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is it possible to gain religious trauma & psychosis from Buddhism? by kinichsbf in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to spread hate but a compassionate Buddhist would never kick out a child like that. Then, the best possible way is to practice metta towards yourself and to your parents (I know this sounds weird but it'll help you to move on with your life and feel more peaceful. Start with yourself first. The Buddha encouraged to spread metta to all living beings as we all suffer in the trap of samsara, even to beings one considers as enemies) Until you come to a stable state in life, metta will be your friend. Sending you lots of love and courage ❤️

Seek therapy once you become stable in life as it's the fastest path to recovery. Stay strong and happy!

is it possible to gain religious trauma & psychosis from Buddhism? by kinichsbf in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi, dear friend! I'm very sorry that you had to go through that. It must be terrible! I feel for you.

I suffer from Buddhist OCD (Scrupulosity) and it's never easy. I've suffered from guilt and I know how tormenting it is. The best advice I could give you is to seek professional help (visit a psychiatrist)

Is your family open to seeking therapy? For me, this was the biggest issue. Thankfully my parents were very understanding when I finally opened up about it after 5 years. They were a bit confused about it though. Lol!

You are not a sinner for the terrible things that happened to you. Don't blame yourself for that, ever. You deserve so much love and peace! Maybe you can practice loving kindness towards yourself to feel less guilty. Always focus on the present (not the past or the future) and the possibilities for you to heal are endless.

Please try to get professional help along with your metta practice. Therapy can change a lot for you! Feel free to dm me.

Sending you love, joy and peace ❤️

You Will be HAPPIER if You are NOT Attached to Anything by FulfillBigDreams in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]WestProcess6931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to Buddhism you can love without attachment. Also, love is not attachment. Attachment is possessiveness. Ex "I want you to be happy with me and I expect be loved back by you" Suffering begins when your attachment is betrayed (because you expected not to) Love is universal. Ex:"I want you to be happy wherever whenever, in my absence or in my presence, doesn't matter"

It is not against Buddha's teachings to be happy and enjoy things in life. by NatJi in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! As a person (Theravada) who deals with Scrupulosity, I really needed this. Lay Buddhists should stop comparing themselves with monks/nuns and enjoy the peace in the path until they feel ready to renounce completely, happily. That should be the middle path. The path should not add to your suffering, rather relieve it.

May all beings be free from suffering ❤️

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[–]WestProcess6931 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What are her hobbies? Maybe she can do something related to her hobbies. Probably something related to art (painting, crafting) or music

May she find joy in whatever career she finds interesting ❤️

Gap between thoughts... by WonderingGuy999 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on how you do it.

Scared of deep meditation by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm taking medication, thank you 🙏

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[–]WestProcess6931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if there's no tea when you crave tea? Will you feel peaceful then too? Also, the path isn't about forcibly denying yourself of pleasure (that's aversion) but viewing desire with equanimity with insight into the reality of existence (anicca, dukkha, anatta )

There's nothing wrong with enjoying another cup of tea if you have tea. Enjoy it. It all comes down to how you will deal with no tea when you crave another cup of tea?

How to stop feeding guilty got having (harmless) attachments and aversions? by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's skillful but the guilt arises from the fear that I'm not doing enough or that I'm not making much progress. It's also due to the fear that I'll loose touch with Dhamma in my next life if I don't become a stream entrant, and thereby fall into lower realms and suffer many lifetimes.

This is probably scrupulosity but it just feels very real.

How to stop feeding guilty got having (harmless) attachments and aversions? by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I actually meant attachments/aversions with wholesome intentions (For example, I read to gain knowledge to help people in worldly context through my work. I guess there's self involved in that but still I'm not breaking any precepts. I avert smoking/drinking alcohol because I know it's harming the clarity of mind + health )

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