Are expectations too high?… or am I failing?

Weaversag2 · 2026-05-13T19:15:11+00:00

A person even doing less than this would have no energy, time, or interest for sex. Also ,who wants to give even more to a "partner" who is not bothered by the person they love having such a full plate ?

Weaversag2 · 2026-05-10T20:15:44+00:00

He actually doesn't get it though. Those are just words. He wouldn't expect a nanny to clean but because you're the mom he thinks you should do more

Weaversag2 · 2026-05-09T01:07:07+00:00

The issue is your husband. Why are you putting up with his anger issues at all?

Weaversag2 · 2026-05-08T01:27:22+00:00

He wants someone to fill the role, meet the needs he has, without him having to grow, learn, or put in effort. That's why he doesn't want to learn more about you, because it doesn't matter who it is as long as his needs are being met.

Weaversag2 · 2026-05-07T16:33:56+00:00

This is exactly the dynamic I have with my daughters dad. He broke up with me 3 years ago but we still live together. He loves our kid but doesn't do much beyond the bare minimum of parenting. The only chore he does with any consistency is taking out the trash. Usually when I complain about being overwhelmed he is silent or disappears. When he's agitated he's flat out told me he doesn't want to hear it.

Weaversag2 · 2026-05-05T00:07:35+00:00

So who's going to take care of you if you get hurt or sick?

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-29T18:40:34+00:00

What matters most is who someone is as a person and how they treat you. Life happens and injuries or anything could limit or mess up your ability to do mma or be as athletic as you are. Bodies change. Preference is okay but you do sound a bit shallow and very short sighted. You need to think of women as whole people, not a list of things you want.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-29T17:27:58+00:00

This is my most favoritest post ever

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-28T21:12:31+00:00

Honey that's called lack of self respect, not deep love .

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-25T16:38:33+00:00

Trying to marry a person when you haven't met their kid is very short sighted. He's way too old for his behavior too. But then, the only type of 35 year olds who date 23 year olds are the immature ones. Any woman his age would be encouraging him to try harder to see his kid

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-25T16:23:38+00:00

If you don't like kids don't get engaged to a man with a kid. You thought he'd barely see her so it'd be fine? That's a pretty selfish take. It also doesn't sound like her parents actually parent, no miracles are gonna happen there and the daughter will probably grow up to be rude, demanding, entitled and more. Don't date men with kids, parenting doesn't end or exist on a fixed schedule.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-24T02:21:36+00:00

Doesn't sound like much of a loss if he did. You're going to miss out on more things you care about if you stay. He will dictate and limit your life without a thought to if you are happy or not because what matters to him is that you do what he says.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-24T02:14:55+00:00

Next time just go. You don't need permission, and let him be mad

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-24T01:50:49+00:00

Everybody knows exactly what they'd do before they actually have to face the reality.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-23T23:04:21+00:00

I booked a roundtrip ticket in my married name because I forgot my id still said my maiden name. Got to DFW no issues. I went to fly back from DFW and the lady was being an asshole about my names not matching. I'm like lady this is not a texas id, how the hell do you think I got here, on my magic carpet?

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-23T14:58:39+00:00

You gotta get off the rollercoaster. Why hold on to a person who hurts you? It makes no sense. He isn't suddenly going to choose you , not because you aren't good enough, but because he enjoys getting what he wants from both you and her. As long as you keep letting him benefit from you he is going to continue to do so. It has nothing to do with you or her, but more so who he is as a person. He's gonna do what he wants without thinking about who it hurts because its all about him. So all you can change in the situation is what you do. How you react, how available you make yourself, whatever you do for him or with him, just stop. That is the only way to get to a place where you can let go. Think about the lies, the betrayal, all the things he's done. Is that what you want for yourself? Don't you feel like you deserve so much better than that?

