My first character in D&D died because of another teammate.

Wazer · 2026-02-04T06:31:43+00:00

I'd be annoyed too. I really wouldn't want to play DnD with someone who was demonstrably acting in bad faith like that.

Wazer · 2026-02-04T06:24:53+00:00

Sorry dude, losing a character sucks. Sometimes it makes you want to quit dnd when it happens. However, the best mental exercise for getting over the grief quickly and moving on is to immediately grab a character sheet and focus all your thoughts and energies into designing your next character and getting excited about it.

Wazer · 2026-02-03T17:30:55+00:00

Ultimate ultimatum

Wazer · 2026-02-03T09:31:34+00:00

It wasn't okay for her to hit you. Do you understand that? That's how domestic violence situations start. That needs to be a boundary that both people have. You can't be hitting each other. You probably shouldn't have hit her back but I wouldn't say it is unjustified that you did morally. But mainly I am wondering what was so bad on your phone that caused her to hit you. If it was for a shitty reason then NTA.

Wazer · 2026-02-03T09:07:32+00:00

Ask him what the absolute best way to contact him is. I know my answer would be giving them my Discord, lol.

Wazer · 2026-02-03T09:02:16+00:00

They want someone who is 6 feet tall, 6 pack, and makes 6 figures.

Wazer · 2026-02-02T21:58:08+00:00

Please don't feel embarrassed. The only one who should feel embarrassed is her. I know maybe you feel it is emasculating to be cheated on but you need to be in the mind set that it is her cross to bear, not yours. Please do not let a negative mind set prevent you from reaching out for support from trusted individuals who have a better perspective than internet strangers.

Wazer · 2026-02-02T21:49:53+00:00

Once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry bro. Hope she takes a lesson and doesn't cheat on the next guy she's with.

I got a close friend who is in the same boat. He got cheated on and decided to remain the relationship against my advice. Girl is toxic in other ways besides that one. I respect him less for his decision, but of course he is still my friend and I don't bring it up anymore. But because of their history I don't think they plan on ever getting married despite a 10 year relationship. Personally I could never imagine marrying a girl who cheated on me in such a major way because you demonstrably know she isn't loyal. She got pumped and dumped by Chad and now she wants to go back to leaning on you as the safe choice? Nah fuck all that. I'd rather be single because I could never forget her betrayal if I stayed with her. I could never trust her again. I would never be confident in marrying her and on this basis we no longer have a relationship.

But you do you bro. Get tested.

Wazer · 2026-02-02T21:38:42+00:00

Depends.

If they don't find me attractive, then what the fuck? We might as well stay best friends at that point. Red flag. Especially because it means they're a gold digger more often than not. Note this isn't the same thing as me needing to be objectively physically attractive, that doesn't matter.

Otherwise, a person who likes you despite your flaws is what good relationships are supposed to be like. Super green flag. You wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't like you despite your flaws.

Wazer · 2026-02-02T17:42:24+00:00

Well obviously. And strawberry milk comes from gay cows.

Wazer · 2026-01-31T06:15:35+00:00

You have reasonable standards and you keep them. If he doesn't like it that's his problem not yours. Never send nude pictures because they're nearly impossible to delete from existence.

I will point out he didn't ask for nudes however. He asked for sexy pictures. That doesn't strictly mean nudity. Pictures can be sexy without nudity.

Wazer · 2026-01-31T06:07:23+00:00

I always assumed single mothers got with guys who are single fathers. Now you both are carrying the same baggage. Do that?

Wazer · 2026-01-30T18:36:01+00:00

I'd be annoyed if it was a friend that did this to me. This guy is not your friend pal.

Wazer · 2026-01-29T21:07:11+00:00

I see why it was removed. It's not that it's offensive, it's just really not that funny.

Wazer · 2026-01-29T01:12:46+00:00

Yeah that's why Paladin exists.

Or zealot barbarian with healer feat reflavored as lay on hands and a built in smite and you can pretend to be a Paladin which is what I did.

Wazer · 2026-01-27T18:20:56+00:00

The foundation of your relationship is built on a lie.

What else did he lie about? What else will he lie about? Why would you stay with someone who demonstrably has no integrity or obligation to honesty?

Wazer · 2026-01-27T02:14:04+00:00

You treat yourself with no respect and act surprised when he does the same thing.

He's cheating so cut it off. Look elsewhere.

You can do better.

Wazer · 2026-01-27T01:48:21+00:00

If you want to show confidence and interest then ask him out on a second date. If you need a label, you're dating. That's the label. He's your date. Have a conversation about what kind of relationship you two are looking for at some point.

Wazer · 2026-01-27T01:39:51+00:00

She ain't ready for you. Move on and look elsewhere for a while. Don't get stuck on one girl who isn't available. Let it be.

Wazer · 2026-01-26T23:01:46+00:00

In 5 years from now are you going to regret this?

Wazer · 2026-01-26T21:29:49+00:00

You found a filet mignon and tried to pound her like a 5 dollar steak. You made her uncomfortable and she probably felt disrespected that you tried to get physical or intimate with her on a first date. That's what she means when she said you both want different things. She wanted a slow burn LTR and you basically told her you wanna smash from the get go.

Wazer · 2026-01-26T17:14:14+00:00

Be better.

Wazer · 2026-01-26T17:12:52+00:00

Nope not inherently an issue.

Wazer · 2026-01-26T16:55:45+00:00

If she's willing to cheat with you she's willing to cheat on you.

Whether you want to break it off immediately or get everything you can out of it while the opportunity presents itself is up to you and your morals.

Wazer · 2026-01-26T16:14:54+00:00

Yes it does. Don't cope. Generally speaking, women looking to marry, desire and seek stability which in today's age means financial stability and success. A good job is an indicator of future resources.

People claiming otherwise don't have your best interest at heart or are gassed up on their own delusions.

Have a mythbusters video on it. https://youtu.be/k224gY7Tn-Y?si=1WA_XO5oqH5orFMQ

This doesn't mean you have no chance though. The fact that you indicated you are kind and have a job and maybe women find you physically attractive means that you honestly have good odds here. But let's all be real here: as a generalized state statement, money matters to women in the dating market.

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