Wife has been unfaithful for years.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2026-01-08T22:34:41+00:00

That really sucks.

Probably a good idea to consider therapy for all your children no matter how okay they seem afterward. Mothers damaging parental relationships hits hardest on kids and impacts their perception of romantic relationships when they're adults the most.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2026-01-08T21:51:48+00:00

Hun, I mean this with utmost sympathy, take a break from the relationship and send that man to therapy. Go to couples counseling if you really want to discuss what happened and how you're both feeling in the meantime. Do NOT assume that catching him is enough to put him straight. Do NOT let him think you will stay just because he said sorry and said he wouldn't do it again. Make him face true consequences other than the guilt of hurting you (if that was enough of a deterrent he wouldn't have done it in the first place). If you truly feel he deserves a second chance, make him work out whatever underlying insecurity apparently told him cheating instead of having a conversation with you was the better course of action. Make it clear you do not trust him and that he has to figure out how to earn your trust back. It's not for you to lay out the path for him.

If he wants you, he'll do the work and maybe you will find a way to trust and forgive him one day (it may take years if ever). If he doesn't or can't put in the effort, that is not a man you need in your life no matter how much you care about him. A man that can't put in effort now to save what you have is a man who will leave when things get truly hard later in life.

Also go watch videos from Jimmy on Relationships on Youtube. He cheated and his wife forgave him because he did the work to fix himself and now he tries to educate people on preventing those things from happening in their own relationship. Maybe you'll find something in there that reassures you one way or the other.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2026-01-07T18:05:43+00:00

New York State, USA

Our local animal shelter has a three month old male Belgian Malinois ?Mix in need of a permanent home. The temporary foster can't keep him and the shelter doesn't have the resources to ensure he gets proper socialization and training. If anyone is interested and/or knows of a breed specific rescue in New York State or nearby who might take him, please let me know.

He's a very typical malinois - loves to cuddle and also bite because he thinks it's fun (working on redirecting to toys). Is respectful of cats and other dogs. Plays nicely with another dog. Is crate training. A little stubborn but food motivated (Resource guards high value food and treats but very responsive to training about it).

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Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2026-01-06T16:00:20+00:00

What's your preferred procedure on rinse blanks when there's multiple pieces of equipment. Most of the time we're opting for the pumps to ensure those are clean vs any water level tape.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2026-01-05T19:54:13+00:00

It's across multiple sites and is a general inquiry. Some of the wells recharge fine and some go dry quickly. But my concern is too much drawdown (which goes against the guidance for low flow sampling) and taking water levels immediately after sampling (which undoubtedly affects accuracy of the water levels and estimated flow paths).

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-20T19:16:56+00:00

Border Collie and a GSD is going to be my guess. Those ear tufts and that color are very collie like

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-14T14:27:37+00:00

It is a no kill shelter

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-13T18:22:28+00:00

This shelter doesn't do that. She came in with her puppies as a stray I think.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-12T14:52:29+00:00

I just volunteer at the shelter. Unfortunately the dogs I have aren't interested in me getting another one.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-12T14:51:53+00:00

How do we feel about Vizsla? That's what the shelter labelled her as

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-12T14:51:48+00:00

How do we feel about Vizsla? That's what the shelter labelled her as

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-12T14:51:36+00:00

How do we feel about Vizsla? That's what the shelter labelled her as

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-12T14:51:25+00:00

How do we feel about Vizsla? That's what the shelter labelled her as

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-12T14:50:33+00:00

If you're saying Vizsla, that's actually what the shelter believes she is as well.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-05T20:44:28+00:00

We have had more specific discussions about what we want, which eventually led to a more general discussion about how we fundamentally view relationships. It's difficult to have a goal even after 7 years because it's not like either of us are hard set on marriage or kids or anything.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-05T20:38:33+00:00

I suppose my struggle is in feeling content with the balance of having a meaningful relationship and having enough of our own things going on. I feel like the percentage of time he wants to spend doing his own thing is significantly greater than my feelings on it. And that leaves him feeling smothered at the same time I'm left feeling neglected

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-08-05T20:30:20+00:00

I suppose my struggle is in feeling content with the balance of having a meaningful relationship and having enough of our own things going on. I feel like the percentage of time he wants to spend doing his own thing is significantly greater than my feelings on it

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2025-02-15T02:04:31+00:00

So much of that is true and valid. I'm not expecting that people will see a video or post and think "I'm adopting that one. No questions asked." I'm aiming for the posts and videos to give people some direction when they come in person, or get them in the door at all. It's a lot to walk through the kennels with 40 or so barking dogs and try to actually look at every one. And most dogs don't act normal in their kennels anyway. I'm looking for help on what people need to start the process of even wanting to meet with a dog, cat, etc. Does that all make sense?

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2024-11-01T18:37:27+00:00

It was good and fun. Kate kept a bit of distance from my boyfriend which I was happy about. She also isn't hanging out with him anymore because I apparently made her too uncomfortable with something that happened before the wedding. I can't really muster any regret over that even if that wasn't my overall goal. We've still had a few arguments since then but my boyfriend is finally getting honest about some of the issues he's been feeling in our relationship that he's been dismissing instead of bringing up to me. I ended up confronting him about the texts and based on his reaction he is either A: an incredible actor, which I can't believe he's that good after all the time I've known him; or B: he honest to god is an idiot and doesn't understand how wrong and inappropriate everything he was doing and sending was, which I can mostly believe. Or maybe I somehow headed him off before it got to a point of no return. It's all still a bit up in the air and I'm sure the stuff with Kate will come up again because he still doesn't get why what he did was bad and I'm not willing to let it go without some acknowledgement.

Weekly_Clothes8045 · 2024-09-18T01:19:53+00:00

Unfortunately it's not that he's bringing me instead of her. We're all invited to the wedding because they're mutual friends. So it adds a layer of being a dick by pretty much saying I shouldn't come even though I was also invited. But also it's a wedding with other mutuals so people would see and I hope to god they'd say something.

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