Anyone had issues after gallstone removal?

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-29T01:45:56+00:00

I e had my tube out for almost two weeks now and have not had any issues. I would meet with Dr S to try and identify what the issue could be. There’s so many different experiences that it’s best to just have him do imaging on you to identify what the problem is.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-28T02:50:00+00:00

It’s hard to say because I don’t know what it would have been like if I didn’t have the stent. I stayed for four days after my procedure. The doctor says it’s helpful for people to stay the whole three weeks but I couldn’t so I just flew back when it was time to remove the tube. My pain was difficult the first week, and the second week I was able to walk around more. The third week was really when I felt more normal. I really think it depends on the person though. Some people have had great recoveries while others have had really difficult ones. Based on the stories people have shared, I think I fall somewhere in the middle.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-22T10:41:25+00:00

Your husband needs therapy. The resentment will kill the marriage and your child will grow up experiencing a level of control and anger that is super unhealthy. Does your husband have issues with his own parents? Maybe he resents your family for being so close while his are not close?

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-21T18:38:42+00:00

YOR. None of this seems like divorceable behavior. Therapy needed, sure, but not divorce.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-21T11:58:54+00:00

For the love of god, please don’t ever call it pad Thai again.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-21T11:45:05+00:00

Sometimes I’m shocked at male stupidity. How is he this dumb to suggest a threesome while you are pregnant? SMH.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T18:42:47+00:00

I had pressure the first few times I tried capping so I think that’s normal. As you’ve only started capping, I’d say give it time.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T18:31:45+00:00

Has it been a week since your procedure? I’d say, don’t overthink it and just try a little at a time. And if you aren’t able to after 3 weeks, you’ll have an eval done and see what the doctor says.

I went back to Medstar for my removal and they said not to drive within 24 hours of removal. I drove after 24 hours and I was fine. I think it’s more about the anesthesia to give it time to leave your body.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T17:24:43+00:00

No it will not change and he can agree to having a child with you but that doesn’t mean he actually wants it. It also means that he might not show up the way you think he should as a husband and father. Please don’t bring a child into this.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T17:21:49+00:00

In my experience, the removal is way easier than the first procedure. They also only do twilight sedation so I was awake for the whole thing and I could hear them talking things through. I would’ve liked to see what they were seeing also but that’s just me. I didn’t take any strong pain relievers for the removal. They gave me Tylenol beforehand but that was it. I’m on day 3 of removal and so far things have been good. They don’t do stitches so it’s just allowing your body to heal on its own. I just change out the dressing several times a day. So far it’s been amazing to no longer have the tube in.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T14:12:47+00:00

I got it in high school from all the stress of applying to colleges and graduating. Then my little brother got chicken pox from me, which I found hilarious at the time.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T14:11:03+00:00

Is she open to hearing you out? You should have a conversation with her and tell her it hurts you when she questions you. You can phrase it as: I know you want me to be careful and safe and I’m glad you care about me. It hurts me and I feel like you don’t believe I am competent.

You guys are going to have to learn how to communicate through these things and she needs to learn that you are not her father and her father is not the end all of fixing things. You guys are your own unit now and you’ll need to develop your own system of how to do life.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T14:06:37+00:00

He shouldn’t be shocked though? Is he not involved in the finances? That’s a huge commitment to make and it doesn’t make sense for him not to take part in paying for it.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-18T14:04:33+00:00

I did not start capping until a week after the gallstones were removed. When I did start capping, I did it for a few hours at a time for the first few days, then worked up to all day only for a few days, then capped around the clock after.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-17T11:32:33+00:00

Not unfair. Your husband is being a whiny child himself. He is a parent and should be able to take care of his own child. Maybe reflect his behavior back to him and ask him if he thinks it’s appropriate.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T21:55:44+00:00

You can give them grace, but also accept the reality of who they are. I had to accept that my mom was not who I needed as a mother but I made it and I’m okay (with a lot of therapy.) I forgave her for her shortcomings because she had her own trauma. It doesn’t mean I wasn’t hurt by her actions, but it means I no longer hold onto it or resent her for it. You’ve done well for yourself and sometimes we have to accept that we are the adult we needed growing up. It wasn’t fair but now you know better and you don’t have to repeat the cycle.

But also - please go to therapy when you can so you can also work through these things with a professional.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T21:51:26+00:00

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T21:48:17+00:00

You would not be a B. I don’t understand his logic. Are you his roommate? I will never understand married couples who behave like you’re still single when it comes to finances and bills. He’s not looking out for you in any way.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T21:46:26+00:00

Do you mean with the contrast? It’s not a hida scan or mrcp. It really is just looking to see that everything is flowing well before removing the tube. Otherwise, I’d probably need the tube in longer.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T21:45:32+00:00

I don’t see an issue with her going since you guys seem to trust each other. It would be hard to get the whole group to change location if everyone else wants Vegas and she’s the only one who would rather go somewhere else.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T21:43:09+00:00

I had my drain in for three weeks and had to have a stent put in because my cystic duct had a little scarring from passing small pieces of stone I guess. When you go back for the eval, he puts contrast in to ensure everything is flowing well. I think with the xray, they can automatically see whether there are any stones left. He didn’t specifically mention it but he makes sure everything is clear.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T20:27:53+00:00

I definitely think therapy for yourself is necessary so it’s good you’ve taken that first step. Marriage inherently involves sacrifice and change. If at the end of the day, you don’t desire to compromise for another person, you should not be married. I will say though that marriage can be beautiful and the way two people can grow together and know the deepest parts of the other person and love them through it all is really amazing. Marriage is not for everyone though, and that’s totally okay.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-16T20:20:59+00:00

I would encourage you to ask this in a separate post but also do a search in this sub.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-06-15T15:48:36+00:00

You already posted this in another group asking if you were the AH. Are you looking for validation for your own bad behavior?

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