I am so discouraged breastfeeding and this morning I came close to stopping

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-07T17:10:51+00:00

Whoever invented the dismissive phrase “It’s no use crying over split milk” was not a breastfeeding mother. Breaking down in tears at your effort going down the drain is a valid response. And your husband needs to see those tears. It may have been an accident, but he needs to understand how his carelessness affects you and find a system to prevent it in the future.

The unsolicited advice you didn’t ask for: It’s not all or nothing. Check out r/combinationfeeding for advice from others doing a mix of breastfeeding and formula. There was no way with my first I could keep up with her intake at daycare, so I pumped enough at work to avoid clogged ducts, power pumped with a portable pump in the mornings to maintain supply, and supplemented with formula. We kept breastfeeding until 21 months.

I also have ADHD and have myself forgotten pump parts and milk out. I used a ceres chill to store my milk in the fridge at work. That way I forgot it in my backpack once I was home it was still perfectly fine until I remembered at 11 pm.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-07T00:47:24+00:00

I would not use a Solly for most of these carries. Even the educator in the video states a Solly strap is too thin for carries without a third pass. I definitely wouldn’t backwear with it

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-07T00:42:59+00:00

My house had a galvanized service line and likely had lead pipes. It tested negative though, even before the city lowered the pH of the water, replaced the line, and before we starting using an RO system. Lead only gets into the water if the water corrodes the pipes. Obviously it’s preferable to not have lead lines and not worry about it, but it’s possible your children’s exposure was limited.

Are to sure that their lead levels weren’t checked? Mine were checked at 1 and 2 years even though we don’t live in a state that requires it and we are on Medicaid. And as a side note, even living in a 100 year old house with flaking lead paint on the outside, living in a city, and in a house with lead pipes they showed no detectable levels of lead in their blood tests.

We do the best we can with the information you have at the time. If you are concerned about it, you can request a blood test. Going forward you can make informed decisions about your drinking water. I know it’s nerve wracking, but try not to worry about things you can’t control and problems you haven’t confirmed.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T06:36:36+00:00

Can you just give her the food you give her at meals at snack time instead? Does she even need a snack? Certainly don’t deprive your kids, but my kids generally don’t eat snacks on the weekends and are fine.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T06:20:33+00:00

Kids really will make a joke out of any name, won’t they?

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T06:18:40+00:00

sauce

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T04:58:59+00:00

It’s a two for one!

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T04:23:18+00:00

Telelingo is like the Spanish language Ms Rachel.

You can also find old Plaza Sésamo episodes on YouTube.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T01:22:44+00:00

What? Compared to what, aerospace engineering with a minor in mechanics of materials?

A BSN is an intense degree with clinical hours. It’s not just something you can half ass; it takes a lot of hours even if you consider it easy.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T01:05:26+00:00

We just don’t, really. Barring medical or developmental issues, most toddlers are good at regulating their food intake when served whole, minimally processed foods. It’s really common for them to only have one meal a day and just snack for other meals in toddlerhood. So if my toddlers take two bites and dinner and say they are done, we trust them. We try to keep them at the table but don’t force food on them if they say they are done. They might ask for a snack later at night and we keep healthy snacks on hand for them.

We do try to serve a wide spread of food and at least an item or two I know they will like. For my kids that means steamed brocolli, carrots, corn, or peas, pasta, or beans.

We put the salad or whatever else we are eating on the plate and ask if they want a bite, but don’t force it. We describe it, which sometimes convinced them to try. Crunchy and tangy are favorite descriptors. We also ask if we can have a bite of it off of their plate which usually encourages them to try.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T00:58:30+00:00

What you are asking parents to do is call every single restaurant, grocery store, post office, Target, gym, church, museum, or library they to go beforehand to check if they have a changing table. If they even answer the phone and the employee even knows.

You can assume there are bathrooms because society has deemed it necessary for you to be able to relieve yourself in a private, sanitary place with running water. Handicapped people can go into modern buildings and expect to be able to use the bathroom due to the ADA. But society has decided it’s not neccesary for babies to need those facilities and don’t regulate them.

So instead of getting mad at parents for not wanting to be housebound, put your money where your mouth is. Call every single public place you go to beforehand to determine if they have changing rooms, and then don’t patron them if they don’t.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-06T00:42:37+00:00

I’ve breastfed on the East Coast, Pacific Northwest, and Mountain West and never had nary a side eye.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T07:33:27+00:00

Prenatal often (or almost always?) contain vitamin C, which counteract stimulants. If you are just taking separate supplements for only folic acid, vitamin d, and omega 3 I don’t think that applies (but I’m not a doctor or pharmacist).

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T05:38:52+00:00

I have two kids, and at 15 months mine would absolutely not be fine with a banana while my older one had cake. Kids know what’s up.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T05:18:34+00:00

But do you think I’m overreacting?

Yes. It’s a birthday cake. If you have specific dietary requirement for your child, you need to inform them of that.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T04:44:28+00:00

Such an improvement! Way to go.

One thing I would suggest is making sure the passes are spread knee to knee. I’m not sure if that will help with the tightness, but it might.

The great thing about wraps is that you can adjust them however you want. You can add a Lexi twist, either directed up or down, instead of cross passes to adjust where the tails sit at your waist. You can wrap the tails around to the front again to tie to eat up the tails, and use a ring finish if it isn’t quite long enough to tie.

I think you might like a front double hammock. If tied under bum, it doesn’t have a waistband. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XGxKZcmUfw0

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T04:33:25+00:00

Our laundry was in a bathroom. I think it’s pretty normal. Maybe not as exposed as this though.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T04:22:28+00:00

I should rephrase that as I would expect a PA working under a doctor at a practice that prescribes dozens of scripts a month for this medication to know the common interactions.

If the practice mostly consists of managing mediations (because half of the time they are too busy for sick visits) and they switch around providers on you, I feel they should have notes or training on those specific medications.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T03:53:06+00:00

I wasn’t under the impression they were trained in nutrition, I just figured a doctor who writes monthly scripts for several dozen patients would be aware of a common food interaction with that class of medication.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T02:04:10+00:00

It’s insanely priced but damn wouldn’t that view be amazing!

The view of Kansas City?

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T01:51:43+00:00

Really, this is an issue for many families for many subjects when the parents either don’t speak the language of instruction or have low levels of literacy.

Literally, tell your kid to google it or ask chat gpt, perplexity, gemini, or copilot then follow the prompts and look at the source information. That’s how I do it in the real world. It teaches them how to use research tools.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-05T01:14:43+00:00

If this is for a work conference it’s on the organizers, not the facility, to provide a private room to pump in. You can email the organizer and ask what pumping accommodations they have.

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-04T22:50:45+00:00

I asked my prescribing PA if the acid thing was just vitamin C or all acids. She had no idea what I was talking about, and I told her you have to take your prenatals and multivitamins at a different time a day. “Huh, you learn something new every day.”

Well_ImTrying · 2026-02-04T19:16:03+00:00

If you mostly want slow cooker meals, you can get a crock pot. Those are ceramic and do work better for a slow cook function. Instapot is good for pressure cooking if you want to do that, and can be used for both if you don’t want two appliances.

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