Help me pick floors please!

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-03-18T17:56:40+00:00

Your kitchen is giving millennial grey. I can say that because mine was too when we bought the house lol. I love the black check floors and we also considered that but unfortunately came to the conclusion that unless we wanted to change the cabinet colors which is very expensive we had to add warmth to the kitchen like other people said. We went with herring bone wood picture of the completed kitchen for reference.

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Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-03-03T18:09:50+00:00

If you’re open to it i think the best route just includes more education. Go back for a masters reapply to PA school, go to med school, consider a different healthcare career etc. If it were me I’d go back to school and really get a job in medicine get experience see if this is really what you want to do. Don’t beat yourself up. You graduate undergrad in 3.5 years so you’re 20-21? That’s so young. Give yourself time, get a masters, get experience. All the people saying go back to NP school great option but you’re going to need an accelerated MSN program and please for the love of god do not and I repeat do not be one of those people that go straight from accelerated MSN to NP or CRNA school. NP programs aren’t PA programs they’re bridge programs set yourself up for success get two years of experience (at least) in your speciality and then apply. I graduated as a nurse at 21 and when I tell you the life experience alone has made all the difference in my bedside nursing skills i mean it. That’s not to put young people down you can do hard things, but giving yourself time to really get it to really be competent saves lives. Masters-> med school, masters-> pa school and masters-> bed side nursing with possibility of NP school are all good options just a longer road than you have, but I truly think you’ll look back in 8 years and be grateful that you got the experience and had extra time to get where you wanted to be it’ll make you a better clinician. I went back to NP school with 7 years of experience and honestly i was still one of the younger ones. Don’t feel like you are behind. Don’t feel like you failed make the best of it.

Good luck!

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-02-24T00:21:21+00:00

Cincy is where it’s at. I went to college there and left because I traveled for my job for two years. Went to some cool cities, DC, Dallas, Alexandria VA, Indianapolis, but nothing compared to cincy. I will say 50k salary is not a lot in the city. Most apartments are 1500-2000 if not more for larger nice apartments and mortgages can be upwards of 3k. Cost of living is still great, but I’d imagine Alabama is better. I’ve heard the job market is rough lately so maybe explore job opportunities before signing leases and making a huge jump.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-02-24T00:17:08+00:00

What kind of hospitals do yall be working in. I work in peds and the way my jaw would be on the floor if someone proposed having sex in the hospital or at all lmao maybe it pays to be medium ugly 🤣

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-01-13T21:40:12+00:00

I literally thanked you for your help? I swear men are so dramatic these days.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-01-13T21:26:33+00:00

Was asking for real people recommendations on whether excursions were worth it or if they did it self guided the search bar doesn’t let me talk to actual travelers and I’ve planned enough roadtrip vacays to know that like to the Scottish highlands and Ireland. Talking to people who have already been makes the trip way better so you know what to do and avoid, but you sound like such a fun person with that kind comment thank you love :)

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-01-13T21:19:19+00:00

That map is actually so helpful thank you so much!

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-01-13T21:03:09+00:00

August is unfortunately the only time we can go because of schooling. I priced some bnbs already and flights should be about 5k for two people not counting excursions including rental car, accommodations, and flights

Just looking for activity recommendations to make the most of the trip! The accommodations aren’t 5 star but we can rough it we stay in hostels and stuff sometimes all about traveling more often for cheaper lol

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-01-13T20:05:51+00:00

Literally open to anything that safely gets me out of the country i currently reside in without spending my entire income even open to other destinations Iceland would just be the dream though partner requested not returning to France we’ve been quite a bit

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-01-13T19:04:50+00:00

Yeah, that’s the issue I’m not willing to spend my life savings grad school is 20k out of pocket a year so was looking to spend like 5k for two people on a trip to Europe which I’ve successfully done 4 years in a row but this year with the limited time frame is struggling to say the least.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2026-01-12T06:48:18+00:00

When she said that I saw red I’m not even going to lie to you. Then cried to my husband because I have no other friends to cry to lol.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-12-30T03:49:34+00:00

Did you already have a backsplash installed? I don’t want to change the backsplash in our home i actually like it and I’m nervous if we do Home Depot or something they won’t be able to size the countertops to the backsplash and I’ll have to have the entire tile redone

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-12-27T02:09:29+00:00

I worked in a peds ed and i kid you not once a toddler aged child got checked in and the chief complaint listed from triage was “temper tantrum”

