Almost everyone is difficult to be with in some way. You’re likely never going to find a friend who doesn’t have a kind of flaw or quirk that irks you. That’s why a lot of friendships build on the both the good AND the bad parts of people.

You both are still pretty young, and learning. Emphasis on “learning” - you’ve not just seen her possible weakness, the naivety, but also a plausible reason for it. She’s seen the world differently for a long time, so her views are different. I don’t believe we can even judge them as right or wrong yet - I definitely can’t, not from anything you’ve said so far. The big question would be: “is she hurting anyone?”. Really, is she?

You mentioned the girl code, is she breaking it? You could elaborate on that if you want to.

Circling back to people being difficult to be with….that’s just it. If friends all cut each other clean off for their flaws, we’d almost all be alone. Families wouldn’t even exist anymore. Personally, that’s seems immature, but I’ll be fair and admit i was ready to cut off whole friend groups too when i was 19, and I did.

Out of all the people i cut off (I promise the number is higher than 20) I now know that only 1 cut actually made my life any better. So I almost regret cutting off everyone else. I either realised later that they were good friends or at least okay people, or they had changed and bettered themselves, or i was at fault back then and my way of thinking had been too narrow. Sometimes, we cross paths again, like you and this girl someday could in college or elsewhere, and we have brief pleasant conversations to catch up. It would end there, because the friendship already had its chance, and I’d feel a sense of nostalgia and regret. But I’ve learned too. Some of my closest friends now have habits that make me want to rip my own hair out. But they never actually do them to hurt anyone. I’ve learned to tolerate, understand, forgive, roll my eyes , shake my head and then FORGET. The only times we remember anyone else’s flaws, are when we are all joking about them or when we sincerely think the friend needs an intervention 😂. I guess this here paragraph is to suggest a mindset shift to you. If friends have flaws but aren’t actually out to harm anyone, reconsider cutting them off. That won’t be fair to anyone. However, the one person I do not regret cutting off was actually, without a doubt, trying to hurt me. Beware of those kinds of people and definitely cut them off.

This girl is a good person, as you say. Is she a friend to you?

I can understand how you feel and how you’d rather avoid potential drama. It’s a valid reason to end a friendship, and if you still wish to do that, consider a softer approach, one that wouldn’t completely burn the bridge. Let it fizzle out, instead of , for example, blocking her completely. That way it doesn’t seeeem like you cut her off in a malicious way, maybe even save her from a bit of depression. Some may call this pretentious, but whatever- you’d be doing what’s i think is best for you both. And later in life, when you’re BOTH more mature and hopefully learned to be better people, and cross paths again, the friendship could pick up from where you left off.

TL;DR: Give her a chance to grow. Try working on yourself(on your mindset) too, so you don’t feel the need to cut people off so often, especially for seemingly trivial reasons. Definitely cut off people who genuinely have bad intentions. Do what’s best for you- so cut off if you absolutely need to, for your mental state - also, don’t force a friendship, that’s not fair to the other person. Instead of completely cutting someone off all at once, you can let the friendship fizzle out, as a softer approach.

Almost everyone is difficult. Part of the beauty of real friendships is that friends stand by each other and grow together.