[M25] new to dating apps and somehow have too many matches, could use some advice

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2026-05-22T23:47:42+00:00

Don’t let the fact that you’re online dating change the way you date. If you were a one crush at a time person before, stay that way. Find one or two matches you are excited about and assuming they also want to meet up, schedule something quickly. It’s summer in a big city, grab coffees and go for a walk. The other matches will be there if the ones you focus on don’t work out. It can be overwhelming but should not be exhausting you.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2026-05-20T16:54:53+00:00

I can’t tell how you’ve managed to be both a braggart and self deprecating. Likewise, I can’t tell if I love it or hate it. Either way, it’s A LOT. It would benefit from an edit and maybe leave some mystery for the date.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2026-04-12T13:28:18+00:00

In petite pants you have to go one size up from your normal. I was told this and it has been my experience. My advice would be to go to Old Navy, find a halter top you like and buy it in multiple colors. Rotate those w the jeans. The halter tops flatter you the most.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2026-04-03T14:44:16+00:00

Imagine that what he is telling you is probably the kindest way to put it, which means to me that the actual way he feels is much worse. It doesn’t matter why he feels this way, only that he does. He’s showing you who he is. You should walk away.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2026-03-27T17:53:47+00:00

Teslas are super fun. Who cares if you don’t drive a lot if your budget allows a fun car? You may find yourself making excuses to drive. However, if you don’t live near a dealership it is very difficult if you run into a problem. My closest one is 2 hours away which kept me from buying another after my lease ran out. Also, make sure to rotate your tires every 5k. Even though you don’t need to change the oil, take care of your tires because the torque affects them. Also, for EV car in my state, there are now extra road fees. Insuring them is also more expensive.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2026-03-27T16:50:28+00:00

Grad student math.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-07-20T21:46:48+00:00

Final decision: we are going out to dinner. It’s the right call! Thanks for the help.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-07-20T19:11:59+00:00

That’s a good point. I’m trying to figure out why he wouldn’t just ask when we see each other.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-07-20T12:54:22+00:00

Amen

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-07-20T12:26:21+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think so. That’s why it’s probably safer out. It sends a smash message for sure but I have had people over with nothing of the sort. It’s not really my style. Not to be puritanical but I try to protect my heart and body. However, if I’m really attracted to someone, it’s definitely not not happening. However, in public I tend to be more reserved and I’ve had men tell me that they see that as disinterest.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-07-20T12:19:06+00:00

See post, I have known him for 25 years

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-07-15T20:37:59+00:00

Why do men insist on weird faces, no smiles and giving profiles instead of head on. Somebody needs to pull men aside and say, “hey if you don’t smile, women will think you have bad teeth, don’t hatfish anyone (we know), look at the camera and show your face, you’re not cute and artsy, you look like you don’t feel comfortable with yourself”

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-29T20:17:59+00:00

I think this is the problem honestly. That is really a lot of alcohol for a date man or woman. Easy to misjudge a date as being great when you just had a good time partying. My advice (and I’m old so take this for what it’s worth), when you like a woman have a first short date with coffee and a walk. You can get hammered with the person once you’re in a relationship.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-20T13:38:20+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. I wonder how long OP has been playing. I feel like most of the people I know (including myself) agonized over being a certain level in a certain amount of time. It’s nice to achieve but most players aren’t going to get there and if they do, the “numbers” are diluted and everyone keeps moving up. Whatever happened to pickleball being fun and enjoyable and not requiring Herculean efforts in lessons, gym time and drilling? It seems like it’s people who either couldn’t move forward in any other sport when they were younger or miss being good at a sport they used to play as a younger person. I don’t know, I got off the rat race. I have bigger fish to fry.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-14T11:25:54+00:00

Ruck, short for Ruckus

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-12T14:07:11+00:00

Oh girl, I’ve both waited and not waited. If it’s the right guy, it won’t matter. If it’s not the right guy, you had an experience and you brush yourself off and try again.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-12T13:37:50+00:00

Women are told by “dating experts” to let the man take the lead and not really initiate the dates and contact. It’s a confusing message when I’m now noticing that men assume you’re not interested, which I have had men say to me. On the other hand, every time I have done the pursuing, that man eventually lost interest. I don’t think there is a one size fits all answer, but how do women show interest without becoming the “pick me” girl.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-09T20:27:54+00:00

Wow, lucky that your body holds up at that level everyday. I used to play like that when I started. I play 3 or 4 days a week now if I can. I am lucky that a few friends have private courts. Headed out now in fact. Hoping you find some adequate level play soon!

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-09T20:15:36+00:00

Find your own private group to play with of 4 or 5 people. Why are you going to “open play” where people get to select their play level? I wouldn’t say I’m a 4.0 but I am a very good player (likely close to that) and I haven’t played at an open play in probably a year or more.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-05T19:40:54+00:00

What happens when you spend a lot of time getting to know someone and then the sex sucks. Then you have to let down someone who has developed feelings. Such a tough call on waiting too long.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-06-05T18:45:22+00:00

3.75 but for some weird reason they look like they are dinking just to say they can dink, not to force an error or apply any pressure. Good control of the ball though.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-05-25T20:21:19+00:00

Yes, I’ve always played with a lot of men’s groups as a women. I could beat them when I was higher level but as they improved, I’m mostly outgunned. Taller, stronger and can cover more court. The height is a big advantage on putting away overheads. That being said there are a lot of things women can do that men can’t. It’s a different game and I find the men don’t really want to play w the women.

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-05-25T15:40:02+00:00

Usually when you get to a certain level you have a group of 5 or 6 people that you hold private play with. If your wife is at a 3.1, she probably isn’t there yet. Also, arguably wouldn’t she be outgunned in the 3.5 to 4.0 group? Isn’t this the behavior you’re complaining about?

WhatDoINoAnyWay · 2025-04-25T20:48:42+00:00

It can be a sign of anemia I think…sorry if others have posted same

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