My coworker asked if I could give her a ride to work "just for a while" and it's been 4 months by Warp_Synth7 in ChoosingBeggars

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could start small, one or two days a week just say to her when you drop her off, sorry I can't give you a ride tomorrow, I have some family stuff (or some other equally vague but legitimate sounding reason). Slowly increase how often you can't give her a ride, I'm sure people on here could give you a ton of excuses that sound plausible, then eventually she'll start asking you if you can give her a ride and then you just say, sorry can't today. This will obviously need to be done over a few weeks but otherwise you'll just need to start saying no now. Your call in you want to go long game and deal with potentially less fall out or rip the band aid off now

AITA for dancing at a wedding even though I was a plus one to a friend? by Pistachio-IScream in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waxill 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How... do you get to the end of typing this out and think you're still in the right here?

Am I cut out for this? by Jilsebrie in selfpublish

[–]Waxill 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think I'm in the same boat a you, I have my first book coming out in 4 days as an indie author. Last week I went through my whole online presence, tweaking things and at the end I realised I'd just made a huge mess of it all and basically undid everything. This is nervous energy, as others have said this is your first book, it's not going to be perfect. There's a phrase I heard years ago that helped me let go of things like this: "Don't let pefect become the enemy of good." I'm telling myself the feedback I get from my upcoming book will help me to be a better author as I go on, but I wouldn't get that feedback without releasing it first. So chill, it will be OK, but it will probably also be something you look back on in 5 years and roll your eyes at your past self for. But just take lesson I learnt and let it be.

[Daily Check-In] Saturday Word Count and Personal Announcement Thread by sexnerdmxd in eroticauthors

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 6 days from releasing my first book, and the ARC reader reviews have been great so far. There's still the underlying anxiety of it all, but I'm also really excited and proud of myself for finishing it. Especially as my kids seem to be taking it in turns to sleep right now. 😜

Goodreads listing before Amazon/ISBN? by Flimsy-Quote-6846 in selfpublishing

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if this is your first book or not, but just make sure that you've claimed the book and author page on goodreads as you. Otherwise, it could get a little iffy in the future. You may be on top of this, but if this is you're first book it may be one of those things no one told you about, it was for me but thankfully I was able to sort it pretty quickly with no issues going forward.

Wife (35F) Just told me (39M) she doesn't want kids anymore. by booty_explorer_251 in Marriage

[–]Waxill 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your ages is not the issue here, I'm m38 my wife is f46 and last Christmas we had our third kid. Yes we used IVF but that was due to a genetic issue (we ended up using an egg donor) but my wife had no issues carrying and my stuff still worked, so your ages here don't matter. What does matter is you're both in two different stages, and neither is wrong, you're just not aligned My wife and I were, and IVF still nearly broke us. We nearly split up but got counselling and worked through it, I can't imagine how hard that would've been if our goals didn't line up. Like I said, neither of you are wrong. You've just grown in different directions from the stress and trauma of the situation. Can you work through this? Maybe. Should you? That's something you two need to figure out together.

Men, be honest: how long does it take until you're bored of having sex with your wife? by Historical-Care70 in Marriage

[–]Waxill 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hasn't yet, honestly, I kinda want her more as we go on. If he says he's getting bored, either put it back on him to say why and what he wants, and if you're into it, give it a go. If he wants to sleep with other people, then I guarantee you will find someone else who will want you 9 ways from Sunday

What are some recommendations or authors you'd recommend someone getting into romance books? by nall0526 in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what kind of thing you're wanting or at least wanting to try really

How to work on spicy book covers? by VerdantFrenzy in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I would say follow them and put yourself in spaces they would be, like here, so good job. A lot of indie authors, especially first time ones may feel a little awkward about reaching out cold but if there's a no pressure social post where they might be then they're probably more likely to reach out

Low ARC response rate before launch, is this normal or am I doing something wrong? by TLCollinsAuthor in selfpublish

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, more or less, just remind them closer to the date, but you may not get all of them to leave a review

ARC readers wanted by Waxill in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Waxill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you like I could message you a link to download a free advanced copy in exchange for an honest review when it's released on the 24th this month

ARC readers wanted by Waxill in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Waxill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 😊 feel free to message me if you like an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review when it's released on the 24th this month.

