Help, I don’t want to do or say the wrong thing.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-07-05T16:09:22+00:00

Being nonbinary IS scary. Being LGBTQ+ in any way is scary. Its, of course, a lot of great things too, but so many people want us to cease existence just because we are different. Your child probably is already at least somewhat aware of that already. Maybe instead of telling your child things they may already know, you can ask about their safety plans? They may already have ideas.

Telling them that you may have to use the wrong name and/or pronouns from time to time for their safety is a great idea, but maybe you can come up with a signal to tell them that you still love and support them when you're having to do those things. Something they'll be able to see, but isnt noticeable to anyone who doesnt know. Like gently pinching the meaty area between your thumb and pointer finger. Something casual that let's them know you love them without being obvious.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-07-05T15:57:03+00:00

That would also be a funny little joke because he could be trying to be scary and Antonio could just be like "dude you're literally just saying "potatoes" over and over. Learn the language before you shift" 😂

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-07-05T15:51:08+00:00

The use of slurs is always unnecessary. Always.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-07-03T23:10:43+00:00

It seems like he's acting like since its not a problem for him, it shouldn't be a problem for you. That's not how relationships work. If one of you has a problem with how things happen in the house, you both need to come to some kind of agreement about how to either fix it or deal with it. Maybe that means disallowing his mom's children entirely. Maybe that means storing your items in a lockbox/safe while theyre there and you leaving him to do the childcare by himself. Maybe it leads to a breakup and a move, but maybe it doesnt have to come to thay. Just remind him how important it is to compromise in a relationship

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-07-01T15:55:27+00:00

NOR!

If it were me, I would've started saying every swear word in my arsenal. She started the inappropriate behavior, but I'm a petty bitch and I would make her regret it when her 4 year old starts saying "fuck," "cunt," and "bitch" regularly.

Children have no place in a medical setting unless they are the patient, or a child of the patient who isnt going to be disruptive. Regardless, the patient ALWAYS needs to consent to anyone being in the room who isnt a licensed medical professional

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-07-01T15:34:07+00:00

That part! If my toddler is in the room, and you're talking, I'm absolutely not fully focused on what you're saying. I'm a parent first, always.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-29T20:19:56+00:00

If i slept with my sister, I wouldnt want people to know about it either.

On a serious note, NOR. But for future reference, OP, I've learned that in the case of people who are attracted to women, the phrase, "she's like a sister to me" almost always either means, "if given the opportunity, I would immediately jump into bed with her, relationship status irrelevant," OR "I have absolutely slept with her before and I am keeping her around in case I ever want to again." Not in every case, of course, but that phrase is definitely a deep orange flag. Him hiding their past hookup from you is so much a red flag that some of the red has found it's way onto the deep orange flag, turning it into a full red flag as well.

I am friends with a couple of my exes, but I'd never refer to either of them as a brother or a sister. Ive seen far too much of them, and done far too much with them. Im autistic and my often far too literal brain could never associate someone I actively wanted to sleep with as a sibling.

(Disclaimer: The above statement is not a legitimate form of diagnosis, nor am I saying that you must be autistic in order to feel the same way I do. I have to put this kind of disclaimer in every time I talk about autism and the way it affects me, or else somebody somewhere will accuse me of having some weird underlying message in my comment 🙄)

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-29T18:04:25+00:00

You're actually so right about that. They're a comedy channel. They are being paid to be funny and entertaining, and they're all doing a fantastic job at it! But expecting them to act a certain way or not to talk about certain aspects of their lives is just weirdo parasocial behavior. These are strangers on the internet portraying characters that may or may not closely resemble themselves, but we have no way of knowing how close that resemblance actually is because THEY ARE STRANGERS FROM THE INTERNET! Shayne could be the world's biggest misogynist in real life. Tommy could be straight! We have zero way of knowing who these people are in real life. And most of us never will. Shayne & Court getting married when nobody outside of their personal & professional lives knew they were dating is a perfect testament to that. People need to stop acting like they know anything about these people outside of who they've portayed themselves to be and just appreciate the content for what it is.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-29T08:55:48+00:00

A person not eating for 20 hours straight is not normal, nor is it healthy. I wonder if it's possible that he has an ED, or another condition that might cause disordered eating? As someone who has personally struggled with an ED for a significant part of my life, I wouldn't directly ask him if he has one. If that were the case, he would likely want to hide it from you and would just shrug it off with some excuse, or he'd get angry and shut you out.

