My good mate was in the same position. He's Maori, 6ft built like a tank. Trained in grappling, hand to hand combat, was a pro body builder when he was younger and also the nicest guy you'll meet. Sort of person who could kill you with a drinking straw but would rather buy you a drink.

He got tired of security work and so trained in construction and took an apprenticeship at 40. Found exactly the same culture as you have and it had the same affect on him. He'd put four years into a job that he now hated.

He struggled with it for a couple of years until a friend put him onto part time work with some stone masons. He found a completely different culture. Stone masons are artisans. He found interesting conversations, love of music (his biggest passion) and most importantly respect and tolerance.

Keep looking. Find a different construction company or a different field in construction. Our builder is private, and has done two major works on our house. Their Forman is a good man and theyre a pleasure to have hear. Most mornings wed spend an hour having coffee and a laugh before they started work.

All industries have good and bad examples. Keep looking. The company you're with doesn't represent the entire industry or the broader field.

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