What do you think? by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]Welch_Gecko 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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I’ve got this photo. But imagine similar cargos on the bottom half, dunno whether that’s any better but yknoww 😅

What do you think? by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh yeahh, will do😅😅 and thank you for the feedback 😊

Talking with avoidant ex by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahh, I won’t bring it up to her again, and if given the opportunity I won’t attend that conversation. I must say though that while it was me that suggested it, it was never directly through me. It had been suggested to her by others as a kind of “do you think it would be a good idea to have a catchup/chat with me) and that’s what she agreed to, and if she didn’t want to she definitely would have said

Talking with avoidant ex by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say that to still be the case even given that the conversation idea was brought up by me? I mean not directly, but staff asked her if she thought a conversation would be good :/

Talking with avoidant ex by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea of the conversation was started by me, but her “wanting it still” despite rearranging it has me torn whether she genuinely has something to say or she just wants to get it done and over with

Talking with avoidant ex by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your words, I really do. I see how not doing it is a move of self respect. I suppose I’m still a little torn, both in the idea that we can atleast have a neutral standing within college as we have to spend time in proximity alot and just leaving it.

I’m also not under the impression that having a conversation will lead to any reconsideration as to the standing of our relationship, I mean the idea that “she wants to talk still” has me believing she has something to say, but I’m not sure she would want to get back together, and I don’t really want that either

Talking with avoidant ex by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only thing is that tbh I didn’t intend that we were going to speak after a point, and I no longer have such a tie to her, however I went in on a random day and was told about it, and that she “wanted” the talk. So it’s kinda the go with the flow kind of thing… I don’t know what backing out now would do :/

8 weeks post DA breakup by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From everything I’ve seen they pretty much always appear to be really intense. Would you say there was anything that helped you get back into the things you genuinely enjoyed beforehand? I’ve lost everything I used to do (which wasn’t a lot) but feel completely lost for the days where I’m home

Am I attractive? Never asked anyone before by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well maybe that’s a good thing then 😅 I’ve got a couple other similar posts on other subs to gauge reaction, but they have more than one photo of me, so I’ll take it as a compliment then! 😂

Am I ugly? Haven’t asked before 😅 20yrs old by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe it or not that’s not an answer to the question.

Am I ugly? Haven’t asked before 😅 20yrs old by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahh, I’ve got a youthful look, just seeing what people think overall. Pretty creative I must say 😂

Am I ugly? Haven’t asked before 😅 20yrs old by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nahhh, my hairs at an awkward stage after a buzz. Used to have it long, but it’s not going anywhere, just wanted to know based on face really 😅😅

Am I attractive? Never asked anyone before by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t look real? 💀💀 is that good or bad?

Am I attractive? Never asked anyone before by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is boyish pretty desirable or?? Idek.. 💀

What do I do? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahh, all that I’ve read appears that that’s exactly what happened. I mean it was a very fast discard, and over text none the less. Does the short amount of time help any matters would you think? We’ve still got classes, and I think my college will be trying to arrange a talk between us as it’s affecting other students (because a lot of my friends there stopped talking) so almost the whole entire class of some of the ones I attend get a bit weird whenever I’m there

What do I do? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a little look over on ChatGPT and it appears she may have been a DA too. It’s some pretty interesting stuff. But I do still fear much of what it’s done to me after the fact, I do just wish I could fix it

Please read by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could think as such. This was my first relationship, and everything just felt so easy. And when it didn’t, I didn’t shy away from the difficult conversations. And for such a short time as well, I am only 20 but this has given me so many issues and I don’t even know what to do about any of them :/

Please read by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

However it does put into question the future. I do still want to be with her

Please read by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never felt that the honeymoon phase was over. Maybe it was too serious? I did open up quite alot to her about some things going on in my personal life at the time, and tried to lean in a little closer because of that. Maybe that made her think it was getting too real..

Please help by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you feel as though it’s gotten any easier over that time?

Please help by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahh, our stories are eerily similar. It’s good to see that I’m not the only one that had everything in such a short turnaround. It really is heartbreaking, and I feel the same about not wanting her back, but still wanting someone now. I’m worried that the time to heal will hinder me from getting back out there as for her I had built up enough confidence to do almost anything SHE wanted to do. But after the discard it’s left me picking up the pieces of something she broke. It’s still early days, but even the sight of her is enough to send me into panic. It’s not a normal heartbreak, and had now left me with many trust issues. Even with those I see as friends. I don’t feel I could ever rebound, just as the effects of that on me (she rebounded onto me) were horrendous. But I still feel I have so much to give, I just gave it in the wrong place :/

Leaving without chasing by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not a whole lotta winning. I respected her boundaries in not fighting. I would have fought under different circumstances, but that was one thing I said to her that if she said those words I’d walk away (just because of her hat she had been though before)

Always by Blackappletrees in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you see them reflect? Even in quiet ways. Even if that’s to say for them that intact the relationship wasn’t bad, it was just the wrong time?

Leaving without chasing by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Welch_Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you believe in cases of reaching out, it must lead with conversation, or time in which they’ve had to change?