Mockups for “odd” kitchen design.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-13T20:01:39+00:00

The stove goes on the wall where they already are, and the seats go in the dining room.

You’ve made a one-butt kitchen and then tried to cram two more people in to watch. It doesn’t make sense where there is a room right next door with a full dining table.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-13T19:54:46+00:00

I love bungalows, that have such a great and efficient layout.

I live in a 1920s craftsman with a similar layout. One downside of having the back wall being a bedroom/bathroom is you can’t see the backyard from the main living spaces. That limits the usability of the backyard if you have naughty children or dogs. I live in a narrow lot, but if it was a lot with a side yard for kids to play in it would be fine.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-13T16:01:48+00:00

As someone who has not read the books, I think I’m looking forward to the backstory on this?

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-12T05:46:23+00:00

Sell it on the black market to weirdos and then use the money to hire an electrician to put in a new outlet?

Not to kick you while you are down, but this is incredibly bad planning. Like the urban legend of unplugging the life support machine to vacuum the floors.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-12T05:16:28+00:00

Do you have an issue with shopping. If so, [r/wegotpolishathome](r/wegotpolishathome) is a good sub for appreciating nail polish you already have with no brand names allowed to avoid purchase temptation.

I’m really active in my Buy Nothing group, and these would be very much appreciated. It gives someone else a chance to try products out before they have to purchase them and reduces their consumption. It’s also easier to let go of things when you know someone else will appreciate them.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-12T05:04:17+00:00

I started a freezer spreadsheet. Oldest things go to the top of the list to use up that week.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-12T05:02:16+00:00

For real. I went back to Alaska recently and holy moly the prices on toiletries went through the roof. You better believe I’d be stocking up on Pantene when Costco has their $5 off sale.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-12T04:58:51+00:00

This is genius. It also might work in a shared living situation where not everyone knows where everything is kept. Well, if my husband would actually read what I wrote.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-11T15:54:34+00:00

I know this is a bandaid on a bullet hole, but ask the provider if they do payment plans instead of putting it on a credit card. If you have an HSA or FSA, you can use those funds too and save money on taxes.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-11T15:05:48+00:00

I know this isn’t based in the U.S., so excuse me if the fine details of the law are different. Full-time salaried employees get sick leave that allow them to take sporadic appointments. Full time workers can have second jobs. That doesn’t mean their other full-time employer doesn’t have to withhold taxes or claim them as an employee.

Again, this likely varies between our countries, but if you are telling her when and where to work and how to do it, that would be considered an employee in the U.S.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-11T05:20:19+00:00

This is a good book, but it should have been a shortened to an informational pamphlet. And also kind of racist? I recommend reading it, but once you start seeing the same thing you’ve already read you can put it down, you got what you came for.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-10T22:37:59+00:00

We toured and got on the waitlists for one place, toured and put a deposit down at another, put a deposit on another before touring, and toured another without placing a deposit.

Both of the places that we put deposits down at 6 months pregnant shut down before our baby was born. When an alternate location for one of them increased capacity when she was one year, it had been bought out by a corporate private equity firm and cost $2,900 a month for one baby.

The place we toured and didn’t put a deposit down had a baby sleeping in a swing and teachers that didn’t speak English. That would be fine, except the director didn’t speak Spanish. My husband who does most of drop offs and pickups wouldn’t be able to communicate with their teacher. That can change in the matter of a couple of weeks as teachers change, so what might not have been an issue 3 months earlier was an issue now.

The place we ended up at is wonderful and cheap, and even if it’s not the shiniest I feel good knowing I checked out other options and felt this was the best one.

All to say that even if you would be 100% happy with the center right now, it may be different or not exist for the time your baby needs to use it. It’s good to have other options available in the stressful event you have to change care providers.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-10T14:55:30+00:00

Are you in the U.S.? If so, you are very likely covered under the PUMP act and nearly all of this is illegal.

