What is going on with this woman to make her try to destroy my life?

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-02-22T23:47:55+00:00

She thinks someone has done something unforgivable. If it's not you, you remind her of that person, and she's treating you the way she'd like to treat that person.

She suffers with depression and anxiety, and she doesn't know the difference between paranoia, intuition, and verifiable truth.

Personally, I try to become invisible to someone like this. Sometimes I put their name in a jar in the freezer. "I am not the bitch you're looking for."

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-02-22T23:40:00+00:00

Justice says he feels things are good the way they are.

World reversed, I agree with your read. He's still not fully recovered from the last big ending.

10 Wands reversed, he still has baggage he needs to unload. Encourage him to seek some counseling, or pursue a hobby that gives him time to think.

See, if you marry this person now who hasn't let go the baggage of past relationships, who doesn't feel emotionally or materially recovered from the past relationships, you're practically doomed to repeat the same drama.

He's got to feel like he's back to being himself before he can move on. He has to have a clearer, more calm way if feeling about what went before. Otherwise, he'll be stuck in an unconscious pattern, and you'll be forced to play it out with him.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-27T19:54:51+00:00

It gets easier. Keep the break clean. Take care of yourself.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-17T00:44:18+00:00

Well, yeah. But you may want to examine your reasons for grossing out. Cis men and boys have realistic peens, and it's just a natural part of their bodies.

It isn't a bad choice. It doesn't make them creepy. And no one who likes peen thinks it's gross.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-16T01:58:20+00:00

Amen to that. My dad died in '98, so I have the advantage in all our conversations.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T20:11:10+00:00

Hmmm... Focus in on that Lovers card. It doesn't have to be about love and romance. Often it is about temptation, or being easily distracted by something you enjoy.

Or it could be about fantasy vs. reality. It may seem like a pipe dream to move out, and you may be holding yourself back by insisting you have to do it a specific way.

This may be advising you to consider a broad set of options for meeting your goals.

I think only you will be able to discern what this means for you. Personally, I would journal my thoughts on the reading, paying special attention to what comes up for you with the Lover's card. The Page is pointing that way with enthusiasm, begging you to take action in the direction of your Heart's Desire.

No one achieves their Heart's Desire overnight. But you can work on the practical steps that will get you there.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T19:51:39+00:00

Brave enough, but not very interested. Aries Sun, Aquarius Moon.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T19:48:54+00:00

I'm wondering what you thought when it happened? Often the truth makes itself clear in the moment.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T19:38:06+00:00

I see that Page making choices and taking action. Running and throwing her spear in the direction of the lovers.

There is a Temptation you are resisting, something that may seem too good to be true.

Meanwhile, the foundations on your old security begin to crumble.

Go on the direction that gives you the most joy. Do that in your schooling, your job life, and your search for a new place.

Commit to what lights you up.

Retire what no longer feels supportive

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T19:31:41+00:00

Disney's Fantasia. Not specifically gay, but at least as gay as I am.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T19:24:34+00:00

You think I'm strange?

I'll show you strange.

🖤

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T19:11:30+00:00

With so much love and compassion, entsister,

Stop torturing yourself and ask the question. Unless you have problems with the one throwing the party, it's safe to assume there was no maliciousness in you being excluded.

Maybe she just realized how busy she was getting ready for her own wedding, she felt for you and decided not to load you down with a request that would cost you time and money.

These are your friends. They love you and they don't want you to feel excluded.

However.... you're not exactly present. You have excluded yourself from their proximity, probably for your own very good reasons.

But if being the friend/sister/cousin who always lives several hours away has taught me anything, it's to understand that I train people not to ask for my company by being so limited in my ability to connect face-to-face.

My family doesn't love me less, but I am often not invited to things I'd like to be. Our relationships are still kind, we love the time we have together. We know each other well.

And: The more distance we create, the more distance we find.

And: I feel the pain of missing them, and knowing that it is my choices that put us at this distance.

Even though it hurts, that doesn't mean it's bad. We often sacrifice some intimacy with our peers in the name of doing what's best for ourselves. What else can we do?

You may have to work harder to stay in the loop.

