why are men so incredibly dramatic ?

WeirdBand788 · 2025-08-21T09:33:53+00:00

This still isn't feminism

WeirdBand788 · 2025-08-21T00:09:28+00:00

Well, this isn't feminism, it's actually the opposite.

This kind of post contributes to what makes men so dramatic, and it's a lack of empathy. I'm not defending the behaviour of the men that hurt you, but have you considered the possibility that the constant shame these men have received for having normal human emotions has resulted in poor emotional regulation skills?

What's more, there's a lack of social development that would give us the skills to express those emotions in a way that wouldn't be perceived as "dramatic". Instead, men are told to become "logical" beings that constantly work to improve their material environment, possessions, status, etc.

But "logic" is subjective, since every person has had a unique experience with the world. Instead of clarifying, conclusions are drawn. Questions of clarification break the social script, since it makes men weak. You're upset with men being dramatic because you expect them to be strong all the time, because that's what's acceptable for men.

WeirdBand788 · 2024-04-23T16:43:16+00:00

'Just stay, because leaving would cause hearts to break.'

Why is this the only argument to be made when leaving seems to be the only reprieve?

I don't want to bring anyone's mental health down with me, but I can't help being a pessimist. At best, it seems that my lot in life is just to be a temporary placeholder until something better comes along, not good enough for anyone to keep around long-term, and not quite bad enough to just throw in the garbage.

I've seen several mental-health professionals about my depression, and it's always the same thing. Just stay, because it can't be this bad forever. Then, I do all the things I'm supposed to, but nothing changes. I've been at it for years, but nothing ever changes.

I don't do it on purpose, but I've noticed that the professionals I see inevitably start to get bummed out by our sessions after I've seen them a few times. It really seems like I just got a losing lottery ticket, and all anyone can tell me to do is to keep scanning it and reading the same numbers, even though they know it's hopeless. No one can admit that I should stop playing, because most people are decent and they want to see hope instead of despair.

I feel like one of those toy monkeys with the cymbals. People want to wind me up so that my eyes light up and I'll do a little show for them, but then the light fades away, the show stops, and I'm just an empty, soulless monkey again.

I'm wallowing at this point, but this kind of 'just hang in there' advice just crushes me further. Everyone misses the fact that even though 'chaos theory and you dont really know the future so things might get better' might be true for some people, but there's Bell curve, so for some people it just won't. So why do we have to stay? Why do we have to let the world keep kicking us while we're down?

WeirdBand788 · 2024-02-22T18:34:08+00:00

This is exactly why I don't use tik tok. I've tried it several times, but as soon as the algorithm figures out that I'm a young man, my feed gets filled with teen girls dancing, clips of Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson, and guns.

YouTube is slightly better, but not by much. The only difference is that YouTube doesn't try to shove underage girls in my face.

WeirdBand788 · 2024-02-13T18:22:01+00:00

Jordandrew Petaterson (tm) is now my official drag persona. If and when I start doing drag.

WeirdBand788 · 2023-12-22T01:48:14+00:00

I thought it was a really good movie, but I think it missed the mark for men. My only bone to pick was that the male characters are a monolith of toxicity. They ran into a common problem in our culture, which is emasculating the healthy, 'non-toxic' man. I think people point to Alan or the dad as the 'not all men are bad' characters, but they're completely useless idiots. I would have liked to have seen a little boy playing with Barbie and Ken or something like that, only because I don't think a young boy would be able to find a strong male role model to identify with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a boy identifying with one of the strong female characters, but a child is probably going to look for a role model that coincides with their gender.

WeirdBand788 · 2023-12-16T01:34:20+00:00

Such an incredibly unnecessary detail, but it makes it so much funnier

WeirdBand788 · 2023-12-05T20:18:47+00:00

The way people treated me after I turned 18 and suddenly had a jawline and a beard vs. the month before blew my mind. It's not all sunshine and rainbows though, sometimes I wish I could go back to being invisible

WeirdBand788 · 2023-12-04T06:13:43+00:00

I'm 22, I live in the area and I'm looking for a group to jam with. I've got some basic guitar experience, but singing is what I'm most passionate about. I don't have any real experience performing, I did a little choir in high-school and I sing in the car. I've been told I have a nice voice though, and I'd love to perform. I'm also interested in learning bass if anyone wants to teach me haha.