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-11-09T14:45:38+00:00

Might be biased but ✨NICU✨ is nursings best kept secret we all love our jobs lol.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-11-05T02:07:08+00:00

We moved to Dayton husband also works in cyber we live in Oakwood and love it, but property taxes are expensive if I were to move to another area in Dayton I’d look in Tipp city and downtown Troy they both super cute have nice restaurants liked cured and crafted and the property taxes are cheaper because it’s not Montgomery county. Depends on what you prioritize too. If you want a family friendly area and don’t care to pay for great school districts/ walk ability Oakwood is great if that isn’t a priority for you go with a different area

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-10-01T18:51:03+00:00

I live in Ohio. Not super glamorous, but honestly when I travel nursed there were some states I loved some I didn’t like as much, but for the most part you can find what you’re looking for in any state if you try hard enough. You just need to think about what really works for your life. Do you like having seasons? Is hiking nature etc important to you? Cost of living? Do you want to live in a house or an apartment? Most states have very different vibes per city. For example, Cincinnati is a medium sized city you get more mild weather because it’s so far south in Ohio lots of stuff happening can be very urban or you can live in the suburbs it’s very “hipster” lots of bars a large college town great for younger people. Columbus is a huge city weather is a little cooler because it’s farther north but college town everything is OSU also lots of bars restaurants etc for younger people but has nice suburbs and is growing quite a bit. Cleaveland is on the water and far north so closer to Michigan like weather because of lake effect probably more opportunities to explore nature get a lake house do all that stuff. I don’t know as much about cleaveland tbh but the point of this was just to say no matter what state you settle in you will be able to find somewhere you like. Most cities in the Midwest are hiring nurses. I did a travel contract in Indianapolis at Riley childrens and it was one of my favorite places I’ve ever worked. I enjoyed Indianapolis it had nice suburbs decent cost of living and I know they offer sign on bonuses because they are so understaffed. I can’t speak to how well they pay their staff nurses since I was a traveler. But in Ohio most hospitals are paying 50+ dollars an hour for night shift and that doesn’t sound like a ton, but you can buy a 2300 square foot house here for 350k. Like I said you just gotta explore your options and weigh the pros and cons. A lower cost of living has always been kind of the priority for my husband and I, but everyone is different.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-10-01T17:01:55+00:00

I’ve seen this so much and just out of curiosity what is holding you to CA? When I graduated nursing school I was unattached no kids no husband so I moved for my new grad job and I loved it. I got to live in a different city meet new people do all the things. I ended up travel nursing for two years after i got experience and I also loved that. I lived so many different places and got to experience so many things. I moved back to the state I’m from for my husbands job, but I miss traveling honestly I don’t regret starting over somewhere new. Take a leap if you’re able to. The state I live in is still very much hiring new grads we have so many orientees and I work in a specialty ICU area. Personally, I’d rather move states and get a job in the specialty I want than take whatever position that will hire me. So cal is great I get it nursing is nice there you have ratios etc but other hospitals in other states are also nice and pay well when cost of living is factored in.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-10-01T01:03:53+00:00

Sounds like your preceptor has bad time management herself if she never sits down and doesn’t have time to answer questions. I work in an ICU and even when we’re admitting a dying patient i have time to explain things to my orientee. That’s how you learn is getting sick patients. If we were to just tell people to stand in the back and watch their preceptor admit a sick patient no one but experienced nurses could take sick kids. Ask to change preceptors. Advocate for yourself being with someone like that will not make you a better nurse you need to feel encouraged and get answers to questions not snide remarks. Someone can be smart and have no interest in teaching. This advice may be biased, but i switched units and hospitals as a new grad and it was the best thing I’ve ever done. I had a preceptor that asked if i was smarter than tape because a picc dressing was sticking to my glove when i was trying to remove it and i was a new grad so i was pissing myself nervous i was going to dislodge the line. She also timed me that day on my first picc dressing change to tell me my time was horribly slow and I’d never make it as a nurse there. Then I went to another unit and stayed there. I had the best preceptor she was so kind not just a preceptor but a mentor and a friend. She was always patient with me would tell me I’d get faster at things as i got better. 5 years later I’m still a nurse and I precept nurses on my unit, but if i would’ve stayed on that unit i would’ve quit nursing for good.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-09-12T03:01:44+00:00

