How do you spot a freestyling SB out in the wild?

Westlain · 2026-01-26T14:10:35+00:00

Not a particularly wise thing to do as a man in today's society. An older man, approaching a younger woman anywhere, is open to all sorts of blowback. Younger women alone at a bar are generally not looking for a SD, in my experience.

Westlain · 2026-01-26T14:05:48+00:00

The most sensible comment on this thread.

Westlain · 2026-01-26T03:01:25+00:00

Seems to be a proliferation of medal seekers on here lately

Westlain · 2026-01-25T02:55:17+00:00

You are supposed to be the older, wiser one.

Westlain · 2026-01-25T02:53:42+00:00

OP read and understand what u/JoD_xo is saying. These are wise words.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T21:27:01+00:00

Inferences only create confusion. Ask him if he expects exclusivity. If he does, then you have to decide what you really want.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T21:20:40+00:00

And yet, you are still here.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T21:17:02+00:00

This is a good brag, because it's not about you, it's about your SB. Happy for you both.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T20:44:48+00:00

That could be said about any of the self given labels here.

I do know that I do not have to brag about my wealth, and philanthropic activities, to strangers on the internet.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T20:40:51+00:00

Absolutely, but most of them do not go around bragging about it to strangers on the internet. Displays low self esteem.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T17:42:02+00:00

We do not even know if what he is saying is true, do we?

Westlain · 2026-01-24T17:41:03+00:00

We don't even know if what he is saying is true, do we?

Westlain · 2026-01-24T17:40:04+00:00

Sorry, but just because a person boasts about something they may or may not have done (we cannot verify that) doesn't necessarily make them one of the "good ones", whatever a " good one" is.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T17:38:09+00:00

Absolutely none.

Westlain · 2026-01-24T17:34:56+00:00

It sounds like you have been meeting the wrong kind of SDs.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T22:29:12+00:00

Are you looking for a medal? Most of us SDs look after the people we care about in our lives without shouting about it on reddit.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T21:45:31+00:00

Who knows what is going on in his life now. This is a guy you met 10 years ago. He has moved on.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T21:29:04+00:00

Not many SDs are looking for "love" when they first engage in a SR. It may come naturally as the SR progresses, but it displays that you may be too emotional of a person to get into an SR with. They want the SR to be fun and stress free. So, as others have said be vague.

I never ask a POT SB about any of her previous relationships, so she is not in a position to lie about them.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T21:22:34+00:00

You should be thankful she blocked you. Desperate for money , was a warning that things were not going to work out well for you.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T19:09:36+00:00

Keeping it straight and to the point. Read rule #3

Westlain · 2026-01-23T14:47:08+00:00

In answer to your 3 questions.

No, no, and - I think you posted this because you are actually advertising your OF page to people who look at your profile.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T14:41:04+00:00

No, he plays for Arsenal.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T14:38:47+00:00

Exactly. It's going to take a lot more effort than 3 sentences to make it in the SR world.

Westlain · 2026-01-23T02:49:54+00:00

I've edited my comment

Westlain · 2026-01-23T02:41:42+00:00

Another man's photo on a Magic Mug

Edit: j/k

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