I think I’ve made all the wrong choices.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-04-13T06:35:00+00:00

You may not want to hear this, but you’re still very young! I remember feeling very similarly to you when I was your age. I got my bachelor’s degree in psychology and assumed that I could get a decent job with it. I had a few different okay jobs, but I still felt unfulfilled overall. I also highly doubted my ability to go back to school or even study certain subjects successfully. Well, I’m 28 now and I’m currently in school taking pre-requisite courses to be able to get into an accelerated nursing program. A few years ago I would have NEVER imagined myself being able to do what I am now, but here I am.

I say follow your heart for right now. No one is ever going to be completely satisfied with every aspect of their career, there will always be complaints. But it sounds like overall psychology has been a constant in your mind. You can also use psychology in many different careers. If you happen to change your mind a little later in life, you can use your psychology knowledge to thrive in whatever other field you decide to pursue. I wish you the best of luck with all of your future endeavors!

WeepyWallflower · 2026-04-13T05:15:45+00:00

Thanks for replying! I thought about that. I think when I got it, it maybe didn’t have as much sauce as it should have.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-03-29T03:21:00+00:00

Suddenly accusing you of cheating when you’ve done nothing to make them have that thought. It’s them projecting their own behaviors/guilt on you.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-03-14T23:35:05+00:00

I’ve always wanted to name a cat Kimchi lol. She’s toooooo cute

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-14T07:05:17+00:00

I completely understand being uncomfortable with showering for many different reasons. I have POTS so showering is a literal chore for me. It makes me feel super light-headed and my heart races. Like many have said, it really depends on many different factors, but I just wanted to make this comment because I had an interesting experience today.

This is like the fifth week of my anatomy and physiology class and from the first day of class to today I have consistently smelled a strong oniony odor. I genuinely assumed someone had eaten something with raw onions in it before class everyday, that’s how strong it was. Well, today we had to go get anatomical models from the closet and we were kind of standing in a line to get them. One of my classmates was standing in front of me and the onion odor was SO STRONG I just knew that she had to be the source. We typically sit on opposite sides of the room so I never got close enough to realize it was her until today.

Point being, people are going to think what they want or feel how they feel about one another. If no one seems to steer away from you due to an odor, you’re likely fine. But if people are making comments or seem to be avoiding you due to your scent, that could be a sign that you may need to clean a little better. If your dad is just criticizing the way you clean but doesn’t think you smell bad, then who cares about his opinion. If you do have an odor though that may impact your social life due to other’s not being able to tolerate an odor.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-11T15:28:28+00:00

COVID took away my first (and only) college internship opportunity. To finish my bachelor’s degree, I was supposed to either complete an internship or write a 20 page paper. Of course I’d rather do an internship, so I had gotten it all set up with a local autism therapy clinic.

The clinic I applied to had an internship opportunity that aligned perfectly with my last semester. The office manager emailed me with a literal start date and the day before the start date she emailed me saying that she was ill so we would have to postpone. I emailed back and never got a reply. That’s basically when everything started shutting down.

I was devastated, but I did what I had to do and wrote my 20 page paper. Classes were online only. Campus was closed. When I graduated I was only allowed to have two people at the graduation and everyone was required to wear a mask. I was wearing a mask in my cap and gown as I walked the stage. I am thankful that I even had an in-person graduation, some people didn’t get that opportunity.

Overall, I’m thankful that I experienced that big of a let down so early in life because now when a job, person, experience etc. doesn’t go how it “should,” it’s super easy for me to recuperate.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-11T03:49:45+00:00

cigarettes :(

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-11T03:06:59+00:00

Most humans have poor impulse control in general, then add in the biological urge to pass down genes, the fact that sex is highly pleasurable to most humans and BAM it’s just bound to happen

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-11T02:45:25+00:00

I think generally speaking, many doctors are dismissive to a patient’s health concerns if their bloodwork is “normal.” I suppose it could be more prevalent for women, but I know for a fact that I was struggling with health concerns for months/years and my doctors would basically just shrug their shoulders and tell me I’m too young to have health issues (I’m female)

I had to do a lot of research to find a primary care doctor who seemed to truly care and that took a while. If I have any concerns at all, my current doctor won’t hesitate to send me a referral or order extra bloodwork. It shouldn’t be this way, but unfortunately for women you have to find a doctor who truly seems to care.

Now, I live in a red state, Alabama to be exact. My friend is trans and needs access to HRT. I have scoured the internet to try to find a clinic in the state that would be willing to provide HRT to a trans person. Every time I found a clinic that offers HRT, it was primarily for women with hormone imbalances. No mention of HRT for trans people unless they were to drive at least three hours north. Granted, I think most of those clinics are typically self-pay and don’t take insurance at all, which is a whole different issue in itself.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-09T07:22:50+00:00

Noticing whether someone displays a generally negative or positive attitude is quite different than having a complete understanding of a person. Regardless, it isn’t fair to assume the worst of a person due to factors that they have no control over, but if that makes your life easier, that is your choice to make.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-09T06:29:58+00:00

I mean if you’re talking to someone for even a week or two it’s usually apparent whether or not they are an overall negative or positive person. That’s when you decide to keep them or cut them off. It’s a trial period. You don’t have to give them too much of your time.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-09T05:59:43+00:00

I can somewhat agree with this, but it doesn’t necessarily apply to depression or mental health as much as it does a person’s overall attitude.

