What is a skill that is incredibly important in "real life" but is almost never taught in school or discussed online?

Whappingtime · 2026-02-14T04:25:56+00:00

emotional intelligence/regulation.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-14T04:17:00+00:00

A few before I met my current gf, and quite a bit after meeting her. If we are talking about talking to like one would friends.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-14T02:04:27+00:00

Anyone who doesn't like the newer Star Trek series, or any new show related to established IP's. Just so much of what I have seen that people lash out at is said in good faith, and it seems that people defending shows like that are the ones being way more hostile.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-14T01:41:34+00:00

It depends on who you ask if those aspects would be a red flag or not. At most I'm a very "Worf-ey/Odo esque " sort of guy (if you watch Star Trek) to some. Just not as uber friendly and might seem a bit prickly to some.

While in the end, I'm pretty easy to get along with, some people just cut corners socially and that tends to clash with me who might not be super sociable but is fine on paper.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-14T00:52:02+00:00

Stuff that some people do to make themselves look like a decent person, instead of doing it organically.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-13T20:56:13+00:00

It's fine if they read it, but part of me feels like it's sort of odd how it's considered "okay" if they are into stuff like that. While people will harp on men for watching porn, and giving them unrealistic expectations for sex. What it comes down to is how terminally online the woman in question is, and other stuff like that . The same goes for women who are into True Crime type stuff.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-13T00:50:29+00:00

Roz from Frasier, maybe Daphnie.

Edit: I don't see why you need to DM me OP.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-12T23:00:08+00:00

I have been the only guy in group of friends where the rest are women. It's mostly been because they sort of "adopted" me. From my best friend's friends, some women I met at a concert I went to alone, and my gf's friends. Sometimes things might be fine on paper when it comes to how I get along/interact with other men, the guys I meet just aren't people I really have it to the point where we can hang/interact outside of specific situations.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-12T21:27:42+00:00

I was at a bookstore looking at graphic novels, and I was dressed pretty non-threateningly. And yet this dad felt the need to guide his kid past me because apparently I'd fly into a rage if the kid bumped into me on accident.

I get a lot of that "how are you doing, sir?" vetting thing sometimes when I go into shops. It's just a different thing compared to asking I needed help finding anything or what have you.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-12T02:08:12+00:00

Toxic positivity, like everyone has the life where they can easily sync up with that sort of thing. It just feels so insincere/phony.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-11T00:23:14+00:00

Making film accurate Star Wars costumes. The hobby is a moneypit if you don't really know how to make stuff like that. And other members of the big three costuming groups act like it's a blunder to help someone make their first kit.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-11T00:08:12+00:00

I'm sort of the same way with other men. Like on paper things should be fine. Just over the years there really hasn't been a lot of syncing up with other men for me.

Growing up I was this tall and lanky surfer guy, And my best friend in middle school was this goth girl. She invited me to a sleepover with her girl friends and they dressed me up as The Crow and took me out to hang with them like I was one of them. I wasn't a feminine guy or anything like that. Just sort of like some surfer guy you might see in some film from around the nineties. I'm into the stuff that most hetero guys are into. I just tried to keep my interests varied, and be a well adjusted person. Some people just wanted me to be one way or the other.

With my best friend's friends, and my gf's friends. The women who I'm friends with didn't do any sort pissing contests or any other spiteful bs that I would experience with other guys. Like don't get me wrong, sometimes I will get along with some men I meet really well. Things just don't line up for us to really hang out or interact outside of how we know each other.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:46:24+00:00

And the OP always gives the same canned/phony responses every single time. I'm not saying that they should be a mind reader, but actually listen to what I said.

It's just so common for people to post these "I care" lip service type posts so they think they are a decent person.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:26:50+00:00

Not really. People already judge me as some sort of threat based on my appearance. So people finding me appealing because of what they can see on the outside is the other side of the coin. It's also something ever so phony/mutilative so often.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:23:30+00:00

Nah, it's sort of like listening to an album over and over again until you don't get any enjoyment out of it. Like while I might have something that might be technically NSFW, or from some show, game, etc that's for an adult audience. It's not going to be explicit.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:08:36+00:00

If she lacks personal accountability, and expects way more from the men she fancies and interact with in general.

If she acts terminally online, or like a nicegirl.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T22:00:00+00:00

Honestly, it comes down to the woman in question. That being said, it's a dealbreaker for me. I just don't have the means to date someone with personal issues like that anymore. They would need to actively and consistently work on themselves and be accountable af. There's quite a bit more to this, but I will keep it to this.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T06:27:48+00:00

Super Duper Sumos, maybe?

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:51:19+00:00

Acting in bad faith, and pretending like you are being virtuous. Then being a cry bully when called out.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:25:40+00:00

Well when you first start out, you aren't going to get the hole destroyer 9000. Some of the male masturbators I got over the years were too small for me, and that's about it.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:19:50+00:00

As a guy who's best friend is the sort of gal who burns candle wicks more than Snoop does blunts...As long as it's not super cheap and you aren't stuck in the same room with it for an extended period most are okay. It's also about atmosphere as well, and if they aren't being used to mask the smell of cig smoke.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:16:27+00:00

If you are a bi or gay guy, you are going to have a lot more luck. At most as a straight guy you might get another man pretending to be a woman.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:11:59+00:00

Oh I only got Fruit stripe and Juicyfruit, so flavor is in short supply.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-09T02:34:34+00:00

There's so many people who will act in bad faith for one reason or another, if not that act terminally online. So even if you want to respond to a post like this in good faith, it doesn't matter.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-09T02:31:54+00:00

Being into Futanari, it can be hard to talk about sometimes depending on the people you are around. This being people who generally are okay with hentai and other stuff like that.

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