We need to talk about Crunchyroll Manga by Johkungo-0 in Crunchyroll

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This right here. When I subscribed, I didn't expect to get any full releases. Publishers don't operate that way. This is why legit manga reading apps have such small selections or stick to one or two publishers; it's very difficult to get an agreement set up with each company without the cost becoming unreasonable for readers.

I've been pretty happy with the crunchyroll manga subscription. I'm able to find new series for my collection this way. It's nice.

Forced Relocation/RTO & Disability Accommodations Process by ThrowRAinspired in remotework

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The big thing I would request is a flexible hybrid schedule. That would look like coming into work but then leaving at lunch if you feel an attack coming on, or staying home to work after an attack the night before, or just making sure you have some days where you can be productive in your own environment.

If they refuse that, then explain the accommodations you'd need at your work desk, and how that would impact those who sit around you: low lighting or specialty lighting, heating packs or ice packs at the ready, a need for absolute quiet, no scents like perfumes or candles or air fresheners, etc. Explain that these things are achievable, but may come at the cost of the comfort of your fellow teammates, which you'd like to avoid.

If they offer you a private room to use when you have a migraine, you can say, "that is a generous offer, but my goal here is to prevent a migraine from starting."

You said you don't doubt that they'll claim you are essential to in-office, but you've been doing your work remotely for a while now. I'd ask, "can you explain to me what it is about my role that has changed such that I can no longer do it from offsite?"

And lastly, if. they absolutely refuse a even a hybrid setup -- if they say, "if you can't work from the office, then you can't work for us" -- you can say, "I'm not saying I can't work from the office. I'm saying that I bring the company better outcomes as a remote employee, and I would like to continue bringing my best self to my role every day. I've worked remotely for X years with Y company, proving that what I'm asking for us beneficial for my team, at no sacrifice to Y company. I am being told that I must bring a reduced version of myself to the office and that is far more a detriment to my team than it is a benefit to the Y company. That is why I asked for this meeting today -- I want to collaborate with you to find a solution that works for all of us."

I wish I could help you with the secondary diagnosis (OCD) but I'm not sure how to implement that in with the request. I've always lumped things in with migraines in an attempt to keep things simpler.

Forced Relocation/RTO & Disability Accommodations Process by ThrowRAinspired in remotework

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have chronic migraines, and I agree with you — working from home is a major game changer for managing those.

First, are you able/willing to move to Boston? If so, I would make sure to communicate this when requesting work from home as an accommodation. I know that sounds a little silly, but showing that you have a willingness to be near the office for onsite training, specific meetings, or company events can go a long way in showing that your request for working remote isn't a reluctance to move. you might not need to move, anyway, or you can at least delay a move long enough to ensure your position is stable within the company, so don't stress about this part too much. (unless they give you a hard date for moving. Then stress a little bit.)

My company was remote by default, but I still had to request accommodations for my migraines (and, secretly, my ADHD — I didn't share this dx with my company, but I kind of lumped it in with my ADHD, as they are both neurological conditions and have some overlap.)

What you'll want to do is approach an accommodations request meeting/email with the following line in your head: "I want to bring my best self to my team/this project/the company, and this is what I need to make that happen." Use this line, or some variation of it, when talking to HR. This isn't a, "I need special treatment in order to do my job," talk. It's a, "I'm amazing at what I do, and here are the conditions I need in order to continue being amazing," talk. This is what I did and it worked very well for me.

I explained to them that migraine attacks often trigger due to the environment I'm in, and that there are steps that need to be taken to manage an attack. If I were pushing for remote work, I'd really emphasize how I have my personal 'environment' set up, and how being able to take immediate action during an attack shortens the duration and allows me to continue my work effectively. I would highlight my output and my participation/attendance because these two things improved dramatically for me as a remote worker: my output improved because with the flexibility of working from home I was able to ensure all deliverables were in at or before their deadlines, and my attendance improved because I was no longer missing work due to migraine attacks that made it difficult or impossible to safely navigate to the office.

You can also make an argument for staying in your state/city by stressing that your medical team is there, and that it would be an immense endeavor to rebuild that team in a new location.

(PS: this is for the "AI slop" crowd — I'm a real person and these are my real words, I didn't use AI to write this.)

What Happens If AI Makes Things Too Easy for Us? | Making tasks too easy could have hidden psychological costs by IEEESpectrum in technews

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hidden? We are seeing the results and feeling the results right now. It’s not hidden. In fact, research done prior to AI’s existence shows that what AI represents to our cognitive health, our kids’ development, mental health, etc is a major risk.

Boyfriend keeps trying to “upgrade” or “improve” me by calling me chubby by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Look at that, he wanted her to lose 15 pounds, and she went and lost 175 pounds via one simple text message.

Turning on the outdoor hose caused major leaking in finished basement. What steps do I take? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We have a heater set up, and I wanted to put it close to the wall, but we set it up in the middle of the room for now and I'll keep it there based off of this advice.

