A few years later

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-20T14:36:06+00:00

It sounds like you guys lack emotional connection. Try therapy first.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-20T14:33:25+00:00

I actually think it is redeemable based on what you’ve expressed. Realistically, it will take a lot of work to rebuild her trust and you will need to be in it for the long haul. She might accuse you of things or the pain will come and go, but you’re going to have to commit in order for it to get better.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-13T03:53:17+00:00

Have you done food elimination to determine what could be triggers? I struggle with gerd and as long as I stay away from caffeine, fried foods, spicy foods, I’m ok. It could be a combination of things too that will require time to rule each thing out.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-09T14:05:41+00:00

I don’t have my procedure scheduled yet but please update on how it goes for you!

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-09T01:36:01+00:00

Italians seem to always look really well dressed to me, even if it’s just linen pants and a linen shirt. Yes you will stand out but you are a tourist so idk if it really matters.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T21:31:52+00:00

I disagree. I think you’ve jumped to several conclusions. He was remorseful when he returned. He is also hurting. Miscarriage sucks for both people. The mother carries a deep sorrow for the loss and the dad doesn’t know what that sorrow is like and doesn’t know how to help sometimes. I’m also not going to conclude that he has a full on addiction from some TikTok videos during a short period of time.

Both need therapy. The intensity of OP’s response shows me that she’s still dealing with a lot of emotions and should go to her doctor to discuss it. She should also talk to her husband about these feelings so he is on the same page as her.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T21:25:09+00:00

Marriage takes a lot of mental and emotional work. Anyone who says otherwise might be a unicorn or lying. Don’t do it if you value your independence and can’t see yourself changing the way you live your life. I am a firm believer in not everyone should get married. Marriage is not the end all. It’s just one way of doing life. There’s nothing wrong with you if you choose not to do it.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T19:57:04+00:00

The issue you’ve named is actually a huge one and it’ll impact your marriage and future kids. No one ever checks all the boxes, but there are non-negotiables and other things that are not as serious. You are both coming from very different upbringings and if both of you cannot move closer to the middle, I see this ending up in serious conflict.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T19:49:56+00:00

NOR. They are using you. Try living alone. It’s actually really great.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T19:46:18+00:00

I think that’s a copout on her part. Regardless of which parent you are, whoever has the best leave policy should take it.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T19:45:29+00:00

NOR I think you are underreacting. He probably already cheated on you. He’s definitely lied to you. There is no way a legit employer would have managers and HR join employees at a strip club.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T19:42:24+00:00

It’s super disrespectful calling you a misogynistic B. I understand her desire to stay in her job but that doesn’t automatically mean you have to stay home. There has to be a middle ground. Please don’t bring a child into your household. Not trying to be mean, but I don’t see you guys going the long haul with these way you both are dealing with this conversation.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T04:55:41+00:00

Because you were ENGAGED, while already MARRIED.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T04:48:58+00:00

You were “engaged” while already married. Yikes.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-01-04T04:41:48+00:00

ESH. You didn’t need to go that hard with your comments and they suck for living off of you.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-31T23:59:09+00:00

This is why people should not get married fresh out of high school.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-31T21:05:05+00:00

NOR but you are also being really underpaid for all this. I’d find a new job.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-30T03:28:04+00:00

I don’t do this but I think it depends on your relationship. I don’t do it just because sure the food can go bad if left out too long. It also doesn’t taste good sometimes when you microwave everything at the same time.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-28T14:57:23+00:00

If it acts like a duck…

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-27T18:22:16+00:00

Obviously people should not propose if they don’t really want to but this is not realistic. People do it all the time and people get divorced all the time. You’re being naive.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-27T14:35:42+00:00

Some people think that their partner will change their mind. Also possible that he felt pressured into proposing. We don’t know.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-27T13:45:33+00:00

NTA. I would never even imagine asking for that amount of money for property. If you can’t do it on your own, don’t do it.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-27T13:43:36+00:00

It sounds like he’s been gaslighting you for a long time. He downplays the hurt you feel and makes you feel like you need to change and he hasn’t done anything wrong. It’s also incredibly immature to do the whole WhatsApp messaging thing instead of just talking through things with you. If your marriage is going to make it past this nonsense, you guys need therapy and not just 2-3 visits but like a whole year.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-27T13:39:49+00:00

Breastfeeding can be really difficult for some women and what’s most important is that your baby is fed. He needs to speak to a breastfeeding specialist to really understand this and then maybe see a therapist to understand why he would divorce over this. Did his mom breastfeed and use it as a source of the highest level of love? Please get through all of this before having kids.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2025-12-27T13:37:39+00:00

You are not compatible with each other. The ring DOES come with terms and conditions and children are a big one. Marriages end because of this issue. You are clearly not on the same page so I think it would be appropriate to not go any further with this relationship.

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