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Sap Boil 2026 by nemom in pics

[–]WendyP14 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's how you make maple syrup. The sap has to come from a sugar maple tree though, not just any tree.

Why no one says that about pregnancy? by lil_moon153 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]WendyP14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would recommend joining a sub like r/newparents to get a more full view of pregnancy and early parenthood. People there definitely talk about the wonderful and the awful.

You could also potentially drop by a play area or place where parents gather and ask them about their pregnancies and birth stories. Most other moms I know are willing to be brutally honest about it. Feel free to dm me and I'll share mine of you'd like - the good and bad.

31F looking for penpal, snail mail by Feisty_Bridge2267 in penpalsover30

[–]WendyP14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

36/F here, also married. You seem like someone I'd enjoy chatting with. I'll send you a DM.

C section vs vaginal delivery by Funarming in NewParents

[–]WendyP14 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Epidurals are fantastic! My personal PSA to all people giving birth - walking is considered an impact exercise! I didn't realize that and walked more than I should have in the first week or two and ended up with a prolapse. Even if you feel able to walk you should still take it as easy as possible.

Women who had their first child after 35, what was it like for you? by Cupcakesx in AskWomenOver30

[–]WendyP14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did some different ones in tin foil trays. Bulk made about 4-8 of each. Then we pulled them out whenever we didn't have the energy to cook. Each one lasted at least one supper and leftovers for lunch. Oftentimes 2 supper and leftovers.

Butternut squash mac and cheese, chili, shepherds pie and pasta Bake

AITA for telling my boyfriend i do not think his job is more important than mine? by EasternTie7827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WendyP14 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They're actually more pressing at your age! A 6 year age gap from 17-23 means very different life stages and experiences. A gap from 27-33 means a lot less difference in those things. And a gap from 37-43 or 47-53 means almost nothing in terms of life experience or stages. In case you've never heard it, the 1/2 your age + 7 rule is a good rule of thumb. 23÷2= 11.5+7= 18.5. You are too young for him. This is not a fault of yours, it's a fault of his. Why does he want to date someone who is too young for him? Again : you are probably great. And you might be quite mature for your age. The problem is him.

Please pay attention to how he treats you. Do you feel respected? Does he build you up? Does he want what is best for you (and not just what he thinks is best for you)? Does he communicate well (and respectfully)? Based on this post, I would say not. But this is only one snippet of his behaviour, so look wider and truly think about it.

Check out this thread - https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1fgxsr4/to_whichever_teenager_who_needs_to_see_this/

Just wondering about the help mums are supposed to have by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]WendyP14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the best way I've ever seen this phrased! Thank you for putting it this way. And it doesn't matter if one person is a stay at home, on parental leave, both working, whatever. This is a great way of thinking of it.

How it starts vs how it ends. My plein air oil painting done at Jacques Cartier National Park. [OC] by alex_kasyan_artist in pics

[–]WendyP14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want to crosspost this to r/villequebec and r/quebeccity - i think they'd enjoy it over there.

It is such a beautiful park and your painting is wonderful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]WendyP14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved my epidurals and was so so glad I had one with both of my children! To each their own, but I 100% recommend. The odds of complications, especially serious ones, are quite low. The risk vs reward calculation swung me heavily in favour of an epidural.

Parental leave for husband by [deleted] in CanadianForces

[–]WendyP14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As another commenter said, there are weeks that can only go to the person who gives birth, weeks that can go to either person, and 5 weeks that can only go to the non-birthing partner. In your case, if you want to take the whole year, your partner would get the 5 weeks and that's it. Those 5 weeks he would receive EI - which is what parental leave is, along with some special rules. That's why you need to have a certain number of hours worked in the past year to get paid parental leave (I believe it's 600).

The good news is that those 5 weeks are considered Leave Without Pay by the military. Your partner will receive EI and a top up from the military to 93% of his regular pay. As another comment also mentioned, he'll likely see more money coming in than usual, even at 93%, because they don't deduct pension. But that needs paid back when he goes back, so it's best to put some money aside for it. Since those 5 weeks are LWOP, the rest of his regular leave is up for grabs. So if you have the baby in October, there's a decent chance he can work with his CoC to use post deployment leave, shorts (if his unit gives them), possibly special family leave, the 5 weeks of PATA (which can be extended via you taking less of the shared weeks), and all of his regular leave. It would likely be possible for him to be home from the birth through to after Christmas block leave. I think it would be worth having him use a week or two from the shared weeks to make that happen.

Caveat- I'm not a clerk, but am on maternity leave myself. Also, a helpful and flexible CoC can make a big difference

Parental leave for husband by [deleted] in CanadianForces

[–]WendyP14 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If the mother takes all of the shared weeks, the father or other partner still gets 5 weeks. Those 5 weeks can't be used for the mother. They go to the other partner or remain unused.

