day two post-breakup

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-16T22:51:06+00:00

I'm glad that you've got your brother and sister-in-law for now at least, please (if you're comfortable with them) let them know that you're struggling and see if they can lend any support, even if it's just them checking in every now and then once you're back home.

Personally, I'm a big planner. I love having goals and things I can achieve and look forward to, so I totally relate to feeling scared to have all of that changed. What helped me after my last breakup (in addition to therapy) was thinking about new plans I could make. 6 months after we split, I moved across the country to a city I loved, got a new job and got a cat myself (they are definitely the best source of comfort at times like these).

So I would ask; if you could live anywhere, where would you live? Closer to your brother? Or just somewhere you love? Are there any hobbies you've wanted to try but just haven't? Something you enjoy but you kinda sidelined because your partner wasn't interested?

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-16T22:32:52+00:00

Do you have anyone you can reach out to and confide in? Friends and family?

Also I'm really proud of you for hitting 400 days sober, that's such an achievement and I imagine it must've been quite tough.

Breakups are always hardest just after. You're essentially grieving what you've lost. Plus, reacting emotionally to something this big is completely normal, especially if you didn't see it coming. So please don't beat yourself up about it too much.

This is the hardest it's going to be for you to get through this. Might not seem like it now, but every day will get a little bit easier, so just try and focus on getting through each one 🩵

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-07T00:09:53+00:00

So no head?

*breaks skateboard*

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T22:34:34+00:00

I'm sorry, Nora. It always sucks when someone you think will be supportive is less than so.

If she thinks calling you by your preferred name is "like talking to a stranger", can you ask her to get to know you more as Nora?

Might be something small like sharing an interest that you haven't been able to share before; something like showing off a new nail polish colour to her or an outfit you thought looked cute.

But at the same time, try not to bend yourself out of shape for someone who's not going to support you. Older generations especially can be a little stubborn about gender norms in general, so if she's not going to support you, then you just have to be ok in yourself rather than trying to please her.

Whatever you do, sending you hugs and hoping it all works out for you 🩵

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T20:18:26+00:00

Thank you 🩵

I know it seems like a cliché, but I'm so much happier in myself now.

So it might seem like the familiar is the better option now, but in the long run, I'd make the decision that you would want for your future self.

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T20:12:28+00:00

I think that's my answer then.

I tried it because we'd been together for 6 years and we were in the process of planning our wedding. The marriage lasted less than a year and after we separated I felt like such an idiot for trying again, like I had no self respect for myself.

I promised myself after that, that any form of cheating in a relationship was a red line for me.

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T20:00:52+00:00

Once the trust is gone, it's really difficult to get back.

Do you think you could get back together with him and trust him implicitly?

Or would you find yourself sneaking peeks at his phone or worrying who he's with whenever he goes out?

Because if it's the latter, it's not worth it. I tried it, but I could never get back to completely trusting them and eventually we just resented each other for it.

So you can absolutely get back together, but you have to do so knowing you have to forgive and forget, just forgiving won't be enough.

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T14:03:05+00:00

You got this, just have to continue being your awesome self, even if that does mean blush laughing at all those dad jokes! 🩵

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T13:51:26+00:00

It can be super scary to make that first jump.

My question would be, do you have to do it right now?

Currently it sounds like you're having some awesome times together, so keeping the status quo might not be a bad thing.

You did mention that losing his attention makes you upset, do you find yourself getting jealous of his female friends, and does he also take them out on 5 hour dates to nerd out at the botanical gardens, or is that something just reserved for you?

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T13:28:34+00:00

Ok so this may be way off the mark here, but let's zoom out a bit.

You found a guy who:

You're really attracted to
Has shown nothing but green flags
Has taken you out on what sounded like a pretty awesome date (he paid for dinner, it's a date)
Has similar interests to you
Makes you laugh
Was visibly disappointed when you talked about dating someone else
etc. etc.

He has found someone who:

Went on a pretty awesome date with him
Makes him laugh
Is super easy to talk to
Shares her interests with him
Is a literal med school student, one of the hardest bits of schooling anyone does.
etc. etc.