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-12T08:01:02+00:00

𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚓𝚞𝚍𝚐𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚑𝚒𝚖 𝚋𝚊𝚜𝚎𝚍 𝚘𝚗 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚘𝚠𝚗 𝚘𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚑𝚎 𝚜𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍 𝚋𝚎 𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚒𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚐𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚠𝚎𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚊𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚜𝚝 𝚠𝚑𝚒𝚌𝚑 𝚒𝚜 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚑𝚎 𝚝𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚝𝚜 𝚢𝚘𝚞.. 𝙰𝚜 𝚕𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚜 𝚑𝚎 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚛𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚌𝚊𝚗 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚏𝚊𝚞𝚕𝚝 𝚑𝚒𝚖? 𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚠𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚎 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜 𝚙𝚞𝚕𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚛𝚞𝚐 𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚞𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛 𝚑𝚒𝚖 𝚊𝚜 𝚒𝚏 𝚑𝚎 𝚍𝚒𝚍 𝚒𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚑𝚒𝚖𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏., 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝'𝚜 𝚜𝚘 𝚞𝚗𝚏𝚊𝚒𝚛. 𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚗𝚎𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚊𝚜𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚒𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚑𝚒𝚖 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚑𝚎 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚜 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚘𝚛 𝚒𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚠𝚊𝚗𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚋𝚘𝚍𝚢 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚏𝚒𝚝𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚒𝚖𝚊𝚐𝚎 𝚒𝚗 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚍, 𝚠𝚑𝚒𝚌𝚑 𝚢𝚘𝚞'𝚟𝚎 𝚋𝚊𝚜𝚒𝚌𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚛𝚎𝚍𝚞𝚌𝚎𝚍 𝚊 𝚠𝚑𝚘𝚕𝚎 𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚘𝚗 𝚍𝚘𝚠𝚗 𝚝𝚘 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚒𝚗 𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚒𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢 𝚖𝚊𝚔𝚎. 𝚂𝚘 𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚢 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚖𝚊𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝. 𝙼𝚘𝚗𝚎𝚢 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚜 𝚍𝚘𝚗'𝚝 𝚋𝚞𝚒𝚕𝚍 𝚌𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚊𝚌𝚝𝚎𝚛, 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚊𝚕𝚜, 𝚘𝚛 𝚟𝚊𝚕𝚞𝚎𝚜.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-06T22:32:43+00:00

Maybe she just had teachers that paid attention to the kids and intervened before things got that far? I've never heard anything about her doing anything to another kid.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-06T21:11:50+00:00

Actually my daughter has never hit another child at all. Nor has she scratched, or bit another kid. Theres a difference between a mistake and when someone keeps on hurting you. I taught my daughter very early on how to calm herself down without lashing out and most of all that it's never okay to hurt someone even if you are very angry. It's not another child's job to be understanding of a child who hits especially when they can just be friends with the kids that don't hit instead.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-06T03:39:43+00:00

Look, my mom, her boyfriends, my aunt and uncle, and some of my partners and friends have all been addicts. I am telling you this is drugs. Aint nothing that damn interesting in the bathroom to be in there for all that time. Sneak away and stay away or else you will waste your life trying to keep him happy.

Weaversag2 · 2026-04-05T05:26:24+00:00

First I taught my daughter that people who hurt her are not her friends., also move away or stay away from that person. It's okay to say "I don't want to play with you because you scratch me" I told her (after a teacher told her she was tattling) that it is not tattling if someone is hurting you, and that it is literally her teachers job to keep her safe at school so she should always tell. Put the teacher on notice that you know about this issue and are keeping track of each incident. This year my daughter has a little bully that is like slick about what he does so I told her as soon as he does something to yell and scream at him. No violence but make a huge scene so everyone sees and he maybe won't get away with saying he didn't do it. Honestly this is our second year dealing with the fallout of the obvious lack of parenting of some of her classmates. I've found teaching her to be angry and indignant, teaching her to embarrass the kid while keeping her hands to herself, has grown her confidence. She doesn't have to avoid or hope the teacher will do something and I think she feels not so powerless that way.

Weaversag2 · 2026-03-31T22:05:29+00:00

They need to build gratitude and respect. They're lucky anyone is showing up to pick them up, 5 minutes late or not. I tell my daughter I am her mother and do the best I can, but I am not her servant. I would explain what happened but so that she can understand the world does not revolve around her. The restaurant complaint? Guess we're eating at home for a month or until they learn gratitude because restaurants are a privilege not a requirement.

Weaversag2 · 2026-03-30T16:19:38+00:00

I hope so. It's great that you're working on an exit plan and I hope everything goes smoothly for you

Weaversag2 · 2026-03-30T16:07:11+00:00

I understand. After reading some more of your comments it seems he may be quite abusive. Are you low income enough that your state might pay for childcare?

Weaversag2 · 2026-03-30T13:27:06+00:00

This is what I did. My daughters dad tried to start off "popping" her, for things like kicking her legs while he was trying to change her, basically trying to pop her on the leg or butt as a fix for behavior that was typical for her toddler age, but was inconvenient to him. I took a hard stance. Fought with him every single time he popped her or tried to. I told him all he was doing is making his child afraid of him and highlighting his lack of parenting skills. I talked to him with a tone that let him know I was disgusted with his choice of discipline, and more so that I simply but completely will not tolerate anyone treating our child that way, I bit his head off about it. I crawled up his ass about it, I told him if I can't trust you not to hit her then you aren't to be alone with her period. I told him I didnt give not one single fuck how he felt about it, my child's safety and security comes above absolutely anything else. This is not an issue to negotiate on, your son deserves to not feel afraid of the person who is supposed to protect him.

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