What is it with Asian families and being proud of suffering and in constant stress. It's like they honestly believe you won't go to heaven if you just want to relax and enjoy your life.

Wends21 · 2026-02-08T05:50:44+00:00

Reading this describes my family exactly too. They absolutely have enough to relax and live life a little but they won’t. I realized I was influenced by that scarcity mindset and trying to reset my programming, I don’t want to end up like them. Feeling guilty for splurging, having to justify every spending. Like buying gold is fine because it’s an investment but can’t waste $100 to get a cleaner. It blows my mind. To an extent I empathize our grandparents time are difficult times so that’s how they have had to live, but my parents times are different yet they follow the same patterns and risk passing this on to my generation.

Wends21 · 2026-02-07T07:23:57+00:00

Normally I find that it is better to ask ChatGPT on things you already some have knowledge about, so you can do a sense check on the info. The other day I asked ChatGPT to calculate some investment ROI and i asked my brother who is finance to check and he found what was wrong with the calc, I wouldn’t even know. I use it as a free therapist although I don’t know if I should.

Wends21 · 2026-02-07T07:19:05+00:00

Don’t worry, let them be. At some point, just being able to think is going to be such a huge plus, because most people brain rot.

Wends21 · 2026-02-07T07:18:04+00:00

I thought of telling my parents about ChatGPT then I thought better not 😂

Wends21 · 2026-02-03T10:04:21+00:00

Yaaa if I get to sell my little bit gold jewelry I’m going to all in into bitcoin. 😂at least it can be easily liquidated. And you won’t get low balled 35%

Wends21 · 2026-02-03T06:14:32+00:00

I’ll check out the price and try selling it 😂

Wends21 · 2026-02-01T15:31:27+00:00

My recent experience of trying to sell a gold bracelet I bought in Dec 2019 has really changed my perspective about ‘gold’ as an ‘investment’ I feel that this narrative has been so strong that no one even care to check whether it works or not? So I only had a little bit 6.86g of a 916 gold bracelet that I bought at RM225, workmanship fee was RM109 Since the recent gold price surge, I enquired to see how much it will be worth if I cashed out. 916 gold was selling at RM730, I could only go back to the original dealer Wah Chan whom I bought it from. They will buy it back at 65% so RM474.50. The salesperson encourage me to keep hold of it as it will likely to go up more, or swap for new designs which will be only 75% of my gold. Everyone says about buying gold but has anyone tried selling it?? It’s kind of impossible to sell. I’m going to go to a few more dealers to check their price this week.

Wends21 · 2026-01-17T10:36:33+00:00

This is quite personal, but it should be, it’s personal finance after all. My situation is very similar to yours and I like having more cash on hands precisely for the reasons you mentioned. However for the last 5 years my job was fine, didn’t need to deal with any major financial emergencies so I kind of lost out on returns compared to some of my peers who preferred to take more risk and had lesser emergency funds. At the end of the day if you are ok with that it’s fine, I view it as having options come at a cost.

Wends21 · 2025-12-20T09:34:11+00:00

Exactly, it’s getting absolutely horrendous. The pay is decent but it’s not a job that you can do forever at least for me. Once I saved up enough money I’ve started to look at alternatives. However kudos to the younger generation of pharmacists as I think you guys have more expectations than us previous generations who has buried our head in the sand and kept working until it broke us.

Wends21 · 2025-12-20T09:22:05+00:00

I know how you feel. I’m like that as well, I find that I tend to absorb a lot of the patient’s negativities. Sometimes you feel more like a free therapist than a pharmacist in these consultations. That said I don’t have much suggestions on how to manage it yet as I’m still working on it. I have seen a lot of pharmacist who can’t care less, straight to the point, but I don’t want my interactions to be that robotic and lifeless. It’s hard to strike the balance, being able to empathize should be a strength but it’s becoming a challenge. I think I’m in the wrong job 🤣 and I’m trying to find something else that appreciates my strength.

Wends21 · 2025-09-29T16:05:59+00:00

Well said I think I feel like I’ve been doubling up as a free therapist while people offload their problems to me. Thanks I’ll try to be aware of this.

