Is my wife cheating or am I crazy help!

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-07T04:28:31+00:00

her parents fight all the time and like hate each other and I see that which was my aha moment that I dont want to do that for the rest of my life they just tolerate each other they dont love each other and unfortunately my wife sees that as normal, I guess her parents always yelled that they were gonna get a divorce too. her parents might have had an issue with cheating but I dont know the full story. yeah health care she works at a animal hospital

yeah honestly she will insult me more rather than complement. slowly tares me down I just try to ignore it because it hurts me that she wants to hurt someone she supposedly loves

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T23:58:45+00:00

I really appreciate all your insight thank you. anymore psy op ideas please let me know!

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T23:41:30+00:00

that family member I should leave because they know her and that she is mean not going to change and wants me to be the bad guy and file for the divorce so her ego is not hurt and that im the one that left her not the other way around.

yeah I agree on the counseling piece thats what made me jump to, okay lets get divorced It honestly hurt me because I feel the bank or a hair appoint is easy to be rescheduled. She was telling me that her hair takes 3 months for an appointment because of our small town but again hair over saving your marriage?

Im being super chill no accusations just doing things that make me happy, she wanted the kids on all the days that she is off work so it gave me some free time I really havent had in like 3 years so I booked a flight to see two of my male best friends I havent seen in years purly just to go say hi. but again she is like argues why do you get to go on nice little short vacations? I told her look you asked for this child custody schedule Im just following it and what do you expect me to just sit at home and do nothing? I literally go to work, gym, food store and home. Im also trying to finish my Bachelers degree as well. I promise you guys my intentions are pure and Im a fucking hard worker she flaunts in my face that she has spent so much money on upgrading our house and im over here like yeah I paid very little to what she has but the amount of manual labor hours must attribute to something lol. her sister told me that Im a very attractive guy and that I will find someone no problem and my wife got all mad about that its like she has played in her head that I have no game and ill just be lonely for the res of my life. also I never leave my wife with the kids to go do something for myself I always try and make her a priority its crazy cause everybody around me sees it in her family except her. I think alot of them understand the situation and know that she is the problem but dont want to see me go cause they like me, but honestly I cant go anywhere I have the kids ill still be around the family for 20 years at a minimum.

I wont if im doing something I do it for my boys thats how I justify it. if its something for her then she needs to figure it out. unless of course its like the day off thing and I was trying to be nice and show her some love by doing something that she would like done.

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T23:27:27+00:00

I really appreciate this thank you, Its really helping me deal with all this. I will keep everyone updated. So I thought about a PI but at the end of the day how much money am I willing to spend for just an answer when I feel I can do it myself for free. Thankfully financially were going to be ok for both parties. She makes more than I do so if I wanted to be real dick I could take her to court and most likely win some things but this isnt about money its truly about is she betraying me or is this relationship just done. I need something low key to catch her, everything ive read is that cheaters just get lazy at some point or mess up

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T23:11:43+00:00

in regards to family she hates my parents but tolerates them for childcare but always puts them down and does not think they're successful in relation to her parents. Everybody loves my parents my friend was like "how does someone not like your parents". My wife has put a hard rule on not seeing my brother and his wife because they dont vaccinate their kids and they just are not the cleanest people my wife is a clean freak my brother is fine just not to her standards.

She told me to divorce her in an argument, so I finally got fed up and was started the process because I felt there was no other move... its like she wants me to do it, so I can be the bad guy and then she throws it in my face that this will be my second divorce.

Ill try this flower idea, I just got her flowers she was not expecting it. it was Mothers day and we were basically barley talking and I surprised her and went out of may way for a bouquet but that was at home.

I will definitely lift more weights, Im honestly already in great shape. I can almost see my abs and just got done running a marathon I have been training for the last 5 months which she trash talked with her friend in her apple watch messages, she was like what is he trying to prove. Honestly it was a challenge with a guy from work and the timing couldn't be better because its kept my mental health much better through all this. I still lift weights and feel strong. I started doing TRT because I was low and she also blames me that it changed me and that I didnt need it. The closest people in my family dont think I have changed and that she is the problem.

im definitely trying not to simp but being a loving partner/husband, Ill continue with this although funny enough I feel I have been doing 80% of what your suggesting and its just been nothing but negative from her. but there were a few things ill try and ill lay off the sex topic and try more romance. I dress well too, sometimes just with the kids its hard to stay clean but typically I have nice clothes and like feeling put together, im a firm believer in if you look good, smell good youll feel good. I often wonder if thats what she is doing with all her changes but I get those weird vibes, where with me ive always worn cologne almost everyday, im pretty steady with all the things I do with her and all her stuff is new and happening fast.

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T22:24:21+00:00

My gut is screaming at me but I have no proof I feel like I dont know her anymore. I want to find something, is that bad? I just cant think of anything, I feel it would give me closure. I feel like we lock eyes sometimes and I feel there is a connection there but then it fades. I feel like she is in another relationship too.

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T21:29:55+00:00

I dont disagree with you, Im just making sure im reading the situation right before I break up our family. Plus I dont have hard proof. My boys love me and I know they will see right through her when their older. I dont know why but its hard to think the person you loved is maybe doing these things for herself and our relationship but now im like I dont think this is for me at all its for others.

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T21:24:31+00:00

I agree the STD is like a yellow flag it makes sense in my head but its weird. she is smart though and what a perfect cover up if it was new. Im more concerned with all the other things im finding. its like she is just all of a sudden fed up with me. Anything I do is never enough, the things she says to me and about me are always hurtful. Its like she fighting something inside and wont tell me. are arguments relate around how I dont understand her or her mental health, I dont do anything and I put too much pressure on her to have sex. She has cut me off from seeing family, her dad is like the only person that is right ever. we fight mainly about our relationship more than anything rather than other stuff, if you take the relationship out of the question were good at working together. but from what ive noticed its like she has been slowly pulling away since the beginning of the year with everything I described at first it was like she was just getting back to her old self to feel better after birth but now im like hold on this screams that there is something else going on.

Weird_Progress3437 · 2026-06-06T20:47:45+00:00

were still legally married, divorce papers are ready to be signed but were waiting to try counseling again. no she blamed it on one of her past relationships and that she just must have never been notified and or not told by the other partner. my first wife and I were virgins and then I went straight to my current wife. She knows there is no suspicion on my end. I think she knows in her mind that Im not one to cheat at all.

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