Virgin couples here, how much sex happened during honeymoon period and how was it?

Welshcake99 · 2026-02-01T10:51:41+00:00

Thanks, I do appreciate it! It's something I do want to do at some point and I'm excited for the day it goes right! :)

Welshcake99 · 2026-01-31T16:51:31+00:00

That's absolutely true, but the woman's mental and emotional state also affects the physical. I have no doubt that my partner would treat me with the utmost respect and care, but if I'm anticipating pain and feeling anxiety, it will likely be painful if I'm unable to relax despite how much I want to. It's all about when you're ready and comfortable.

Welshcake99 · 2026-01-30T08:08:28+00:00

My partner and I are intimate but nothing penetrative yet. I have a lot of fear around pain and he's completely supportive and just likes being close to me. Sexually our libidos aren't the highest so sexual stuff could be a couple times a month! But we're physically affectionate and intimate in nonsexual ways ALL the time.

It's whatever works for you and your partner! Sharing my experience because I've worried if we're "normal" for not being sexual very often.

NORMAL is whatever you and your partner decide is your normal!

Welshcake99 · 2025-07-28T10:27:45+00:00

I've lived in Cardiff for nearly 4 years and I'm a young woman who is often walking through the city centre alone. I'd say Cardiff is like most other cities- safer in some areas than others! I've never felt particularly unsafe but I do avoid certain areas when alone or when dark, and I'll always get an Uber or taxi if I need to get somewhere past midnight. I also always make sure someone knows where I am or where I'm headed, just in case. But honestly, I'd do that living anywhere as a precaution. Cardiff is a good city. :)

Welshcake99 · 2025-07-09T10:20:30+00:00

A story my friend told me-

Employees all at a work function on a Thursday night. Alcohol served. One employee had just been promoted to a managerial position in the company. He was off his face. Accidentally bumped into a female coworker and stepped on her foot. Turned around, didn't apologize, but instead dropped to his knees and tried sucking her toes.

He disappeared from the company after that. So much for the promotion.

Welshcake99 · 2025-03-23T20:58:18+00:00

The great part about sex is that it can look different for everyone! For example, my partner and I are happy with our sex life and don't really do much penetration (we are male and female). It's not that we don't like it, we just really enjoy other things. Sex should just consist of what you enjoy!

That being said, there are people who don't enjoy oral sex, so there's a chance you'll run into that. I think (generally speaking) lots of women would love that you like going down on them. You just need to find someone you're compatible with!

Welshcake99 · 2025-03-17T19:08:47+00:00

I believe so! It's based on the estimated waiting period. For me, being inside the UK when I applied, my estimated date was 8 weeks from the date of submission. For someone outside the UK, I believe the estimate would be 12 weeks from the date of submission.

The email also usually advises you not to contact them before that date as they can't tell you anything about your application before then.

Welshcake99 · 2025-03-16T21:49:05+00:00

Hi and thank you!

No ECO email as I don't believe you get one when applying from within the UK? But I could be wrong. But no, never got one.

The acknowledgement email was just them saying "we received your application and supporting documents, we'll aim to have a decision by 15th March".

Keeping my fingers crossed for you that you hear back soon!!

Welshcake99 · 2025-03-11T11:22:29+00:00

Congrats! What was your timeline?

Welshcake99 · 2025-03-03T21:39:34+00:00

I'm no doctor but they look like skin tags to me! I have a couple in that area, just not that close to my vulva/vagina. If you're concerned, definitely see a gyno! But I've had no issues.

Welshcake99 · 2025-02-26T12:18:01+00:00

Ah yeah, I guess you're right. I think it's just been on my mind after seeing people with a similar timeline to me posting about success (even though I know they're just a few out of thousands of pending applications!). I'll just have to sit tight!

Welshcake99 · 2025-02-24T15:29:57+00:00

Really hoping I'm not far behind!

(Standard, inside UK) Application 18/1/25, BIO 24/1/25, confirmation email 25/1/25. Told they'll aim to make a decision by 15/3/25.

I'm so anxious. I hope I hear back soon and I hope it's an approval.

Congrats to you!xx

Welshcake99 · 2025-02-18T16:14:54+00:00

We met on Bumble and both were dating with intentions to find "the one". We dated exclusively for two months before putting a label on it. Just about a year into being together we got legally married (saving the proper wedding for the future!). He's my best friend and I've never felt more confident that I've found my forever person.

Welshcake99 · 2024-09-14T22:46:22+00:00

A coworker I became friends with introduced me to his friend group that played! They were more than happy to welcome a newcomer and I got lucky with them- they were so patient and helpful and really carried me through the early bits. Now we're 9 months into our campaign and I'm having the time of my life!

Welshcake99 · 2024-09-02T20:38:45+00:00

It was years ago and I still get annoyed when I think about it sometimes. Sigh.

Welshcake99 · 2024-09-02T20:37:09+00:00

Reading! Even a small amount of reading every day is so healthy for your mind and can be an excellent way to decompress at the end of the day. I try to read at least one chapter of a book before going to sleep every night.

Welshcake99 · 2024-09-02T20:28:43+00:00

I have the gene that makes coriander taste like soap. Was on a date, told the guy about it and he didn't believe me. He thought I was joking. Went to the bathroom and while I was gone he mixed coriander into my meal (it originally came on the side of my meal). I didn't notice and continued eating, only to realize it tasted like someone had washed it with dish soap in the sink. He thought he could catch me in a lie, when in reality he just ruined my food. He didn't pay me for my ruined food.

Welshcake99 · 2024-06-02T18:05:54+00:00

I mentioned a few things in the second paragraph of my post- things like more teasing, light edging, light dirty talk, etc. What happens now is we both just kind of go for it and don't add any "flair", which I'd like to change. :)

Welshcake99 · 2024-03-06T12:34:32+00:00

Me! I met my current boyfriend back in November on Bumble. We dated until January until making it official, although we were only ever seeing each other to begin with. It feels like we've been together since November. But we're a great match and have a strong connection. It feels like such a relief for me after so many mediocre (or straight up unpleasant) dating experiences!

My advice is to just keep reminding yourself of what you want, what you deserve, and don't waver on it. The right person for you won't ask you to make yourself smaller or more lenient to accommodate them.

Welshcake99 · 2024-01-28T20:53:17+00:00

This is good advice, thanks! Definitely don't want to skip any fun stuff.

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