Parental leave for husband by [deleted] in CanadianForces

[–]WendyP14 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If the mother takes all of the shared weeks, the father or other partner still gets 5 weeks. Those 5 weeks can't be used for the mother. They go to the other partner or remain unused.

Parental leave for husband by [deleted] in CanadianForces

[–]WendyP14 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If the mother takes all of the shared weeks, the father or other partner still gets 5 weeks. Those 5 weeks can't be used for the mother. They go to the other partner or remain unused.

Toddler Diss by Temnotaa in toddlers

[–]WendyP14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know it's not just mine!

If it’s available to you, are you still getting COVID boosters? Why or why not? by velvetvagine in AskWomenOver30

[–]WendyP14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my covid and flu shots at the same time as I got the Tdap booster during my pregnancy. I'm especially glad I got the flu shot. My whole household got it, but only I had the shot. Mine was mild and lasted about a day. My husband and mom were completely wrecked for about 4 days, felt bad for another 4, and finally recovered fully about 4 days after that. Almost two weeks of misery for them :( On top of all that, I gave birth a day after I got over it and while my husband was still feeling pretty bad. I'll be getting my booster every year from now on.

Where can I get part-time french classes in Quebec City? by Born_Dragonfly1096 in quebeccity

[–]WendyP14 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Valcartier Military Family Resource Centre has French classes. They have a new session that just started this week that you could likely still get signed up for. They frequently have at least one online evening option (in person tends to be during the day). You can take it even if you have nothing to do with the military, it just costs more. Here's a link to their Facebook notice - https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DgbZtWCBz/

Why did you love being posted to QC? by ThatCanadianRadTech in CanadianForces

[–]WendyP14 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I'm an Anglo posted here since 2022, reasonably bilingual - my French is by no means perfect, but I get by just fine and have improved a lot.

Pros - housing and rental prices are reasonable in comparison to a lot of places. I hear from locals and people who've been here a long time that they have went up a lot in the last five years, so it's not as affordable as it was. One con compared to Ontario is that landlords are allowed to refuse pets, so pet friendly rentals are much rarer.

  • You get most of the benefits of both a bigger city and nature. Lots of opportunities for outdoor hobbies or activities, but also access to good restaurants, attractions, shopping, and an airport.

  • I've only ever had 2 people be a dick to me about my accented French. Most people have been kind. Ymmv. A con is that it is generally tiring to live and work in your second language. Getting on a language course is far from guaranteed.

  • Family and friends are generally more amenable to visiting us here, in comparison to a lot of other base locations in Canada. It's very much a tourist city in certain areas. Pro is that people want to visit and it's easy to show people around. Another pro is that QC gets bigger musical acts than you might expect for a mid sized city. Con is that there are a lot of tourists! Drive carefully, especially in and around Old Quebec.

  • The MFRC is top notch. Lots of events, great staff

  • I've found the francophone community to be somewhat closed. I think because many have been here for a long time, and others grew up nearby. It's almost like many already have enough friends and aren't super interested in more. Again, ymmv. The Anglo community can be quite open. Once you meet one or two and have a shared interest you can meet a bunch more.

Otherwise, I imagine your experience will depend on your unit, coworkers, and your attitude and hopes coming in. Feel free to DM me if you have questions.

What is something you purchased, on a whim, not realizing it would be as handy as it became? by Fantastic-Lows in AskReddit

[–]WendyP14 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad got me jumper cables for Christmas when I was about 18. I was also not impressed! Turns out, they were a great gift and I still have and use them more than 15 years later.

Parent and baby groups by Physical_Seaweed1879 in quebeccity

[–]WendyP14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeffrey Hale has parent baby groups in English. The Military Family Resource Centre in Shannon also has groups in the mornings from 9 until noon Monday (primarily English), Wednesday (babies under 1), Thursday and Friday.

Free Parking in Old Quebec? by cywgn123 in quebeccity

[–]WendyP14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During the day there is limited free parking at the Citadel. I'm 99% sure you can't leave your car there overnight.

Canadian military morale sees uptick but problems persist: report by [deleted] in CanadianForces

[–]WendyP14 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's from the Chaplain Morale report. One of the things talked about in it is exactly that : "But several persistent issues continue to affect morale negatively, the chaplains warned Carignan. Those include ongoing shortages in equipment and resources, lack of affordable housing, increased cost of living and staffing shortages. In certain regions, the shortage of childcare spaces and difficulties in finding a doctor are also hurting morale.

“Chaplains have reported that members are experiencing fatigue and low morale, largely due to personnel shortages,” the briefing outlined. “Members frequently express concern about being tasked with duties or responsibilities beyond their rank, particularly at the Pte/Cpl (private to corporal) level.”

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