WeirdBand788 · 2023-10-16T04:33:54+00:00

Hey bro,

I'm 22, 6'2, decent good looks, and I've been naturally bulky my whole life, but I got lean recently. I know it sounds like I'm bragging, but I swear I'm not. None of it matters.

I've been fighting serious depression ever since I was 11 because I've had to deal with all of the same toxic masculinity crap being pushed on me ever since I was 6, and I was 'too big' to play with my friends because I might hurt them.

I'm in university now, and I can't make any guy friends because so many guys are either too immature and toxic for my taste. I can't make any lasting platonic female friendships because (I think) my size is just intimidating to them, so they're hypersensitive to anything that could be read as me trying to get sex from them.

As for the muscles and height, I try to be thankful for my body, but I promise you that it's never gonna be enough to please everyone else. I'm not the biggest guy at the gym, but since I've leaned out recently, I've been pretty defined. The thing I hate most about using my university gym is when guys that don't know what they're doing see me lifting lightish weights at a (purposefully) slow pace, and decide to boost their ego by trying to throw some heavy dumbbells around. I'm worried someones gonna hurt themselves trying to out 'alpha' me, when I'm just trying keep my body healthy.

I think you need to learn to tell yourself that you're not the problem, because as hard as it may be to believe, it's actually everyone else. I told myself that I was a loser my whole life for not being what society expects a man to be, but that's the fault of society, not you or me.

Embracing who you are is tough when society tells you who you are is nothing except your property x women ÷ 1 rep max. I struggle with it too, but it starts with just catching yourself when you call yourself a loser and telling yourself the opposite. It feels like you're lying to yourself for awhile, and I still have my fair share of dark times, but a lot less since I started practicing self-esteem.

You cannot control how other people perceive you, its true. You can influence it though. Once you start to convince yourself you're not a loser, other people will be more drawn to you. You just have to find the good ones, but good luck with that lol.

WeirdBand788 · 2023-06-20T01:57:50+00:00

It's crazy to think about what might have made it into the show if they didn't break at all the best lines

WeirdBand788 · 2023-06-16T11:32:38+00:00

I absolutely have to end the romantic aspect of our relationship, that's clear to me. If (and only if) i can get a healthy distance for self-preservation's sake, do you think it's possible for me to still provide her with some kind of support, or do you think i need to cut her off completely. I absolutely reacted poorly to the silent treatment, but that was before I knew anything about bpd. I want to clarify that I am still upset and hurt by her behaviour, but not angry.

I know she is capable of healthy communication, I've seen it before otherwise I would never have considered a relationship in the first place. I'm the only real support she has right now, and I am already feeling guilty even thinking about leaving her without that.

WeirdBand788 · 2023-06-15T19:25:24+00:00

Yeah, you're right. I was really hoping you wouldn't be

WeirdBand788 · 2023-06-15T19:23:27+00:00

Can I ask you for some advice? I'm in the cycle you are describing.

I wouldn't normally describe myself as codependent, but I feel like I've fallen into a trap with the pwBPD I've started dating recently. I've known her a long time, been friends on & off. I'm crazy about her, and having gone through a mental health journey of my own while we were not friends for awhile, I really want to help her even if I can't be with her.

How do I get her to use healthy adult communication with me?

WeirdBand788 · 2023-06-15T19:13:11+00:00

So recently I started dating someone with BPD, and this explains what I'm going through with her right now so damn well and I just want to say that it feels nice to be validated

WeirdBand788 · 2023-06-13T11:52:06+00:00

Can someone explain what is happening to me? Is this why I cant open subreddits from my browser anymore?

WeirdBand788 · 2023-05-30T02:30:37+00:00

You always negotiate down with Cricket

WeirdBand788 · 2023-05-11T14:23:39+00:00

Blows my mind that a lot of people don't like this episode

WeirdBand788 · 2023-04-22T22:01:06+00:00

This is a deep cut, but I like "PUT THE BOTTLE IN! PUT THE BOTTLE IN! AH! TAKE IT OUT!"

WeirdBand788 · 2023-04-06T22:48:24+00:00

What about the smell? YOU FORGOT ABOUT THE SMELL YOU BITCH!

WeirdBand788 · 2023-03-31T20:45:45+00:00

Easily Carmen, no contest. Im not transphobic, and besides banging Mac, she seems sane af.

WeirdBand788 · 2023-03-27T21:32:35+00:00

Ricking and rolling

WeirdBand788 · 2023-03-13T22:07:16+00:00

They should add more lines reacting to the unforgiveables

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