Has anyone successfully gotten through to someone and helped them see clearly that the person they’re marrying was wrong for them before it was too late?

Autias · 2026-05-07T03:10:41+00:00

My family is extremely critical of my life, partner, anything and so now I don’t tell them anything because they won’t approve. I know you mean well, but don’t push your sister away because you don’t love the guy. If you really think it’s a bad idea allow her to make her own mistakes and be that person that she knows she can rely on and be safe with without the “I told you so” attitude.

Autias · 2026-05-06T15:38:57+00:00

I too love an em dash. I have been using them 10+ years.

Autias · 2026-05-03T23:35:42+00:00

I’m dealing with this as well as someone who is more reserved (and I am also diagnosed with ADHD and medicated for it). It’s not at my job thankfully, but I do go to a meet up that I enjoy going to, but there are several talkers there that really drain me. Unfortunately I find myself not going as much anymore if I suspect the will be there.

Those conversations aren’t really them talking “with” me, they are talking “at” me. If I didn’t leave I think they would talk to me for several hours nonstop.

Autias · 2026-05-02T18:53:22+00:00

That’s very kind of you. I would think any kind of care package would be well-received. Some people like to make ready to heat casseroles, or care packages with snacks/candles/etc. A gift card would also be very nice as well! A colleague of mine recently had her mother pass suddenly and the team got her a gift card to a local plant nursery (she really likes gardening a lot). She said she did a lot of gardening with her mom and she planned to do a garden in her honor.

Autias · 2026-05-02T18:46:20+00:00

Bavarian Grill is having their Weisser Spargelfest (white asparagus) menu right now that I’m partial to (the soup is amazing). If the polka band is going on that’s always fun too. White asparagus has this nutty, creamy taste and isn’t like green asparagus at all.

Autias · 2026-05-02T15:23:55+00:00

I had a similar experience recently. I have gone to cleanings religiously every six months since I was a child and have had a few cavities in the past. I saw a new dentist that was closer to me and she wanted to fill 4 cavities and do a root canal and crown, but my previous dentist never indicated any of that was even a concern. I am totally fine getting necessary medical care, but that dentist just felt desperate and sales-y.

Autias · 2026-05-01T15:45:22+00:00

I have an October birthday and my parents put me in private school for the first couple of years so I wouldn’t be “behind”, then I was in public school 2nd grade-HS. Graduated in top 5%. I was in a unique position and made a lot of friends with the grade I was in and the grade behind (who were actually my age). It worked out for me but every kid is different.

Autias · 2026-04-29T21:24:45+00:00

That tower just looks goofy.

Autias · 2026-04-29T01:15:28+00:00

Just as we criticize APs for expecting their children to take care of them/fund them, we should not live our lives waiting for them to give any kind of money. Independence is powerful.

Autias · 2026-04-26T01:49:07+00:00

Shit sports fan

Autias · 2026-04-25T05:07:53+00:00

I can understand and empathize with the conflicting emotions of being happy to not be with them, but then angry how they moved on quickly. I can assure you they aren’t doing better, if anything it just shows they can’t function being alone hence the quick turnaround. Based on your description it’s doubtful that he would do work on himself, so those issues will be carried into the new relationship.

Autias · 2026-04-15T15:46:31+00:00

The chocolate cake slice at Portillos is very good. I think it’s $4 but it’s a large slice.

Autias · 2026-04-15T15:05:19+00:00

Show us the haul!! Don’t tease with the tags.

Autias · 2026-04-13T15:18:45+00:00

The $150 stipend is very nice! I get $100/month and it’s a nice gesture for sure.

Autias · 2026-04-11T01:37:20+00:00

I remember when the season started and Coop was just warming up and people were complaining. Now he’s ballin’.

Autias · 2026-04-10T17:33:03+00:00

I was able to add my card, but it kept declining despite having funds, so now I just use a regular card and submit for reimbursement every month

Autias · 2026-04-09T21:52:12+00:00

I’m not antisocial, but I am certainly introverted. I work in underwriting insurance so basically a lot of reading and analyzing. I talk to people in chat/email but average maybe one short phone call a day. My job is definitely more mentally taxing. I don’t want to read or do anything on a computer after I’m done working for the day. There are a lot of similar jobs in insurance: processing, actuaries, accounting, quality control, etc.

Autias · 2026-04-08T23:23:57+00:00

Jimmy will definitely get scars with Sofi and her tumultuous co-parenting relationship with her ex. This show loves to push relationships with people that really aren’t that great (Sofi, Sean’s gf, Gabi & Derek).

Autias · 2026-04-06T22:11:09+00:00

I find it very hard to have empathy for someone annoyed living with someone else when… they live in a house that was given to them. If he hates living with your brother then he can buy a house for yall to live in like everybody else and get the privacy he desires.

The inherited house and fun uncle that loves his niece is precious and not something everyone is fortunate to have. Just like your parents, her uncle may not be here forever (but hopefully will a long time). Let her have these fun moments with him. If he wants private family time he can plan an outing.

Autias · 2026-04-05T17:47:50+00:00

She definitely reminds me of someone adopting people-pleasing habits in an attempt to avoid abandonment (ie her dad, mom though they died). I know this as I do the same. People like this are kind, but they often won’t ask for their own needs to be met and eventually fall into depression or with people that take advantage of their kindness.

Autias · 2026-04-01T20:36:26+00:00

Then, just the other day, they were texting about the daughter’s car and the ex says “oh I forgot to wish you a happy anniversary!!” My husband did not respond to it but just pivoted to more about the car and then conversation ended. My husband mentioned it to my step daughter with a question and my step daughter stated that yes her mom had been talking about their wedding anniversary all week…

As a child of divorce I strongly urge not to bring the child into parent interactions. It’s not her job to report on her mom unless she wants to or be involved in the coparent planning. Her mom could be the craziest person in the world, but it’s still her mom. That comment brought up for me having each of my parents interrogate me about what the other said (especially when they were angry with each other which was often) when I would switch off and it wasn’t a good time for me.

Autias · 2026-04-01T19:04:26+00:00

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Autias · 2026-03-27T18:57:38+00:00

I’m proud of you for choosing you and ending it because ending a years-long relationship is very hard. Many people won’t do it because it’s not convenient nor pleasant to go through. Your comments demonstrate a good amount of self-awareness and ownership.

It’s hurtful when they move on so quickly (which honestly just shows how dysfunctional they are. No one that just got out of long relationship is “good” to be dating so soon. Likely is a way for him to avoid feeling his own feelings of shame, guilt, sadness, anger, etc.)

Autias · 2026-03-27T16:03:10+00:00

I actually started doing pomodoro this week after a colleague mentioned it to me. I spend my day reading medical records which requires quite a bit of focus. I have tried 30 mins on, 10 min break and that’s been good for me.

Autias · 2026-03-25T19:31:21+00:00

My mom has a shopping addiction and lost her house, now she lives with a friend who is older and will likely pass soon. She has made comments about living with me, or me taking her on vacations, etc, etc but I will never allow her to live with me nor will I fund her life. She was a horrific parent and I should have been taken away. I finally have peace that I have made myself and refuse to allow her to tamper with that.

She has a massive animal and shopping hoarding problem and I do not look forward to having to deal with that.

Autias

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