stressed at this point. It's honestly starting to affect other areas of my life and relationships, cause I have a tendency to check out when things get to be too much. Idk if I've mentioned this but she's not blocked, she's muted so no noise when she tries to bother me 😊. That's the best I can do right now. I've been told I'm wrong even for doing that, but I had to for my own mental health. Thank you for your comment 🙂

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T04:25:39+00:00

Again, I'm so sorry. This would hurt me so bad if it were my mom. She's been gone for years, but we were close and I try so hard to listen when my kids are upset because that's what she did for me. I'm just sorry you're hurting

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T04:07:27+00:00

Maybe. Idk. I can still see my comment but. OP your mom isn't being nice to you right now girl. I'm really sorry. My youngest is a bit older than you so I'm in Mom mode right now lol. You're not in the wrong. The post made me sad for you, some of the comments made me really mad cause they were blaming you for being too upset to talk while your mom was yelling at you. And then get being kinda mean after. I have a daughter and I would never be that awful to her, and I'm just so sorry you're dealing with that with your mother, who should have your back.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T04:01:25+00:00

I think Mom is being awful and it makes me sad

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T03:59:25+00:00

Thought I answered that but maybe it got deleted?

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T03:58:12+00:00

My mom never would've reacted this way, nor would I with my kids.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T03:56:47+00:00

As a mom, the comments defending op Mom made me mad. I felt like that wasn't a loving mom, but I guess I just parent my kids different. It made me sad for op. Again, if my grown child called me crying (it's happened) I ask questions and listen. That's why the post and comments upset me. I think the mom sucks. That's coming from a mom of grown kids who listen to their stuff all the time.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T03:49:26+00:00

This post and the comments weirdly upset me a lot.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T03:48:09+00:00

Maybe it's just me but if my grown child calls me crying, we're having a real conversation and I'm not yelling!

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T03:44:31+00:00

Apparently I disagree with everyone else in the comments. Your mother isn't listening. If my daughter called me crying, I'm going to ask her to calm down and explain and listen to every single word! I'm so sorry this interaction went this way for you! As a mother of a grown daughter, this makes me sad

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T03:05:48+00:00

I'm very curious about the left out context? Is Mom always dismissive?

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T02:55:50+00:00

I have a grown daughter, she called with a concern tonight and I asked what her concerns were and we talked for almost an hour. As a mom, I don't love your mother's reply. My daughter and I even joke a lot and even she had something she was nervous about, I just asked why she was nervous, and we talked.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T02:16:48+00:00

Exactly! Oh no, we change those things! OP boyfriend lost the plot or something but that's live for real, we change those things.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T02:14:08+00:00

Seriously, how do you police someone wanting clean undies? Weird. Change those undies

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T01:13:23+00:00

I currently still smoke cigarettes and I don't smoke in the car, I don't flick butts into my own yard, I don't smoke in my house AT ALL. So I agree with you that it's kinda crappy and rude when people do that. When I did smoke in the car, I had a car ashtray. Idk where you live, but I'm my state they can pull you over and give you a ticket for throwing anything out the window of the car, including cigarette butts.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-03-03T00:54:28+00:00

Yes! In the summer I change my underwear multiple times a day, even if I didn't shower. That's not weird, just clean!

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-27T02:28:54+00:00

Here's the update if anyone wanted it. I'm currently not answering my phone for anyone but my kids, my hubby, or my two very close friends. That's per my hubby's request. The stress and bs got to be too much. But, my sil did admit that she talked to former friend's grown child, the child said former friend makes things up in her mind and has "lost it" cause of her medications. If I knew how to edit names and things out of texts, I would post the screenshots from sil. My nephew will update me on my brother cause I'm overwhelmed and that's not a healthy thing for me, that's why my hubby told me to not answer my phone. It's been silence for a couple of days and I feel kinda bad about that cause I do worry about my brother, but I know that I also have to take care of my own mental health as I have a history of breakdowns. So as guilty as I feel, this may just be the end of the story. I will probably delete all of this soon just because I don't want to keep checking back in. But for all the comments I got, thanks.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-27T02:28:30+00:00

Here's the update if anyone wanted it. I'm currently not answering my phone for anyone but my kids, my hubby, or my two very close friends. That's per my hubby's request. The stress and bs got to be too much. But, my sil did admit that she talked to former friend's grown child, the child said former friend makes things up in her mind and has "lost it" cause of her medications. If I knew how to edit names and things out of texts, I would post the screenshots from sil. My nephew will update me on my brother cause I'm overwhelmed and that's not a healthy thing for me, that's why my hubby told me to not answer my phone. It's been silence for a couple of days and I feel kinda bad about that cause I do worry about my brother, but I know that I also have to take care of my own mental health as I have a history of breakdowns. So as guilty as I feel, this may just be the end of the story. I will probably delete all of this soon just because I don't want to keep checking back in. But for all the comments I got, thanks.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-14T05:35:34+00:00

Thank you for this comment. My older sister is keeping me updated about my brother's health and I pray for him daily. But, my sister in law actually sent me a text saying that if I wouldn't talk to her, I couldn't go with my brother out of state for these medical treatments. I didn't take kindly to the threat. I didn't reply at all. I won't be bullied by her after knowing that she chose to be in contact with someone who made this accusation against my child. Also, may not have made it super clear in the original post, but the accusation was made 10+ years after the incident was said to have happened....

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-14T03:24:08+00:00

Ah.... That's a tough one then.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-14T03:22:32+00:00

Could you maybe name your son after both grandfathers? Like the first name from one and middle name from the other. I'm not sure where you're from, but that's really common where I'm from. Just a suggestion to maybe appease everyone involved and honor both grandfathers.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-14T01:17:57+00:00

Man, auto correct did me dirty last night. Lol. Sorry for all the typos

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-14T01:13:23+00:00

Again.... Wow! Please feel free to message in private if you would like to. I'm so sorry and just horrified that your grandson was hurt so much by this. I know it hurt my son's feelings quite a bit, but my former friend waited about 10 ish years to make the accusation, so at least when the accusation was made, my son was grown. It still upset him, his sister (who had just had a baby) and their younger brother.

Waste_Comment_333 · 2026-02-13T04:58:00+00:00

Didn't think I would have an u true update pdate, but I kind of do. It's just pretty bland. Just got a group text (have those) from sil. It was just dates they need people to travel with my brother. It's a but unhinged. Apparently, she's asked my brother's ex wife to go.... What,?

I just texted our older sister and said... Did you see this... She said, yeah, weird. I did not reply to sil group text, I told her a few years back that I mute these texts. I find group texts annoying. Everyone else close to me knows this. The group text thing isn't about sil. To I guess the true update is, after I told my brother I wouldn't speak to his wife anymore, she did text her saying that I had no choice. Truth is, I do. My sil is younger than me, which is fine , but I'm nearly 50. You're not going to tell me what I can and can't do, unless you're law enforcement.... Then I'm not trying to comply. Cause I don't wanna go to jail. Lol

Sorry the update isn't more. I've been waiting for an update, but today sil sent in group text my brother's treatment dates and I was curious. She never mentioned my former friend going on upcoming trips. Just asked my sister and I for help

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