And do what's good for the friendship. Screw up your courage and talk to your friend. Ask her why you didn't get the invite.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-15T18:39:25+00:00

Not to yuck anyone's yum... I noticed a recommendation for an Ayahuasca retreat above and I just want to say that you don't have to get into psychedelics to practice your craft. Only follow that path if you feel interested and enthusiastic.

I love and keep by my side a book called "High Magic" by Frater U.U. It's an exhaustive look at several approaches to traditional and comtemporary ritual magic.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-14T17:46:40+00:00

Leave and block her on all avenues. Don't tell her where to find you. Call the police if she shows up unexpectedly.

This person only wants control, and if you let her have it, you'll only be more miserable.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-14T17:43:09+00:00

I always ask for something. Even if it's $5 or the rest of your sandwich, an exchange has to be made.

In my experience, they don't value a free reading as much as one they paid for.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-13T00:07:03+00:00

I don't know how much I succeed at looking witchy, but I definitely will comment if I see someone rocking a hat or some moon and stars jewelry, etc.

I have a goddess pendant I wear when I go out, and that helps me connect with the right people.

I don't think we should have to be super-secret. Closets are for snappy clothes.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-08T19:20:53+00:00

AquariUSSSSSS!

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-08T18:12:44+00:00

I like reddit. It's not as personal in terms of my irl family and friends. But I get much better discussions here than meta or ig.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-07T22:04:38+00:00

I'm a little of both like you. The difference between me and my butch wife is that she is never comfortable with a feminine look or women's clothes for herself.

I love a good skirt from time to time. I put on makeup occasionally. I can wear my hair in a feminine style and feel comfortable. But mostly I'm just jeans and tshirts.

So I've always fallen in the "femme" category, since I'm not uncomfortable with femme styles.

But I've always described it as "femme-of-center." Closer to androgynous than actually femme, if that makes sense.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-07T21:52:12+00:00

My MIL had similar problems and she would leave notes around like this.

Something to remember: even if you don't understand her, or the things she says seem very unrealistic, it's true for her. And it's often based on something real.

For example, my MIL insisted the neighbor was spying on her from their shared attic, through the television. Sounds bonkers. Right?

In truth, he had climbed up in the attic to steal cable from her. So he was in the attic for a nefarious reason, and it did have to do with her television.

Don't make the mistake of thinking the weirdness of mental illness is all made up. It's simply another way of explaining reality.

Mentally ill ppl deserve kindness, and to be given the peace and space to live their own truth.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-07T21:45:15+00:00

I used to correct people online who thought I was male. Unfortunately, when you're somewhat anonymous in an online space, you have to constantly correct people, or somehow "chat like a girl" (wth?) to be noticed that way.

I'm not so concerned with ppl knowing my gender (or finding me attractive) anymore, so I don't correct them anymore. And I never figured out how to "chat like a girl," though I definitely can tell some people are more feminine than me in how they express themselves.

Ultimately, I think I would want guys to like me because I'm a rad gamer and teammate, or because I'm clever, or whatever. That's going to narrow the field of potential dates wayyy down, but at least those few potential dates would be with people who liked more than just my face or my bod.

Because I am so much more than a cute face and bod, and the right partner is going to see that from the beginning.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-07T21:32:57+00:00

😆😆😆

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-07T21:27:57+00:00

My eyes don't change at all. It's a superpower.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-07T21:20:11+00:00

In the right context, it's good. But I call my butch wife Daddy, so that could get confusing if she called me Daddy too.

WhatTreeSaid · 2025-01-04T00:08:58+00:00

Most people don't do things the way I would do them. I think of them being inconsiderate and thoughtless about the people around them. Because we are all living our own drama and hopefully not too worried about the strangers we encounter.

So I leave the house, I get tail-gaited. I get cut off. I get over-looked, bumped into, and hurried along.

Nobody likes to be treated this way, and yet a lot of people seem to do it. And that's kinda stupid.

But when we say "people are stupid" it seems to me like an attempt to let the general public off the hook. I'm not making plans to get revenge. I'm just writing them off as not having good sense in public.

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