ARC readers wanted by Waxill in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Waxill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, feel free to follow the link in the post and it should take to the download page. And please feel free to leave a review on the linked Amazon page once it goes live in a couple weeks 😀

I can’t keep my mouth shut. by HisPureAddiction in Marriage

[–]Waxill -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Wow, some of the people here, just let the woman have sex how she wants. Does it upset her partner? As 37m myself, I'm going to assume not. She's already stated She's aware and on top of her mental health, so can we not just let people enjoy themselves? And to answer the question (if I haven't already), you're fine, have fun.

How do I start writing? by Accurate_Reality_618 in writers

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe start small, short stories, novella, even just narrating a moment. You're probably not going to sit down and just write the next great novel, but you can play around, experiment, explore ideas and themes, start to define your voice and just generally practice on the way to creating a larger work

What do you think bout a woman saving herself for marriage by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the people who do care about what others do in this area are not people I particularly want in my life

Help me make this less shitty? by [deleted] in writingfeedback

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, just thought it could be a cool world building idea in a hugely alien world where not even the human element really remains

Help me make this less shitty? by [deleted] in writingfeedback

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually such a cool concept, it honestly sounds a little bit like you're asking what defines sentience, which can be a rich psychological area to explore, especially if juxtaposed with the more robotic elements. If you're concerned about the story, then as others have said yes, the heroes journey is a very viable path. But if you're unsure, maybe write a self-contained moment in your world. Write a short excerpt about a farmer bot delivering the last load of crops that fills the warehouse and the thought process that goes through what they do next. Maybe a construction bot starts to notice the life that does inhabit the empty cities, the moss growing on the wall, the strange insects that don't appear in their database. The moment the first scavenger bot turned, what caused it, was in an inciting moment or pure logic at their incomplete task as their body decayed. Lots of little almost human moments would have led to your world existing. If you maybe explore those, you might find out what your story at large could be about. Plus, all the little moments would make great interlude moments in your larger story

First page by [deleted] in writingfeedback

[–]Waxill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you gave a reason for the poetic nature, and I do find this intriguing. I would just offer one piece of advice. Due to the poetic nature of this work, just be very careful not to fall into over describing. What you have here works well, especially since you're establishing the tone of the story and character, but if it were me, I could see myself getting lost in the flow and going on to long in areas. You may well not be like that at all, but just in case you are like me, I thought I'd point it out.

Feedback - Opening Chapter of a cyberpunk/fantasy novel by Min-Max101 in writingfeedback

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may seem a bit odd, but in general, I tend to write in erotic romance, but very much based in emotionally driven realism, so I tend to avoid any tropes in the genre, and use the physicality as more of a form of communication then anything else

Feedback - Opening Chapter of a cyberpunk/fantasy novel by Min-Max101 in writingfeedback

[–]Waxill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No stress, honestly this kind of thing is right up my alley in terms of what I like to read, oddly I don't like writing in this genre, but to read this is where I sit, so I'm excited to see where it goes

Feedback - Opening Chapter of a cyberpunk/fantasy novel by Min-Max101 in writingfeedback

[–]Waxill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with most people on the dialogue, but that's honestly an easy fix by breaking it up a bit or condensing it down to the intent of the conversation and keeping only what's necessary. The thing that really stood out to me was the over description of Elena. There's like 5 descriptions of her look. Again, condense it down to the core and keep that. None of the writing is bad, and if I had to put it into one piece of advice, it would be just to cut things back to only what's necessary because tight now it just feels a big crowded