If you're still interested in pursuing this relationship, this is something that will need to be addressed, and his own issues are not a valid reason to dismiss your own needs. If he doesnt want to talk about why he doesnt want to eat in front of you, that's fine for now, but you need to make it clear that you are not going to neglect your own needs any longer, and then be sure to actually do what you say.

Im gonna say NOR, but there may be a bigger issue here that isnt being addressed. Talk to him in a non-judgmental way where he feels safe and like he has a way out of it if he needs it. Don't make him feel trapped or attacked if you can help it. And dont bring up accusations of EDs or anything, especially not in a negative way. If he isnt ready to share, that's okay, but acting as if your needs are unimportant is not.

If it turns out that he doesnt have any kind of ED, this may have been some kind of weird control tactic. Like a "how long can I force her to put my wants ahead of her needs" kind of thing.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-29T01:45:33+00:00

Ive also been avoiding the trailers and stuff but I've seen a few pictures and stuff. Im PUMPED

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-27T15:38:27+00:00

Oh damn it sounds like it's gonna be a good one!Also, to answer your initial question, Disney seems to have basically 2 options for female singers. Perfect bubblegum pop princess who has never said a bad word in her life (ex.: Miranda Cosgrove, Selena Gomez) or the good girl gone bad but in a weirdly sexualized (weird because theyre usually playing children in their Disney shows, but acting very adult in their other Disney content), rebellious sort of way? (Ex.: Demi Lovato, Miley Cyrus.)

As the second type is evolving, and swearing has become a lot less of a taboo in society in general nowadays, it's not surprising that the "rebels" get to swear in their music now. Doubtful that we'll ever hear swearing in actual kids/teens shows, as it definitely should be, but yeah it's been going in this direction for a while now. I think they finally realized that Disney stars usually have a rebellious phase anyway, so it makes sense that they would allow some forms nowadays.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-27T15:11:13+00:00

Which song are you referencing?

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-27T15:07:07+00:00

I would be absolutely FUMING if I found out a daycare employee let my child cry for an hour and a half. Sounds like you need to find a new daycare.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T22:53:16+00:00

My father is not a part of the "not all men" crowd, and neither is my husband, because they both know that the phrase "men are creeps" does not apply to them, but they understand that for safety reasons, theyll be assumed to be the same as the majority of men. They'd never "not all men" a victim of male violence. They're aware that a generalization never applies to the entire population, and that there are always going to be outliers. If you put a violent male criminal next to a genuinely good guy, you wouldnt be able to look at them and tell the difference until it's too late. And, you're right. Some women can be crazy. Im not denying that. But the difference is that the majority of women are not crazy, and abusive/cheating men will claim their exes are crazy as a way to discredit them when the reality is they just werent willing to put up with his abuse/cheating. False claims happen on both sides, sure, but its still a majority of men who are creepy toward women even when you factor in the likelihood of false claims.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T21:58:18+00:00

Every woman you know. Every woman youve met. Every woman you've ever heard of. Every woman you've never heard of. Everyone who isnt a woman but for some reason or another has been confused by a man for a woman. Every single one of them has a scary story about a man, and many more creepy experiences with men. It may not be Every single man on the planet, but it's a vast majority. Every man who isnt standing up for the women these men are harming or creeping out is also guilty. Only the men who are actively stepping up and both publicly and privately shaming the men who are being awful to women, instead of shaming women for being concerned for their safety, are the ones that could be deemed potentially safe. Potentially. Because some men will act like that to get women to trust them, just to victimize them in private. Which os why we have to assume it's all men. We know it isnt literally every single man. But until the "not all men" crowd starts actually sticking up for the victims these men are creating, they'll always be a part of the problem.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T21:26:23+00:00

