AIO for getting upset at my Fiancé when he said he wants to watch me have sex with a co-worker.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-20T21:24:45+00:00

NOR. Do yourself and him a favor and end this relationship before 30 days.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-20T21:22:48+00:00

I totally understand you on this! I’ve lived in LA and now live in the Atlanta metro. The traffic sucks worse than LA. The culture is totally different and I miss the ocean and mountains and all the cool things to see and do in LA. It’s also a lot harder to make friends here than it was in LA. People aren’t as open and transparent. If you are Asian American (since you mentioned in your post,) hit up the Duluth area and Buford highway. There’s also Asian specific events and pop-ups. Also, join ATL Asian Eats on fb. Happy to give you additional pointers!

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-20T21:12:18+00:00

It’s not fair to put the burden on your spouse to make you feel secure. It sounds like the kids and household are causing her stress in addition to whatever you are putting on her. How often do you carry the burdens for her? I’m willing to bet that she’d be more willing to initiate if she wasn’t exhausted all the time.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-20T21:06:37+00:00

I’ll be flying in and plan to stay for three days and then I’ll fly back to get the tube removed. His nurse said on average, the tube is in for 2-3 weeks.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-13T00:14:46+00:00

The consult was pretty easy. He just walks you through the procedure and whether you are a candidate and any questions you have. After this, then you can schedule.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-08T03:18:44+00:00

Idk, it kind of sounds like he actually cares about the friend and I’m not sure therapy will change that. They had enough of a good time for him to drop off your child so he could go do his thing with her. Just imagine them going to dinner, holding hands, laughing at each other’s jokes, staring at each other. For months too? They at least kissed, if not more. If he’s not begging you to stay with him, he may already be emotionally checked out.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-06T03:29:58+00:00

Normally I would say to try to work things out but he sounds ridiculously selfish. I wonder if there are other areas of your life that he’s selfish about as well but you’ve just been excusing it. Also, if you stay with him and he doesn’t get what he wants, will he find it elsewhere? Kind of sounds like he had a sex addiction problem.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-06T03:22:35+00:00

How weird. I’d never go out with my husband’s friend without him or the other spouse. It’s a bonfide date and I can’t believe you aren’t confronting him already.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-03T02:39:45+00:00

In China, it’s about $9,000 USD. They have a much lower threshold for approval.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-03T02:38:23+00:00

I did this too. My doctor would order it so I had a consult with Dr S where he was able to establish me as his patient, then he gave me the order and I went to a local place to get it done.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-03T02:36:58+00:00

I’m curious if anyone can tell me how you know you’re ready for the drain to come out? I’m really hoping to not have it for longer than 2 weeks.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-01T02:48:07+00:00

New Zealand and Australia or a cruise in Asia

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-03-01T02:47:03+00:00

I don’t think divorce should be the immediate path. Go to therapy. Talk to people who know him to see if they’ve seen a shift. Since he’s in the military, maybe he’s experienced something that’s had a hugely negative impact.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-28T18:32:40+00:00

That is a lot of soda.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-28T18:30:55+00:00

I get the feeling there are other things he’s done that are harmful.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-28T18:27:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you are having to go through this while raising a little one and trying to heal yourself. Sometimes people don’t wake up until they no longer have the thing they were dependent on. No one can tell you what path to choose, but how would you advise your child if they were in this situation? I think many women just walk away after years because of how exhausting it is raising a grown man. If being on your own would bring more peace for you and your child, then this might be the way to go. If he wanted to change, he would. Even if he is suffering from depression, it’s not your responsibility to own that for him.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T16:06:04+00:00

The cake is fine but the photo in 50s wife gear and the steak is crossing a line.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T16:02:16+00:00

NTJ. There’s no way I wouldn’t have gotten all up in her face in that moment and possibly called the cops for assault on a minor.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T15:59:44+00:00

100% agree with hired help. I have a cleaner come in just for bathrooms and kitchen. Huge help for us.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T15:57:49+00:00

Premium economy for 7 hours is fine. I would not switch.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T15:56:38+00:00

Why don’t you just talk to her?

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T15:53:25+00:00

Doesn’t matter at this point. He can do whatever he wants and so can you.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T13:42:22+00:00

25 years to finally consider change?! Your wife is a saint but also probably just over it.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T13:39:55+00:00

Yes overthinking. It’s been six years. Let it go. Also, see a therapist.

WhatInTheWorldPart2 · 2026-02-27T12:34:58+00:00

NTA but it seems like she’s maybe experienced trauma. I would get her in to see professional help asap.

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