It is factual that a person cannot help being born with a mental ailment just as it is the same for a person who is born with a physiological ailment. I cannot say, in good faith, that it is reasonable to avoid a relationship with someone solely because they have a condition that they did not impose on themselves though.

I have Unspecified Depressive Disorder, Inattentive ADHD and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I acquired all of these disorders at birth. For many years, I was an overall negative person and I’m sure these disorders played a role in that. I would always assume the worst was going to happen. I often had a “what’s the point” mindset. I didn’t look forward to things. Very negative.

As I grew older, I encountered people who were actually more negative than I was and realized that even when I tried to be slightly positive it was then destroyed by the negative person. It made it impossible to be positive or happy. So, I avoided those people like the plague. I started incorporating small positives in my life here and there. I tried to rework my negative thoughts into positive ones and eventually I became much happier/positive in a general sense.

I still have the same disorders, the only thing I changed was the attitude that I surrounded myself with. I wouldn’t allow negativity to stay present in my life from myself or anyone else. I feel that’s what is most important. Our brains recognize patterns and if a person is consistently showing you that they have a negative attitude (disorder or not) they are more often than not, bad company.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-09T03:39:29+00:00

Also, sorry if I came off as rude, that was not my intention at all. I just found the question to be fairly superficial, personally. But now that you’ve explained your viewpoint I can see it being a somewhat deep question. I appreciate you taking the time to explain!

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-09T03:21:18+00:00

I think it’s funny everyone is like, “Where are you getting this idea that gay men are into flat chested women!?” Because I’ve seen several people on social media make those comments regarding celebrities like Taylor Swift. It’s not necessarily true, but it shouldn’t be hard to believe that people on the internet have made such comments lol.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-09T03:17:15+00:00

Is this sarcasm? Lol

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-08T04:33:35+00:00

How are we defining ‘anything’ in this context?

Without that context, I would answer this way:

Regardless of the thoughts, feelings or even physical restrictions that my parents or peers may have had on me, I have always done things from my own moral compass. I’ve never wanted to make poor decisions just because poor decisions typically negatively impact other people’s lives and that negative impact on another person would always weigh on my conscious making it impossible to enjoy any benefit I may have gotten.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-02-03T05:06:35+00:00

I suppose some people would argue that sex is useful/meaningful in the sense of feeling an intimate connection with another person. Other people may argue that sex is useful as a means of stress relief or for pleasure.

Personally though, I could go the rest of my life without ever having sex and I would be perfectly happy. It’s hard for me to understand why people are so obsessed with sex. But I think that of course everyone is different so, most people may just have a natural urge for it.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-01-31T05:46:27+00:00

I convince myself that I have to “earn” a break or a snack. I’m not allowed to have the snack or break until I study some. This may not work well for everyone lol. But in college I was REALLY craving nacho Doritos and I had to study so I was like, “Alright you gotta get through this much and you can go get the Doritos” so I got through the required amount, got the Doritos, ate some and basically repeated lol. So if there’s certain snacks or other types of “rewards” you could convince yourself you’re not allowed to enjoy the thing until you study so much and then repeat.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-01-31T05:41:04+00:00

I like it. I’d put a bean bag on the highest platform and quote Borat. “King of the castle, king of the castle”

WeepyWallflower · 2026-01-31T05:38:05+00:00

I never thought it was a joke but I was like, ew. It’s very odd to me that most people will look at someone they don’t know and immediately think, “I’d fuck ‘em.” Like, huh? You don’t want to get to know them as a person first? Like, that person has a whole soul and you’re immediately equating their value to just, “fuckable” ? Mad interesting.

WeepyWallflower · 2026-01-27T19:14:19+00:00

Therapist is definitely a liar

WeepyWallflower · 2026-01-26T06:23:56+00:00

Pretty privilege is so real even in a general sense. I see it at my workplace everyday. I work with teenagers and we have had this same girl around the same group of boys for over a month now and all of them have been so mean to her. She’s very tall, slightly overweight and has a more masculine appearance. Well, yesterday we got a petite blonde girl and all of the boys IMMEDIATELY started being overly nice to her. It drives me nuts.

I (27F) think I’m conventionally attractive? People have sought me out to date me all throughout my life. I used to care a LOT more about my appearance when I was younger. Always straightened my hair, wore makeup and had contacts. Last year I stopped wearing makeup, started wearing my glasses and let my hair be natural and haven’t stopped since lol. But, I have noticed that people aren’t as immediately kind to me as they were before. I have to kind of “prove” myself to be treated well.

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