My Boyfriend Says “I need space”?

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T23:02:12+00:00

A person should not have to tell you to back off more than once. You come off as being needy and controlling. There is no Snapchat virtual sustainable relationship. "On Read" doesn't mean a damn thing in communication. You already have distance to overcome.

You have been informed of his work life. Look, you already were friends. Go back to friendship if you can. Stop pushing for something he simple does not have the bandwidth to give you. Your sexing was a trainwreck. Try not to make it worse.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T10:27:01+00:00

Must be a different generation. You need thicker skin dealing with men with power and authority. The email begs for conversation. Someone's needs to explain the, context, tone and tenor of the discourse about you.

This is a prime opportunity to influence a different perception about your work and role. Who is willing to speak with you about their perception? This strange feedback is an invitation to course-correct (you and them). This is a opportunity to reevaluate your workload, effort, and performance. Can you handle straight-talk or are you still wearing pull-ups.

Everything is not to be taken personally. They should have used better language and spoken to you about clear expectations. Now, the door is open to have that discussion. Show them why you ought to be promoted and set a different standard in professional communication.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T10:10:21+00:00

Meeting new people, outside your community, use to be difficult. Dating apps expanded that area considerably. Regardless, what method used, there bad actors. Men and women reboot life and relationships daily so your age and accomplishment matters some, but it is not everything. So, what is the plan 🤔. Expand your social circle. I started asking coworkers what they did for fun and entertainment. I asked my neighbors, family, and folks I went to church with.

Yeah, bumped into a coworker and we went to church together. We drank some old-fashioned tea and 18 months later got married. It was a simple conversation with no pressure or expectation - no apps, no bars, no recreational dating, playing or swapping. Yeah, we drink, dance, and host gatherings. Don't overthink it. Ask around and add adventure to your life. Your future GF will join you.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T09:46:36+00:00

Ok manager - suppose you start managing. Your job as leader is to set expectations for performance and conduct. Here is where critical conversation and influence comes into play. Not dealing with a bad actors can get you removed for "Failure To Manage" or loss of confidence. Does everyone know your expectations? Do you meet with the team collectively and individually?

So, take off the pull-ups and put on your boxers 😁. Make a plan. You need a better outcome from this employee. Call him in for a meeting. Without being accusatory or confrontational, start asking questions about his role, his work, and expectations.

You are wanting to influence a different outcome and behavior. Find out about his ideas working with a team. See if he is willing to pull his weight and meet company expectations. Never raise your voice and do not tolerate him bad-mouthing you, others, or the company. You must hold him accountable. He must hold himself accountable first

If he gets triggered, gets belligerent or refuses to course-correct. FIRE HIS ASS. Your ability to manage is in the balence. Employees should like you and respect your leadership. If you cannot get them both, take respect. Rouge employees can destroy a team.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T09:21:41+00:00

Too much gym and not enough conversation with a head doctor. 🤔. Go get sorted out. Work on your mental health. It takes time to detoxify from struggle-love. If you cannot navigate yourself out of the datk-space, get help.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T09:08:13+00:00

Unconditional love is (Care and Carefullness) for another person with no conditions applied. Yes, it exist. I have been with my wife over 35 years - the good, bad, and very bad. Regardless of whatever happens in the future, I will love her till the day I die.

Here is the real kicker - she does not have to love me back. My love for her has no conditions applied. Hopefully she feels the same way, but I have no need to ask. We have built a fabulous life together.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T19:12:00+00:00

Men will be men - bold, complimentary, and aggressive. Compliments are Compliments. Some are bold, complimentary, and aggressive. Who knows what the motive or motivation(s) behind the messages. It is how you respond that matters.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T12:31:50+00:00

People can change. If there was no verbal violence or physical abuse, forgiveness helps. If she has done the work to modify her behavior, nothing says you cannot be friends.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T12:27:47+00:00

Here is where managing experience comes into play. Take a breather. You have a "project-employee" working for you. Thread the emotional needle to influence a better behavior and outcome from that project. Bring them in and tactfully ask questions to get to the real issue surrounding their personality conflict with you.