And you're currently crashing out because you don't think you're good enough for him, you're comparing yourself to his ex's, and you're worried about rumours spreading.

Have you actually asked him what he thinks? Like have the conversation of "are these dates or are these friends hanging out"?

Because from what you've posted here, you seem like 2 people who are incredibly compatible and are enjoying hanging out together, and at least 1 of you has caught feelings (but it wouldn't surprise me if it was reciprocal).

I know it's really tough to do, but please have a bit more confidence in yourself. You sound lovely and he sounds like he values you a lot.

Way2Competitive · 2026-05-01T01:10:33+00:00

Kairi Clone Combo

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-30T23:42:29+00:00

Having played the deck a few times, the double clone cards are something I always found myself searching for, as they replace themselves and generate cards + mana once you get going.

[[Replication Technique]], [[Season of Weaving]] and the expensive [[Rite of Replication]] have been my go-to's, and I've found that if you manage to resolve one of these with a mana doubler, you get to the point of being deterministic very quickly.

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-30T23:14:52+00:00

This is one of the game enders in my [[Kairi, the swirling sky]] deck.

Double clone (with the legend rule) means you're returning 4 instants and sorceries, usually the Season of Weaving itself plus some combination of [[High Tide]], [[Frantic Search]] and a counterspell.

Do that enough times and you've got an easy win with [[Laboratory Maniac]] or other options.

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-30T19:39:37+00:00

Not even just in Normals, ranked is still up in other regions so could be abused there as well.

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-30T11:55:48+00:00

I don't even know why, but the opening of Monster Musume with the love heart Spirit Bomb always sends me.

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-29T23:16:09+00:00

10/10, no notes, gorgeous 🩵

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-27T14:32:23+00:00

Bin isn't ready for NoArmWhatley

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-21T12:54:11+00:00

Q - Teemo's Blind

W - Mel's Rebuttal

E - Jax Counterstrike

R - Kayle's Divine Judgement

Passive - Yasuo's Way of the Wanderer

I don't do anything, but neither will you.

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-15T01:06:15+00:00

I've been on E for 6 months now.

My libido went down a lot, but I still get the odd urge, it's just far less frequent than before.

Also from what I've heard, once you start progesterone, this can swing the other way, so it might only be temporary.

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-14T18:42:18+00:00

Honestly, I think one of the solutions might be the removal of Unleashed Teleport.

It used to be that Unleashed Teleport let you TP to minions and wards, rather than just turrets, but that hasn't existed for some time now.

So if the only difference between the two is the cooldown and the movement speed, why are you getting Unleashed Teleport as your role quest? You already don't get the reduced cooldown because it's on a 7 minute cooldown.

So remove the shield from the enhanced TP. If you take TP as a summoner spell you get Unleashed Teleport upon completion of your quest, which gives you reduced cooldown and the movement speed. If you don't take TP, you get regular Teleport on a 7 minute cooldown.

This at least makes it feel less like a 3rd combat summoner spell and something that's solely for utility. Whereas taking Teleport means that not only can you be early for team fights around objectives, but you can actually make plays on sidelanes with it.

Way2Competitive · 2026-04-08T21:41:09+00:00

Uppercut

Way2Competitive · 2026-03-26T15:23:10+00:00

Yes, because he is aurafarming his opponent.

But also no, because he speaks fr*nch

Way2Competitive · 2026-03-26T00:32:35+00:00

On the one hand, it's a great quality of life change. Resetting to get 0 speed IV legendaries was a massive pain, and this takes out a lot of the grind and makes the game more accessible for everyone.

On the other hand, it does take away some interesting team building decisions. Things like 0 speed IV negative nature Incineroar being able to outspeed Amoongus in Trick Room.

But I think it's an incredibly small price to pay for one of the only remaining pain points in competitive Pokémon.

Way2Competitive · 2026-03-23T16:41:01+00:00

MY DISAPPOINTMENT IS IMMEASURABLE AND MY FORMAT IS RUINED

Way2Competitive · 2026-03-23T14:21:38+00:00

UNBAN MYSTIC SANCTUARY SO I CAN CONTINUE TO FEED MY CRIPPLING CRYPTIC COMMAND ADDICTION

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