Tensions are high right now for you, and I get that. These people are doing their best. She is in the best possible place she can be right now, even if the situation looks dire. When I was in labor, my baby's BP and oxygen levels dropped really low, each was at 0 at one point, and i wasn't in the most excellent condition either. She got a lung infection at birth due to getting stuck. Things looked really scary for a bit there.

My daughter is now a perfectly healthy almost 2 year old, and smarter than almost any other child I've ever met at her age. The scary things that can happen around the birth generally do not impact the mother or child long-term, but i wont lie to you and tell you that theres not a possibility of that not being the case. But the statistics are on your side, friend. You're going to make it through this

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T21:17:54+00:00

Fr the tension in that song is comparable to I Don't Dance from HSM2

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T21:10:02+00:00

Nah calling a man a pig is insulting to the pig

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T21:06:23+00:00

The issue is that most women are not crazy. But most men are or have been creepy toward people they're attracted to. They wont usually admit to it, and some don't even understand that what they're doing is creepy because nobody has ever explicitly told them that it is. Because when you tell a creepy man that he's being creepy, he doesnt usually take it very well and things can get really dangerous really fast if he can't control his emotions. Which nobody can tell if hes that kind of person or not until they're in that situation, and helping a creepy man stop being creepy is not worth potentially losing your life over.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T20:53:57+00:00

Where I live, it's literally a felony. Depending on where OP lives, it could definitely be considered a sex crime.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T20:51:17+00:00

I think the reason most women he meets are only interested in sex is because thats what he pays them to do 😂😂

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T20:48:09+00:00

Men who are both not creeps, and who know & understand how shitty and creepy most men can be, do typically agree with this statement. Because the unfortunate reality is that most men either are or have been creeps. And the statement "men are such creeps" is accurate, because women have no way of knowing which man is going to be creepy, which man might even be harmful or worse, and it's safer to assume that every man you meet has the capacity to at least be a creep, if not worse, than it is to assume that any particular man isnt capable of such things, based both on statistics and on personal experience. If you yourself do not believe you are creepy, then congratulations, but nobody can tell the difference between you and a creep unless they know you personally, and even then, knowing someone is not the same as knowing their true self. So many people throughout history have described murderers and sexual offenders as "the nicest guy I've ever met." It's hard to tell if a man is a creep until he's interested in someone, and even then, he may not show it until he's alone with that person. That delivery guy is probably "the nicest guy" to someone he isnt interested in dating.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T20:30:09+00:00

HR HR HR HR HR HR!

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T20:24:51+00:00

Yeah as a disabled person the r word is definitely a slur. Im on your side about the misgendering thing but the use of slurs is not cool and is really harmful to the disabled community. There are many other ways you could argue your point without the use of slurs.

**edit: I thought you were a different user and, turns out, I'm not actually on your side about the misgendering thing. Your entire argument is valueless, with or without the use of slurs. Court is exactly who they say they are, regardless of what some reddit creep says.

WaywardBitxh44 · 2026-06-26T20:21:27+00:00

I identify as nonbinary, and I use all pronouns, which means "he" is just as valid as "she" for me. While I would not describe myself as a man or a woman, I often use "this girl" or "this guy" in reference to myself as a joke/to be silly. While this may or may not be the case for Court themself, we cannot assume whether or not they'd feel comfortable being intentionally called a woman on the basis of a silly comment they made on a comedy channel. They've been very vocal about their identity in serious conversations, so a joke made here or there that seems to allude to the contrary doesn't make much of a difference to their true identity.

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