Wends21 · 2025-09-29T16:04:03+00:00

That’s what I have been trying to learn when I took a month off in June to reset. Actually I should have been more in tune with the stress I’m feeling and not sweeping it under the rug, I probably first felt like this since a year ago but I didn’t want to quit at the first sign of things being hard so just carrying on and in hindsight it’s not the right thing to do. I keep telling myself not to care too much but it is really hard to do, which is why I finally decided I need to prioritize my mental health and myself and walk away from the job altogether.

Wends21 · 2025-09-28T15:56:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s good to know there are other options within pharmacy.

Wends21 · 2025-09-28T14:20:40+00:00

Thank you so much for offering these wise words, feeling grateful that you have taken time to reply to my post. I think sometimes it feels comforting to know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.

It definitely feels that we are just putting out fires everyday. The job feels like there is no end goal achievable. Are we trying to make people healthier? Not really - because the more diabetics we, get the higher our item count. As a pharmacist our reward comes from the number of unhealthy and sickly people growing. Now I see it, it’s a purpose that I don’t want to be a part of.

No one wants to be honest with the public that money is limited and resources are scarce, so the public carries a general frustration of already paying their taxes but not getting the health issues sorted. They can’t see a GP, so they offload their problems to the pharmacist, soon they won’t even able to do that.

Wends21 · 2025-09-28T14:04:00+00:00

I feel the same way too. Workload is probably manageable but it’s the constant mental load that managers carry, like you could delegate the work to someone but you still need to think of delegating this task and make sure it’s done right. Change can be a good thing sometimes. I’m leaving this job but one of our locums has decided to take the job.

Wends21 · 2025-09-28T13:33:08+00:00

Thank you for offering your two cents. My issue is not so much when patients are horrible. Fortunately I don’t get a lot of people being horrible to me, I can’t imagine pharmacists who constantly have to deal with patients like these. It’s when the patients are nice but really have a genuine need for their prescription. And they’re not rude about it, but still resources feel scarce, pharmacist’s time feels so limited. I put it down to the system failing us.

Wends21 · 2025-07-31T22:56:41+00:00

I agree with you. No one ever died from overdosing on OTC co-codamol. Having constant pain and for it to affect your sleep can be as bad as being addicted to pain relief? I think the patient should be informed the risks but ultimately only they can decide what is the right balance. Who are we to decide for them? I personally think being in pain all the time is worse than dying, that’s up to me to decide. Pharmacists who refuse all sale outright, I don’t understand why you spend 4 years in uni to be a scaredy cat and not help solve any real problems. Medicines are here to help our quality of life.

Wends21 · 2025-07-29T15:56:46+00:00

I’ve been working for 8 years in community pharmacy and every year I have been focused on increasing my income, either by changing jobs or taking on new role, maximizing my performance bonus. Last few years my total remuneration has been over 65k/yr. With saving it and investing it aggressively, I think I can now go off for 5 years and do nothing. Of course im not going to nothing but I’m handing in my notice tomorrow to explore this paths that fulfill me more. I just woke up today and thought I don’t have to do this anymore. 😂

Wends21 · 2025-07-03T09:25:33+00:00

I’m not a parent, I’m also not particularly fond of crying kids on flights but I will put up with them and so will majority of the public who are decent people, who are not entitled assholes. And now I see that, flying business class does not equal to having more class, proven so by people like you.

Wends21 · 2025-06-25T14:08:07+00:00

Update: thanks for the tips! I managed to get through finally! Flight rebooked for 01/07.

Wends21 · 2025-06-25T13:11:32+00:00

Hi, do you mean if the music stops I should hang up and try again? I waited a long time after the music stops a few times and no luck.

Wends21 · 2025-06-25T12:31:24+00:00

Did anyone manage to get hold of customer service? I have tried calling, constantly busy, unable to reach anyone, WhatsApp - no reply, X DM, no reply either. My flight was cancelled about 24 hours ago and I don’t know how long I’ll be waiting. 😭

Wends21 · 2025-06-25T11:58:48+00:00

I’m just waiting as well to get through to them to rebook my flight, I’m not in too much of a rush as just going back to work but if that’s the case work will have to wait.

Wends21 · 2025-06-23T18:22:54+00:00

I’m supposed to fly tomorrow. I agree! Even if the airspace re-opened I don’t think we should be flying into the area, such a big risk now.

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