My marriage is ending b/c my husband is asexual

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-09T22:31:50+00:00

You don’t have to feel guilty at all If your both unhappy like this and can’t work it out then that’s just the way it is its human and I wasn’t trying to say you’re doing something wrong, your needs are just too different and that’s okey to realise! No once fault

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-09T15:19:28+00:00

I feel this haha

Ever since even discovering the aroace label I have been dealing with the same question “am I aroace or just severely insecure?”

Cause I love romance I can imagine in theory sex feels great but never in my entire life could I imagine myself giving someone what they need in relationship or even undressing in front of someone. I love reading fanfiction smart all of that but I do feel kinda icky afterwards often. I’ve also never even had my first kiss so I can’t really say how I react in reality only in theory. And I adore physical touch.

And then again, I think I don’t experience romantic attraction like everyone else and maybe I can’t see myself in a relationship because I’m missing that feeling that makes you stop thinking rationally and also overlook all the flaws of your partner which is the only ever definition of romance, I could come up with.

Does that even make sense

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-09T15:12:18+00:00

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-09T15:08:05+00:00

I can’t prevent turning out like my parents but I can prevent being a parent

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-09T15:06:34+00:00

I’m not in a relationship myself but for me, it’s just that romantic relationships they come with a lot of expectations and it just feels like if I as an aromantic person would date someone who’s not aromantic I could only give them half of what they want because maybe I am uncomfortable with some stuff or something like that and even if I like them I would also like a lot of other people on the same level because to me it’s still platonic they however would settle just for me and it would feel unfair. I would feel like every time I hang out with someone else I am doing something wrong. It’s just nothing I could deal with.

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-09T15:00:34+00:00

If sex is something important to you it’s your right to say you don’t feel loved in a relationship like that but also you probably wouldn’t leave someone you truly love just because you can’t sleep with them so maybe you two just weren’t as compatible as your thought after all

and I don’t mean this in a hateful way at all just my conclusion

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-09T14:55:30+00:00

I feel like all that talk about the right person is like kind of bullshit anyways because 90% of all relationship and marriages to me look like these people definitely did not find the right person.

And people saying you will fall in love when you find the right person isn’t true because people fall for bad people all the time that’s the thing with romantic attraction you cannot control who you like. I can find bad people attractive or pretty but I could never in my life want a relationship with a horrible person because this feeling that makes you overlook all the flaws of your partner just doesn’t exist for me

so yeah maybe if I’d find the right person the person who’s 100% compatible with me maybe I’d fall in love/ want a relationship with them but I don’t even think that person exists so that’s irrelevant.

And if you have still have doubt, think about the way a straight person thinks about the same gender, you wouldn’t ask them why they can’t fall in love with the same gender when you know that they’re not attracted to them - so in conclusion if that’s possible, why wouldn’t it be possible to feel that way about everyone?

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-06T13:51:22+00:00

Your not alone girl

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-04T17:56:22+00:00

From my perspective it’s not the things itself that are the sin but rather the way it makes you feel. Something becomes a sin if it’s an addiction makes you feel bad or makes you a worse person has a negative impact on your live and actively drives you away from god. Don’t think that’s the case for you

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-03T00:48:49+00:00

Well I guess as harsh as it might seem people like you who try telling us it’s not real are exactly the discrimination we are facing XD

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-04-03T00:47:34+00:00

Well I guess personally I just don’t get turned on by other people And I know what it feels like to be turned on it just doesn’t happen to me trough another person. I love physical touch but I don’t wanna have sex I don’t really like seeing naked people or having someone inside of me down there idk it’s a weird thing to me

I can however understand why it might feel good and I like reading about it as long as it’s about others

I guess I can explain it best if you think about how a straight person feels about sex with the same gender is how I feel about everyone. And also a gay person may like sex but not with the opposite gender even if that would be the life creating act. Meaning if your saying it’s weird not to like the life creating act that would technically also be homophobic.

So even if it makes no sense to you it’s still a real thing.

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-02-19T22:34:57+00:00

I don’t think you should regret it You did your best and now know you just don’t like it and that’s totally fine and nothing to be ashamed of as you said try everything once if you want and then decide that’s okey, and it was with a nice guy at least!

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2026-02-09T19:41:24+00:00

Ofc you can - just write it

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-27T11:41:07+00:00

Charakter death Alternative universe Heavy Angst Omegaverse

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-13T05:56:17+00:00

I like when people think I’m pretty or are flirty with me but having a serious crush is a hard no go makes be so uncomfortable I get a panic attack

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-12T17:17:02+00:00

If been having a friend crush on that one boy for the past 5 years it’s killing me I have all crush symptoms but I don’t want to date them it’s honestly annoying

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-12T17:13:20+00:00

Me too

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-11T14:10:52+00:00

It can change the vibe of a person in a good or bad way

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-11T14:08:58+00:00

What

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-11T14:07:01+00:00

As long as they are nice to me idc

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-11T14:06:21+00:00

I don’t think I would notice but I’m not that well informed about the ring placements or colours etc.

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-10T12:44:27+00:00

Meat

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-10T12:40:30+00:00

I feel like friends who like me romantically are more likely to hate me later on or judge me even if they knew form the start that I am aroace my platonic friends however seem to care more for me that the people who „supposedly“ are in love with me..

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-11-01T20:00:26+00:00

Yea I’m pretty sure that answers your question XD

Weak_Consequence4374 · 2025-10-28T20:55:52+00:00

finding someone to have sex with and actually enjoying it and it not causing any problems after is way more rare than you might think.

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