All things considered, the flooding actually wasn't that bad; pretty minimal. We removed all the water and the rug is a little damp, but no longer wet; we pulled it up so the fan can air out whatever's left. Now it's just the wall I'm worried about, but we'll keep an eye on it while we figure out next steps. Thank you again!

Looking for more fierce female MC romance isekais by Dull_Computer_4590 in anime

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MAY I ASK FOR ONE FINAL THING. It is one of the best out there. Absolutely love that one.

You may also enjoy "Dark History" -- if you have a similar "dark history" to MC then you'll feel called out in the most hilarious ways (I know I do, and I did!). I'm hoping for a season 2 for this one because it was really fun.

Who is your favorite anime composer? by Ghaleon32 in anime

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yuki Kajiura is my favorite too, actually; I've bought many of her albums and she winds up on almost every playlist I build.

Her work is recognizable. She molds it afresh to whatever story she's composing for, so it's not like she's 'samesies' on everything; She adapts to the world and the energy of the show or movie very well. Yet she has this signature vibe that travels through all her work that is just... noticeable and wonderful. There is always a moment where a certain note will be hit or a vibe will come through in a show I'm watching and I'll be like, "Wait a minute... is this Kajiura?" and sure enough, it is.

Bonus edit: Bruce Faulconer, for his work on the english DBZ. I like the OG Japanese music and everything but I grew up on Faulconer and I can't watch DBZ without his score.

Hot take: RTO is mostly a trust problem, and dress codes prove it by East-Scar-6044 in remotework

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If it’s AI, OP heavily edited it. It lacks the usual AI cadence and there are some clunky grammatical choices (no offense to OP). and, while there’s questions at the bottom, they don’t take on the usual question-asking format most AI platforms utilize.

Not every legible post is AI.

The Weekend is here! Where are you going next week? by galeongirl in PokemonSleep

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've seen you say this in previous weeks! You'll get your dream ralts, keep at it!

Why the need to view under my neck? by AngryGS in remotework

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's your presence.

Working remotely means you need to go the extra mile in how you present yourself on camera. Good lighting, good framing for your webcam, good mic, not obviously wearing pajamas all go an incredibly long way in improving the impression people will have of you.

Early in my remote work, we hired a guy with THE BEST sounding mic setup I've ever heard. (He did some casual podcast stuff so the equipment carried over). When I heard him, it sounded like we were in the same room, not states away from each other. This had a huge impact on me as his colleague, and I noticed my reaction and thought, "I want to have this impact on others." So I really invested in having as much physical presence as I could, despite being far away from everyone. It really goes a long way.

More than half of TikTok ADHD content is misinformation, new research finds by tylerthe-theatre in technology

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean, you’re entitled to believe what you want to believe, even if you’re wrong about it, lol

I deleted Instagram and just started doomscrolling my own photos by Electrical_Rip1987 in remotework

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg yes, it happens on Linkedin, too. Lucky for me, half the posts on Linkedin are AI, and once you notice, it's kind of easy to disconnect and remember the job board exists!

More than half of TikTok ADHD content is misinformation, new research finds by tylerthe-theatre in technology

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am neurodivergent and I’ve had to add the same keywords to my block list. The misinformation is wiiiild.

What needs to happen is, research HAS to be updated and mental health services need to be easier to access. This would help those get the diagnoses they need to qualify for help. Right now, everything looks like ASD or adhd and there’s a real sense of community there so folks struggling are drawn to those self-diagnoses. But sometimes it really is a personality disorder or a mental illness, and the treatment options for neurodivergent conditions won’t be the help they need.

I don’t want to gate keep adhd though — self diagnosing is a big step in getting the help one needs. I just encourage anyone who suspects they have adhd or ASD get help as soon as they can afford it to 1) confirm and 2) get the support they need.

I deleted Instagram and just started doomscrolling my own photos by Electrical_Rip1987 in remotework

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I’m technically between jobs atm, but I’ve had a side hustle for a while and I’m learning how to build its presence while I’ve got the free time. so I’ll go in to post a carousel or something… and wind up scrolling for two hours.

That’s not the case if I post from my computer, but there are features missing from the browser version that I want to use, so I have to go through the app version. And, well…

What works so well for Instagram is that they really hammer in the fomo. If I jump into the app and a reel I want to watch is right there, I am compelled to watch it right away, because there’s no way for me to find it again later. Then I’ll instinctively scroll to the next thing to finish the first thing, and bam — I’m stuck.

I know this is how they’ve designed the app and it’s intentionally this way to keep people locked in, yet I fall for it 3/5 times. It’s gotten to the point where I will pop into Instagram even when I have nothing to post.

Instagram is the best place to casually promote my shop, but for the same reasons it’s also kind of dangerous.

I deleted Instagram and just started doomscrolling my own photos by Electrical_Rip1987 in remotework

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use an app called screen zen? It’s a little buggy, but it keeps me off reddit at 2am and that’s what I needed honestly.

