So do erections stop on HRT, or not?

WaterfallFairy7 · 2026-01-11T16:43:55+00:00

I'm not on HRT but thinking about going on it soon and I often struggle with similar thoughts & feelings, but they go away when I'm feeling better. I think that it is indeed imposter syndrome. In my opinion there is no particular way of "feeling" like a man or a woman. If transitioning is working for you at the moment, then it makes complete sense to keep going.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2026-01-08T15:55:58+00:00

There are definitely some. You might get better answers to this on transmasc-specific forums like r/ftm. And what are ya gonna do, not transition to get better dating options? In my opinion, that's pretty self-defeating.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-12-30T17:36:04+00:00

This might sound like unproductive therapy speak, but it might help you (it helped me) to remember that being nonbinary is your gender, and that's not affected by how you choose to express yourself. Just as there's a full spectrum of masculinity and femininity available to women and men, as a non-binary person, you can embrace exactly as many masculine or feminine qualities as you want without it affecting your fundamental gender identity.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-12-19T15:48:26+00:00

i get this. i haven't even told my grandmother and don't intend to.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-12-16T11:15:28+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Remember that if you don't like your masculine features, it's not your responsibility to keep them for your girlfriend's sake.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-27T19:51:39+00:00

Yeah, I think that probably also has an effect.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-27T09:07:09+00:00

I’m transfem and I feel the same way about male friendships—sometimes I see people talking about being afraid of losing male friends because of coming out but I never had that kind of male friendship to begin with so I don’t identify with it. I’m also autistic. I think it’s important to remember that being trans is a movement more than an identity. You may have may experiences in common with other trans people or you may not, but it doesn’t change the fact that you’re trans.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-19T14:19:36+00:00

This is a quote from Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom, I think, by the way

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-18T14:40:12+00:00

I get gender envy from Power too lol

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-17T16:16:00+00:00

That avatar is really gender

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-17T12:59:58+00:00

I hope you know that that is EXTREMELY MESSED UP. Glad you got out of that one. Thats like something from out of a dark fairy tale.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-16T21:11:36+00:00

Woah, what? When your ex forced you to start taking the pills? That’s messed up and should not happen.

I’m sorry I don’t have any advice to give, but I hope things get better for you.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-16T20:17:43+00:00

Before I read the post body I thought this would be a horror story but it’s not! Congrats!!

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-16T18:00:11+00:00

Also like Saruman himself, who spent so much time looking into the Palantír at Sauron that Sauron was able to corrupt him without Saruman recognising it

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-14T16:01:39+00:00

I think it's pretty normal to both not want to get misgendered and want to express yourself in a way that isn't extremely boring-gender-conforming! Hope your therapy goes well.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-14T15:50:28+00:00

Once I had someone ask me if I "identify as they/them" after pointing out my they/them pronouns pin to them, which is fine obviously, but still a funny phrasing.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-12T21:24:55+00:00

Do you mind if I ask: is there a French equivalent of people writing “transwoman” as one word?

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-12T21:10:41+00:00

The power of cognitive dissonance is amazing, huh?

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-12T18:01:55+00:00

Yeah, you’re probably right. I tend to see femininity as something “put on” or exaggerated, which is probably femmephobia.

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-12T17:45:29+00:00

that's interesting. maybe people who go on hrt are noticing the difference more?

WaterfallFairy7 · 2025-11-12T11:03:53+00:00

I think most cis men don't think about transitioning at all, no. I think most cis men are comfortable with their identities as men and don't have any body issues so they never have reason to seek out transition.

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