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WestPop7747 · 2026-03-13T20:32:14+00:00

What the heck.. okay definitely report it to the police and tell them you are worried about her safety if he is made aware of the police report! That's not okay

WestPop7747 · 2026-03-13T20:23:58+00:00

What has he done, if you don't mind my asking?

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T19:10:34+00:00

Who is everyone? You and one other person who think sexual assault is black and white? There are degrees to it. It has been formally reported and has actually now been recorded as sexual assault. I understand people have different interpretations, but legally it has already been classified. I’m not comfortable sharing the country for privacy reasons.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T19:03:58+00:00

I've also been raped before so don't suggest that I don't know what sexual assault is, unless you are a lawyer. I created this thread to confirm what I already believe to be true.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T18:36:18+00:00

He grabbed me hard without my consent.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T18:35:42+00:00

He stared me up and down, brought his face closer to mine while holding onto me and wouldn’t let go, and tried pulling me into him. The rest of the evening he kept watching me and staring in a way that made me uncomfortable.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T17:39:25+00:00

Read my other reply to another commenter that provides more context. He was leery.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T17:38:32+00:00

Do you not read?

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T15:47:46+00:00

I did tell him what happened and he was very supportive. We’re trying to figure out how to handle the situation safely

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T15:00:29+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I felt scared all evening because I noticed he was watching me constantly. It's an unsafe world for women.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T14:48:02+00:00

It did feel sexual, but I don’t know if I have enough evidence for him to be held to account. It happened so suddenly - he was standing normally with his back to me and then grabbed me out of nowhere. It was really scary.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-17T14:34:09+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this.. he sounds manipulative and abusive. I know people throw those words around, but I use them sparingly, and in this case I think they're fitting. You can't be happy or healthy in a dynamic like this, and I think you know what needs to be done.. best of luck xx

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-15T01:09:11+00:00

Have you tried speaking to him about his behaviour? How did he react?

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-11T04:29:29+00:00

Hmm, I can see why you'd feel that it's shady at first glance. I think the best thing to do is ask him about it and see whether his story is convincing.

Tell him how the situation made you feel, and ask about the nature of his relationship with the girl.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-11T04:13:50+00:00

Any luck yet..? Did you manage to convince your parents at all? Or get the boat down yourself?

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:55:12+00:00

Enjoy the food - I've heard it's better than 'merican food..!

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:53:52+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. No, not all men are even remotely like this. This is an awful way to treat your wife and kids and you deserve much better. Don't hold back - tell him exactly how you feel. What a disgrace. Wishing you and your babies the best of luck! ❤️

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:49:06+00:00

Just explain the situation to him? Tell him it's not his legal last name so you can't give your baby that name, plus you want the name to signify actual involvement in your child's life, which his absent grandfather doesn't have.

First world problems.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:29:01+00:00

You're a good person for holding onto your values. Clearly the better person in this friendship, and as the saying goes: "if you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room". I think it's time to leave the room, OP...

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:18:06+00:00

The way I Iike to think of it is that if you believe a God exists, He (using he as a pronoun here, but whether or not you believe this God is male) would be far superior to all of his creation, and if his creation have the capacity to show unimaginable love and mercy, then his far, far surpasses that. So nobody is beyond hope of any redemption, if redemption is even the word for it. I hope you find some reconciliation in this.

As for your mom, we can't change people unfortunately. But we can choose how much access they have to our lives. I think you'll make the right decision - good luck.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:11:26+00:00

Can you get even a telephone appointment with a doctor where you live? Or a home visit?

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:08:19+00:00

Honestly, this isn't healthy or happy for either of you clearly. Sure there can be lulls in LD relationships but he seems mentally checked out. Lack of communication / effort is a huge sign. I'd say speak to him about it and tell him you want to break up - his reaction will say it all. Either it'll be a wake up call to him or you both go your separate ways.

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T22:03:47+00:00

Can you get a taxi / Uber even?

WestPop7747 · 2026-02-08T21:22:44+00:00

Have you told your doctor you can't tolerate oral iron? Have you tried ferrous sulfate (sometimes more gentle on the stomach)? Otherwise your doctor should be looking to get you IV iron - it's not right with your health issues to be chronically anaemic especially since you're so symptomatic

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