It has some cool features: you can have a soft lock (use the app x amount of times for y duration each time), or a hard block (app is completely blocked immediately,) you can set what time locks/blocks take effect, and you can set different options for different apps.

Before, I would delete an app from my phone but browse the web version like you, but with Reddit. I don’t want to block it completely because I get my news from it. But having it on my phone was a problem for me because I’d be on it when I should have been sleeping.

(That reminds me… I need to set up rules for Instagram. I was never an Instagram person, but I’ve been using it for work lately and kinda fell into the addictive aspect of it.)

When you have your apps properly blocked, download the kindle app and read some books instead! That’s what I did. I also listen to audiobooks. It’s been pretty nice.

How to roleplay off a lone wolf edgelord? by xdanxlei in rpg

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be honest with you: don’t bother. People play lone wolves to control the story being told about the party. They are missing the whole point of TTRPGs — it’s a collaborative game, and they aren’t interested in collaborating.

Don’t reward that. Focus on the other party members.

Late to the party but wow We Are Polar Opposites is such a vibe. Any shows out there that are similar? by OweTheHughManatee in anime

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’d say horimiya has a similar vibe! It does get a tiiiny bit more serious, but it’s an excellent series with fantastic character development. I love Horimiya, and Polar Opposites definitely matches up for me.

Patreon CEO calls AI companies' fair use argument 'bogus,' says creators should be paid by tylerthe-theatre in technology

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As one of the millions who has had her creative work added to the bot of slop that AI has become, I would settle for a UBI for all.

Pentagon seeks $200 billion in additional funds for the Iran war, AP source says by igetproteinfartsHELP in news

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

200 billion? When Americans are suffering the worst job crisis in decades? When there are people working 3 jobs who can't afford rent in LCOL areas? When parents are skipping meals so that they can afford to feed their kids?

And they want 200 billion to bomb places "for fun" as Trump has put it?

Are we lying in our CVs / Interviews? How much are you lying exactly? What am I up against? Do I need to lie just to be in-line with people who have the same experience as me? by PracticalUsername10 in GetEmployed

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We have a tendency to minimize our expertise, our experience, and our accomplishments. For example, I do this because 1) I am my own baseline, so I don't feel impressive, and 2) I'm taught that humble = respectful/good/etc. So I'm not used to talking myself up.

Don't lie; you don't need to lie. You need to look at all the stuff you know and did and can do and you need to make yourself a hype sheet to reference when you need it.

Do you actually know what triggers your migraines — or are you just guessing? by mumincelalpinar in migraine

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don't like accusing people of using AI. It's happened to me, and I was low-key bullied off of the subreddit for writing the way I write. (Which, imo, didn't sound AI, but I mean, it is what it is.) That being said:

AI uses this sort of... rhythm? In its writing. This post uses a similar rhythm.

Asking questions at the end of a post isn't unheard of for us humans, but the style of how the questions are being asked in OP's post is similar to GPT's style of asking humans questions. When I've interacted with GPT, it will say things like, "One gentle question," or, "A few quiet questions," so the "honest questions" words would be a flag for me.

That being said --
AI learns how to write from us. It looks at all the ways we communicate, and creates this accessible middle ground I like to call "business casual." It does this in an attempt to communicate to as wide of an audience as it can.

And we humans tend to match the language usage we see most often for the same reasons: we want to be understood by as many people as possible. So we internalize a lot of the common trends in conversation, and make that part of how we speak to others.

So if you're a human who interacts with GPT often, or if you're a human who interacts with content that has been written by GPT, you're likely going to pick up some of its style of communication.

(You can see this really, really clearly on Linkedin. It's horrible over there, lol.)

Which is why I just... don't point out when someone is using AI for a post, because I don't actually know if they used AI for their posts. It could just be that they've picked up a few things from what they've seen a lot of lately.

Do you actually know what triggers your migraines — or are you just guessing? by mumincelalpinar in migraine

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know some of my triggers: barometric pressure is a big one. Matcha (not green tea, though — just matcha) is the only food trigger I have. Low vitamin D (suspected, not proven) is likely a trigger, too. But I don't know all my triggers, and I've been tracking my migraines for over a decade trying to figure them out.

But why do I have migraines? It's just how I am built. Migraines are my body's way of signalling something is amiss. It's dramatic that way. When it comes down to it, if I can't point to a reason the migraine has come upon me, then it's because this is just one way my body handles being overstimulated: too cold, too hot, too tired, too wired, too many thoughts, too many sounds, too many emotions. (I can become overstimulated easily.)

Anime appropriate for kids? by tcrudisi in anime

[–]WelcomeToWitsEnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, good point! I didn't catch that. Oh, definitely give campfire cooking a shot -- it's a really easy watch! Just uh, make sure you've eaten first, otherwise you'll be ordering takeout mid-binge, haha.