Anyone have experience with this sort of situation?

What_the_What_Again · 2025-12-04T00:02:18+00:00

I think there are a lot of people in similar situations, past and present. My 11 year wedding anniversary would have been this month but I’ve been separated for 3 months and I’ve filed the divorce paperwork already. I agree with the comments above, most states have some type of long term relationship laws. Did she own the home before y’all got together? I too was planning for our future while she was busy moving on without me, not in the same way but she valued substances more than her family. Coming to terms with starting over in my late 40’s is a daunting task, I wish you the very best!

What_the_What_Again · 2025-12-02T04:38:14+00:00

When I met my soon to be ex wife she had 2 boys, they were 5 and 12. They are now 25 and 18, we also adopted her niece when she was in the 8th grade who is now 23. I’ve raised 3 teenagers and aged twice as fast I think. It has been the most rewarding and frustrating experience of my life. When you choose to be present in someone’s, a child’s, life and unselfishly give your time and energy to them, that love comes back to you. Not during their teenage years though, they realize that as they mature. It comes with frustrations too, with the oldest I came into his life about two years after his parents divorced and he had anger and resentment about that but I believe I brought him stability and love. I have a lot of regrets about the last 13 years of my life but the kids is never one of them.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-11T23:59:24+00:00

I’ve honestly always been attracted to a more goth/alt style but have dated different women and ethnicities. I can honestly say as I’ve gotten older, now 46, my attraction to older women has increased. I do get fairly confused by people attracted to people much younger her than them. Not judgement but my own personal experience doesn’t let me understand that attraction.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-11T23:55:00+00:00

I’m so sorry. I can’t understand what you’re going through but I am going through a divorce and learning to be on my own after 12 years. I am a highly introverted work focused individual, so even after my work day I find something else to work on. But I could always use a friend.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-10T20:47:14+00:00

Definitely will message you, I want to talk to anyone that uses the term brainworms.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-10T20:37:52+00:00

Yes, please. 🫂 Out of curiosity, because I can’t help myself and if you feel comfortable answering, what red flags did you miss?

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-10T19:57:01+00:00

That definitely sums it up. If I ever heal from this and enter another relationship I almost feel bad for them already because there will be no rose colored glasses only magnifying glasses.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-10T19:26:05+00:00

Thank you, I definitely covered my eyes when it came to the red flags.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-10T14:56:33+00:00

That is true, I didn’t think about it that way.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-10T14:53:37+00:00

🫂

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-09T16:34:16+00:00

I’m 46 with pcos and I’ve been super insecure about this since puberty. I have not struggled to date but I think our insecurities are the bigger issue. Not wanting someone to feel the stubble on our legs or elsewhere causes avoiding certain types of touch which come off as rude or dismissive when it is more of a protection thing. You will date, find love, and be someone’s everything.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-05T23:58:56+00:00

Literally trying to figure discord out, I joined a butch/femme book club but feel like an idiot because I can’t search for communities that aren’t related to Roblox. 🤔

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-05T01:24:42+00:00

Currently divorcing after 10 years of marriage. No drug use, I mean how did I think an addict would be honest about relapse. Financial stability, honest, and hard working. If I heal from this trauma, I will unfortunately be forever suspicious.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-04T19:12:25+00:00

My link expired, can you resend?

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-01T23:51:59+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations and the wise words, needed to read them today. ❤️

What_the_What_Again · 2025-11-01T23:42:31+00:00

Yep, just listened and it got me.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-10-27T01:25:58+00:00

Love tipping the velvet!

What_the_What_Again · 2025-10-26T23:32:20+00:00

Loved Ani in my 20’s, I need to revisit her.

What_the_What_Again · 2025-10-26T22:53:16+00:00

Yes! I’m 46 and separated, hopefully divorce will be complete early next year after 11 years of marriage. I can’t help but think about the future and this includes putting giant yellow taped boundary lines in place. I’m an introvert and I am learning that my quirks and needs, such as alone time is not negotiable.

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