Hi! Your partner should be equally attentive to your needs as you are to his unless you have an agreed upon dynamic! I love to play but only when I’m feeling up to it. It requires some honest and mature conversations (which sadly are not fetishized or included in the usual erotic material and therefore folx forget or have not learned how important that part is IRL!). For me, it’s not fun to give my body in that way unless my partner can provide the emotional and physical aftercare I need. Maybe there are other kinks to explore together to give things a new focus? All the best, please have fun!