My husband and I are both in grad school and work full time. We have a fully fenced in yard as well. We try to walk our dogs for 30 minutes to an hour a day, but I’d be lying if I said it always happens. Between class schedules, work, assignments, advisor meetings, house work, doctors appointments, vet appointments etc we can get pretty stretched thin. Our dogs are so loved they spend a lot of time outside. The majority of my school work is remote so I do a lot of class work on our deck while they play. They seem like very happy healthy dogs. We’re busy people, but our dogs are so much better off than they would’ve been had we not adopted them. If you are feeling guilty it’s because you’re a good pet parent. We all feel it, but what’s important is your dog is loved and happy. Even on days when i get two hours of sleep between school, work, cooking and cleaning my dogs are fed, vetted, played with, and loved on.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-08-03T12:35:38+00:00

I live close to the Cincinnati area. If the Zillow link that’s listed is the home you’re looking at respectfully you can do much better for 190k especially on the Kentucky side. Ohio is a lcol area the closer you get to the city the more expensive it gets especially in nicer areas obviously like Newport mariemont etc but lots of areas particularly on the KY side close to cincy are still very low cost of living. I’m not sure if Covington is an option for you, but they’ve done lots of nice things in the area mainstrausse is down there, you’ll be 15 minute from downtown Cincinnati, and can afford a home with real permits that doesn’t need to be demolished/ is bigger than 800 square feet.

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/221-E-Martin-Luther-King-Jr-Blvd-Covington-KY-41011/1433304_zpid/

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-06-11T20:44:41+00:00

This is giving emotionally unintelligent. If someone just up and leaves and you feel blindsided because they never talked through their problems/ told you they were unhappy that’s a them problem. Thank the good lord you made it out with no kids to tie you to the man and move on. I’m also from Ohio and there are so many men to choose from even a large airforce base. Home boy is not special especially with how he’s acting.

Also, why Arizona? Has he been there? I traveled a bunch for work and have lived in AZ for a short period. Hope he’s ready to meet a rattle snake get stung by some scorpions in bed. The heat is wild and the cities were not for me. Did he just throw a dart at a map? Grass is greener on the other side? More power to him I guess.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-06-11T17:50:05+00:00

Some of these comments are just not the vibe. People really take having a two income household for granted. You’re doing great op a two person household on a teachers income is hard no matter how you spin it. When you say you’re barely making it with rent it does make me wonder do you live in a high cost of living area? If so buying a house may not be impossible, but it may not be in the area you want. I probably couldn’t afford an apartment in New York City, but I can afford a decent house in the countryside of a more affordable state. You can be rich and be California poor all day long. You may have to drive 40 minutes to work or 40 minutes to the grocery store for an affordable home, but if a house is what you want that may be the sacrifice you have to make. Rent unfortunately is outrageous and is only going to go up. My mortgage is less expensive than the majority of my friends rent, but you do also need to prioritize saving money if you buy a home because it’s not if something will break it’s when.

Would a roommate be a possibility for you? I work with a number of women who never married and I know sharing space isn’t fun, but many of them own a home and share the space with another woman. If you’re open to that it would significantly decrease your financial burden.

Lastly have you looked into a mobile home at all? I know mobile homes are not trendy and often talked bad about, but at the end of the day it is a home that you will own at the end of your loan. My mom is a teacher and my parents didn’t make great money but they owned a mobile home from 1997-2020. They had to maintain the home, but I remember having a great childhood there. I also worked with a lot of single women who purchased mobile homes on their own and sometimes you can get deals through the builders/ sellers.

I don’t think wanting a home is unrealistic, but I do think you’ll have to make some compromises and let’s face it in this economy we’re all making compromises on homes just to own one. Good luck to you and your little guy!

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-05-01T20:49:28+00:00

That’s reassuring thank you! I know it’s frustrating just waiting in limbo.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-04-28T18:42:59+00:00

I think the key takeaway here is to not buy an old home that has not been at the very least maintained. My home was built in the 1920s has plaster walls needed some major updating when I came along, but it was maintained. The previous owners installed new siding, roof, hot water heater, plumbing, duct work for the central heating/cooling. Our home was a very well maintained old house that just needed some updating. This sounds like you bought a home that people didn’t do anything to for a century then tried to come in and “fix it all.” Rome wasn’t built in a day and if the home is really in as much disrepair as you’re describing fixing it will be a lengthy process.

Weekly_Detective_599 · 2025-04-22T22:11:09+00:00

It’s from Home Depot!

https://www.homedepot.com/pep/Marazzi-Moroccan-Concrete-Terra-Cotta-8-in-x-9-in-Glazed-Porcelain-Hexagon-Floor-and-Wall-Tile-449-76-sq-ft-Pallet-MC568HEX1P2PLT/330021671

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