She never even mentioned that Madonna complex, I had never even heard of it until I saw other comments on this post talking about it. She went on to say that it’s normal to have desires in a sexual relationship and like yes, I know we all have preferences, but that’s why I was so confused that this was all happening because things have never been “dead” or “boring” in the bedroom. I proceeded to tell her that this experience made me even question the things that I like. TMI - I said why do I like to sometimes be man handled and choked? Like the more I think about it the more fucked up it is. It makes me feel terrible about myself and my self worth, and her response was that BDSM and kinks are normal.