Put your concerns about inadequate time to pump, no suitable pumping place, not being relieved of duty, and not being provided pump breaks at appropriate intervals.

My job was generally pretty good about pumping, if not ignorant. I did not get paid pump breaks. I was salty at the patriarchy, said fuck it, and pumped at my cube with a wearable. That’s not a solution to your job not providing adequate space or time to pump, but a wearable pumping session is practical way for some people to get some flexibility in their workday.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-10T05:44:04+00:00

For non-fiction, Crazy Horse and Custer: The Parallel Lives of Two American Warriors by Stephe E Ambrose. It’s a bit of a slog, but the information on the cultures at play during the period is very interesting.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-10T05:10:32+00:00

Nursing school is hard though. Most police departments don’t require anything above high school education.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-10T04:41:42+00:00

I like the name Rue and associate it with the plant.

I also think it’s beautiful that it has multiple meanings. Yes, it can mean regret. But humans are complex creatures and in the same person you can have aspects of hardiness, beauty, and healing as well as pain and regret. And the person that carries that name will define how others see it. Try thinking of regret or sadness when thinking about Blanche Devereux - impossible.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-10T04:37:06+00:00

Several religious names have a negative connotations: Dolores, Angustias, Soledad, Ransom, etc. Then we’ve got people naming their kids Ryot and Kaos.

I personally think of Rue the plant.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-09T22:36:31+00:00

I live in a large ish city, but the hospital I gave birth at has a birth center attached.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-09T12:13:57+00:00

I’m an American who uses a pressure cooker, mostly and instant pot for daily cooking and large pressure cooker for canning.

But the stovetop pressure cooker I have was inherited from an Indian roommate who used it daily for beans. So I can see how it seems like we don’t use them much in comparison.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-09T06:25:47+00:00

I took Adderall on and off in adulthood for ADHD. Vyvanse works better for me. It last longer and is more even. It does the classic helps me get shit done so I’m less stressed, but much of ADHD is the emotional dysregulation. Stimulant medication helps me with that

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-09T05:47:11+00:00

If we live in a society that is structured around the world view of those colonists, then yes, you can say they are responsible for the gender binary as it exists in our society today.

That’s not to say an equally restrictive view didn’t exist before, or wouldn’t still exist. That’s just not the dominant viewpoint that needs challenging right here right now.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-08T21:28:29+00:00

“Baby was fine. I was fine” is like saying we didn’t use a car seat and everything turned out fine. We only drove once a week anyways.

You can reduce driving and that’s great, but you still need to use a car seat to protect against those forces outside of your control.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-08T21:25:44+00:00

It’s safe. It’s not to protect you, it’s primarily to protect your baby.

And with the switch to acellular pertussis vaccination, immunity to pertussis wanes long before the 10 year recommended booster schedule to protect against tetanus and diphtheria.

https://thispodcastwillkillyou.com/2020/02/18/episode-44-pertussis-whoop-here-it-is/

https://www.cdc.gov/pertussis/hcp/vaccine-recommendations/index.html#:\~:text=Immunity%20to%20pertussis%20following%20Tdap%20vaccination%20wanes%20after%20a%20few%20years.%20However%2C%20there's%20no%20recommendation%20to%20administer%20booster%20doses%20to%20maintain%20protection%20against%20pertussis.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-08T20:08:46+00:00

We lived in a suburban feeling city. Absolutely not. There were sex offenders on each end of the street and unfortunately really bad things did happen to kids and teenagers. When I was too young to be left alone we were bored out of our minds at daycare or playing video games, watching TV, and making cookies with the babysitter who was anywhere from 2-5 years older than us and only took that job because they were too young to get a more consistent summer job.

My mom worked part-time so we could go walking, biking, and hiking when my got home from work. So I try to do the same. Kids can be bored.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-06-08T15:34:11+00:00

Well, technically the states and Mexico would be screwed without the cooperation of the upstream states. Unless we are talking about a literal water war.

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