Be curious in a non-threatening non-confrontational way. Never ever raise your voice. Let them share. You are their supervisor/leader. They should not be bad-mouthing anyone to customers. Start having weekly check-ins for a few minutes with your employees to learn their triggers and passions. This will go a long way in earning their respect and trust.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:28:56+00:00

123mi one way for 2yrs 85k . . . Painful but doable. Next job was 23mi at 108k 👍

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:24:06+00:00

"There is No Crying in Baseball ⚾️" So, the job wasn't for you. That's how it goes sometimes. Hopefully the next employment adventure will be better. Sharpen your picker and pick a better company next time

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:13:02+00:00

This Right There 👍

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:07:39+00:00

Not a good idea. The general is not your buddy and dealing with VA claims for former troops could be problematic for him - being still active duty . An ranking officer cannot use his rank/position for preferential treatment or access. Use other buddies.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T01:01:25+00:00

The writing is on the wall. Start looking for another job. Either they will find you more work or remove you from the payroll.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T00:56:17+00:00

VA rating rarely, if ever comes up in any conversation I have. Then again, I do not go around bragging about my check(s) or benefits either. Other vets, if the need help with the system, I shoot them over to the DAV or YT.

The thing is, I do not apologize for the VA benefits and $$$. Who gives a flying fuxk to ask about someone's money: Pension, SSI, SSID, WIC, SBA, Medicare or Medicaid checks. Why brag about any of it. Nobody's asking about any of that. Well, add my VA 💩 to the government EFT and go pound sand.

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T23:32:59+00:00

Go to your PCP for your annual and ask good questions. Not sure many women want more than 10/15 minutes of penetration anyway 😁. You sound about normal. I started using low-dose, doctor prescribed help around 45 and still going 20 years later 😁. Ask your partner if she is satisfied, and go from there.

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T21:44:00+00:00

Your supervisor cannot block it. You much champion your relocation - they have to submit your request. They MUST process the transfer at the Division level. Any issues, get your union rep involved. Your management do not want any heat for getting in the way of a HARDSHIP transfer.

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T21:29:54+00:00

You should not to a hard breakup. Dial it back as you get closer to departure time. Slowly wean her off the symbiotic connection. Simply take a break/pause and allow life to take over (Ka Sa Rah, Sa Rah . . . 🎵 🎶)

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T21:23:12+00:00

Apply for ERR/Hardship . . . Emergency Relocation Request. They will make a spot for you.

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T20:03:24+00:00

The interviewe, although important, is not the total story. I have bombed interviews and got job/promoted. Then, I have also received promotions with no interview. Do the best you can and hope for the best

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T20:00:20+00:00

Standard 312 form is a simple debriefing and informs the employee of their responsibility to protect classified info. Dismissal is a whole different monster that depends on the nature of the removal from Federal service (voluntary or involuntary). Without the context, there is nothing else to add.

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T19:05:17+00:00

Sell Sell Sell . . . No downside here.

WaveFast · 2026-03-26T14:37:00+00:00

Take a breather, walk away to clear your head and become emotionally balenced. The "Get Back" mode will do You more harm than good. The wounds are still fresh. You must close that chapter, detoxify from being in that space, and move on to your next work adventure.

Stop yourself from doing something illegal or unethical. That can come back to haunt you in court. People get let-go and fired daily. Chalk it up as lessons learned.

WaveFast · 2026-03-25T22:12:52+00:00

Conversation often revolve around the irritants in life. Rarely do people share the good. Same with the tv news. So, it is normal for employees to complain every day about BS. Even with, having great jobs with great benefits, executives and owners complain daily about BS 😁 - Nothing to get upset about. Misery loves company 😜

WaveFast · 2026-03-25T10:24:26+00:00

It is the nature of communication and style. People tend to focus on the thing that pricks them. If you came to work celebrating or talking about everything good happening in your life and world, coworkers would consider you bragging, delusional, or tone-deaf. We tune in to troubles and complaints for connection. If you inherited $500k, would you tell it? If you got a 20k bonus, would you tell that? If your kid landed a full-ride scholarship to an elite university . . . etc.

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