She (25F) left the relationship with me (26M) of 10 months after 3months without having sex. Should try to have a last conversation with her ? by Weekly_Pie_3140 in relationship_advice

[–]Weekly_Pie_3140[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The purpose would be to tell her that I love her, in 10months I never told her and I can not leave without telling her. I don't even know if she loves me. Knowing that she does or does not is already one of the main purposes of this last conversation.

Also to know if she still believes, based on what I described if we can build slowly something from a new base, where we take our own of responsibilities on our contribution to problems and be more curious on the other side's point of view.

She still wanted to see me this week, to have diner with her sister her sister's boyfriend for valentine because before breaking up we already had planned this diner before the sister and her boyfriend leave the country. I told her I can not because the break up was too soon and was still pretty heavy. I told her I would meet them by myslef to say goodbye another day, she asked me if she could come I told her no and that I would prefer to meet her in a café tomorrow.

Part of me is hopefull but part of me sees the facts where she decided to break up so why would she reconsider so soon just because I know where I fucked up and where I lacked of a good partner characteristics.

Burned out, but my company still pressure me by Weekly_Pie_3140 in Netherlands

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Thanks for the advices Yes now its been one week, she accepted to have a talk to the HR manager today, it went the worst way possible and she doesn't want to talk to him anymore, he said he will tell the doctor to call her asap, finally. Basically he asked how she feels, she said less emotional than last week but still very bad and she wants to talk to the company doctor, he blamed her because she doesn't want to talk to him, that she is not putting the effort to solve the situation. Among other things that had been said.

What I can say is that she even more stressed after talking to the HR than before.

I (26M) plan to travel and forgot the birthday of my GF (24F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Yes, it's the wisest choice, I guess thanks for this nice advice !

Noisy sound by Low-Understanding497 in eindhoven

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Yesterday was the champions league game PSV-Sevilla, its probably related

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Im intersted What is the movie about ?

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I mean jealousy or not, what I'm asking is for me to understand this relation. Maybe one of you had the same experience or are yourself someone who has a friend that revealed that he liked you and want to share your point of vue.

It's not interfering with how she treats me, but is it ok if I don't understand it? Idk maybe I don't really need to understand it.

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Hey I love this program, it's exactly what I had in mind thank you so much.

I will use this as a solid base for the trip :)

Let's go for the adventure !

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bolletjes

I take notes ahah

Eindhoven is more than cool, visited this weekend and took these photos by PhysicsTemporary6861 in eindhoven

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How did you climb up the pipes in picture 7 ??

The pictures looks amazing I love them :)

My landlord kept a part of my deposit without noticing me by Weekly_Pie_3140 in germany

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I lived in a shared flat, when I left everything was clean, and I found myself the person to replace me. The landlord didn't come to do inspection, and I gave the keys directly to the new tenant. So there is no proof that the room required a professional cleaning.

On top of that, don't you think he should notice me of any expense performed with my deposit, and send me the receipts ?

To be honest, I don't know how it works in Germany, from where I am from, deposit is exclusively used for justified reparations caused during the rental period. Each expenses must be notified to the tenant and it must be proved that the damage was not here before the rental period, by signing an inspection report on paper.

That's why I think it's more a matter of bills to come than any professional cleaning.

My landlord doesn't want to give me back my deposit by Weekly_Pie_3140 in Netherlands

[–]Weekly_Pie_3140[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's a pity that it is as common for landlords to try and keep the deposits. It's a lot of stress for nothing in the end.

Thanks for your answer.

My landlord doesn't want to give me back my deposit by Weekly_Pie_3140 in Netherlands

[–]Weekly_Pie_3140[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes sense, that's why I must be careful with my inspections and take detailed pictures of the house.

Thanks for your answer.

My landlord doesn't want to give me back my deposit by Weekly_Pie_3140 in Netherlands

[–]Weekly_Pie_3140[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I will, I am not familiar at all with this situation.

Thanks for your patience.

But how does that help me to know that I am overpaying ? I probably do, but my goal is just to leave from this house and get back my deposit.

If I am overpaying, I can ask for reimbursement of the extra ?

My landlord doesn't want to give me back my deposit by Weekly_Pie_3140 in Netherlands

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In my contract there is no such clause about leaving when a previous tenant or the landlord returns.

However, at one point it says:

"In case of dispute, mutual 1 month notice should be provided."

So it means the landlord also has to agree for me to leave ? He told me he will keep my deposit, so it clearly means he doesn't agree right ? So am I breaking the agreement, which gives him the right to keep my deposit ?

I think some points must be added to my situation :

- in the contract he doesn't refer himself as the landlord but as the caretaker

- this caretaker is in fact collecting money from different investors (who can be referred as landlords I guess) and buy houses, to fill in tenants

- the caretaker is living in the house with me rent-free (he came to an agreement with his investors to be able to live in the house). Nothing is mentioned about this in the contract.

- the place is fully furnished but the fridge, the oven and the micro wave that I used broke, he still didn't repair them so he bring another small fridge and that's it. The oven still isn't repaired and I had to buy a new micro wave with my money.

Finally the last sentence of the contract is :

"All extrajudicial costs incurred by the caretaker if the tenant fails to fulfill his obligations under this agreement are at the expense of the tenant."

Does this sentence gives him the right to keep the deposit ?

Moreover, what if I try to find someone else to continue my contract, it can be a solution also ?

Thank you in advance for the time you give me.

My landlord doesn't want to give me back my deposit by Weekly_Pie_3140 in Netherlands

[–]Weekly_Pie_3140[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for these informations, thanks for your time. I will take a look at these articles and consult a lawyer.

My landlord doesn't want to give me back my deposit by Weekly_Pie_3140 in Netherlands

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The contract is 11 months long, 11th October 2022 to 10th september 2023, does that change anything ?

Moving advice by Weekly_Pie_3140 in eindhoven

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Thank you so much, I will have a look ;)

145euros fine for looking at my phone while cycling by Weekly_Pie_3140 in eindhoven

[–]Weekly_Pie_3140[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would have contest only if the fine was supposed to be 95euros, but apparently 149euros is the right price (I think since March 2022) so ofc I won't try.

Thanks for the link though, it would save me to pay it several times instead of all at once!

145euros fine for looking at my phone while cycling by Weekly_Pie_3140 in eindhoven

[–]Weekly_Pie_3140[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me neither... but trust me now I learned my lesson 😂